To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious

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MIL has just dropped off 10 easter eggs each to my 3 DCs (we maintained social distancing, she left them at the end of the path).

Now dont get me wrong, I am greatful, but 10 each? Really? I think this is not only overzealous, it also undermines me. I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

I have allowed my DCs to choose one egg each from the pile to go with the eggs they have already received, and the rest will be dropped off at the local food bank next week. DH thinks I am being unreasonable, and has gone upstairs in a huff Happy Easter hey?

AIBU?

Wow mine only got one big one each from the Easter bunny, dd7 got an l.ol and some bath bombs from me and DP and DS 12 got Apple iTunes voucher and some bath bombs from me and DP and they did an Easter egg hunt. We’ve learnt from previous years when they got loads and never ended up eating them. So the last 3 years this is what we’ve done.

When my mum was alive she stopped giving eggs and gave a gift instead at the request of a family member . We liked the idea as well, the amount ds was getting would last him till next Easter. We asked mil to do the same. Initially she was a bit put out, but then she enjoyed doing it, especially little craft projects that could be kept. We did give him a little egg but he was very young and didn't really care.

They're obviously not going to be able to eat them all in one day. As kids we got more fun out of eking them out. One girl in my street who was a lot less greedy than me and DSIS could still have hers in bloody August.

There were dozens in sale in shops this week, so I doubt DMIL has deprived other DG's across the land.

How bloody mean of you! Poor dc!

Chocolate doesn't go off for ages, just spread them out, bake stuff using them with dc etc. Giving away their eggs is horrible.

To the ‘you can’t steal your child’s chocolate’ crowd. When I grew up it was considered normal practise to ask the parent before offering a child sweets. ‘ is she allowed?’ Was always addressed to the parents before giving something to a child. If the answer was yes, just one, then that was respected. I can’t believe the MIL has forgotten those standards.

Nobody is suggesting all 10 eaten today but assuming that the children have eggs from parents and other grandparents too, who has the kitchen cupboard space and will to police this stash?

This is MN- people scold others for giving kids fruit because it contains sugar or cereal (empty calories) but give children 1/4-1/2 egg a day?

We don't know that he does think that. But he wasn't given the opportunity to discuss it. maybe he'd have suggested keeping half of them, or done the reasonable thing and discussed it with the kids too.
But no, his wife decided unilaterally, and because he loves his Mum, he's offended that a) he wasn't consulted and b) that his wife is undermining his Mum to the kids by refusing to let them accept her gifts (and presumably making it clear to the kids that she doesn't like his mum).

A) He needs to grow the fuck up
B) The mil isn't being undermined because she isn't the DC's parent. She doesn't make decisions over and above the op and or her DH. (Which he sounds incapable of).

@Fruitsaladjelly The children have 2 parents, maybe the DP did say yes. Remember the DP thinks OP is being totally out of order. This is not a decision that has been made by both parents or through negotiation.

FFS it's hardly 'grotesque'!!
Bet the kids were over the moon!!!

Yes it's a little excessive but come on it's only chocolate.

"Is no one parenting anymore?" It's shocking, honestly. The kids seem to rule the roost. Hell would have frozen over before I was allowed 10 easter eggs. No wonder there are so many entitled twats in the world

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I do agree with you, but you and DH are a parenting team. Therefore you need to reach a compromise. Perhaps keep half? One today and the rest (extremely) spread out over the course of a few days. Might be a nice treat for them while they are stuck in isolation.

Surely one egg is un oeuf..?

That had me in stitches!!

You just stash them in the bottom of a wardrobe. It's not like you have a feature wall of eggs in the sitting room.

Here's a suggestion. Get the DC to write little notes and drop the eggs at houses if older people or people with rainbows in their windows.

This is MN- people scold others for giving kids fruit because it contains sugar or cereal (empty calories) but give children 1/4-1/2 egg a day?

I'm guessing if OP says they can have one egg they will be having it over 2 days in the case of the 10yo.

Just use common sense the eggs in the mugs contain hardly anything as I said melt it down you have less than half a Cadbury's single
Chocolate bar.
Break half an egg into little pieces and split between the 3 probably equivalent to half a square of Cadbury's.

Are you aware that atrocious means ‘horrifyingly wicked’ OP? Get a grip.

She sounds bonkers
YANBU

“ this isn’t love, it’s abuse “

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This thread. Popping in every so often for a chuckle.

Your MIL is an idiot and 10 eggs per child from one grandparent is clearly ridiculous and controlling on her part. She needs to back off and stop interfering so much.

I’d use this as an opportunity to talk about children living in poverty and definitely donate then to the nearest food bank, shelter or women’s aid.

I’d also make sure she knew you’d done this with them and that next time she chooses to ignore your wishes, you will have to carefully consider what suitable consequences to apply.

My grandson drew a picture and sent me a nice video today. I didn’t send him an egg as we don’t live nearby. There’s just no need for such excess.

who’s got enough spare cupboard space to store 30 bloody Easter

If you tele them out of the boxes and break the chocolate and put they won't take up much space.

Anyway feed your kids loads of chocolate apparently it doesnt make them fat, must be all the salad

Rationing out the chocolate over a period of weeks does not make children fat.

Yanbu. HTH.

I regularly take away presents and chocolate given from the in laws and give them to charity/others before they reach the children. Not the thoughtful ones, the occasional chocolate etc, I’m taking about the junk and excess that they give almost compulsively as an alternative to just enjoying the lovely relationship they have. A relationship I generally encourage in all its forms, and one way of protecting the relationship includes preventing children associating the grandparents solely with gifts, and from being so overwhelming with stuff that they take it for granted.

If the DH is saying yes 10 eggs is fine then it sounds like the OP’s firm stance is indeed required and why does he get to make that decision without her input. No sensible responsible parent would conclude 10 eggs from a single giver is appropriate, it teaches completely unrealistic expectations, why does mil feel the need to out do other family, some children don’t receive 10 eggs in total let alone from one giver. As the op said they asked her to give one, MIL ignored.

Why does Easter always bring out the chocolate nazis?

Dc have 7 eggs each this morning, they managed one before putting the rest up. They might go back for a bit more later after dinner (they get a free pasa on today)

Dd is already planning what she's going to bake with her stash later in the week. We'd usually take some round to gp's.

Dd and ds are both very slim, eat well and funnily enough seem to survive having some chocolate spread out over a few weeks.

I've never kept treats from them due to how I was brought up. DM had a thing about 'bad' foods and we never had any treats in the house. No crisps, no biscuits, no puddings. She'd catsbum face at any party/wedding where we took more than one little sweet thing from the buffet. She was actually lovely despite this, she just had huge food issues herself.

The second I got my independence I binged on all those things. I am still struggling with food issues.

Dc have a much healthier relationship with food. They eat everything and they moderate themselves.

They have three eggs each from DH and I plus a small toy and various stickers/bubbles/pencils/seed packets, etc that we hid instead if an egg hunt because I couldn't get any of the small egg hunt eggs. Their auntie left a bag on the doorstep with two eggs each, so did FIL, and so did their uncle, FIL also left some Playdoh

Genuine question, what is wrong with one egg and a gift from each person, including you & your dp? (Forgetting the treasure hunt stuff). Why did you all buy more than one egg per child?

Its way too much but what a good opportunity to teach your kids about not needing to be greedy and the joy of giving to others. Thanks MIL

If the DH is saying yes 10 eggs is fine then it sounds like the OP’s firm stance is indeed required and why does he get to make that decision without her input

He doesn't. But then neither should OP be making any decisions without his input. They should be having a conversation and making a decision together. None of us actually know that the father of the three children has said he wants them to each have all 10 eggs. Perhaps his issue is that the decision was made without his opinion being considered.