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To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious

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garlicbread82 · 12/04/2020 09:27

MIL has just dropped off 10 easter eggs each to my 3 DCs (we maintained social distancing, she left them at the end of the path).

Now dont get me wrong, I am greatful, but 10 each? Really? I think this is not only overzealous, it also undermines me. I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

I have allowed my DCs to choose one egg each from the pile to go with the eggs they have already received, and the rest will be dropped off at the local food bank next week. DH thinks I am being unreasonable, and has gone upstairs in a huff Hmm Happy Easter hey?

AIBU?

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madcatladyforever · 12/04/2020 12:32

^Taking them away without their permission is theft*.

Again bollox - parents are there to actually parent. I'll give your kids some drugs shall I. Don't take them away from them, that would be theft.

OhCaptain · 12/04/2020 12:33

Yeah, except drugs are illegal and dangerous and chocolate eggs are chocolate.

This is hilarious 😂😂😂

VeganVeal · 12/04/2020 12:34

10 eggs? No wonder why kids are so fat these days. In my day we only used to have one fat kid in our class, now its the norm.

pjmask · 12/04/2020 12:35

Do not donate your children eggs to the food bank, they are theirs. Limit them to whatever you think is acceptable at the weekends until they are gone but don't give them away, they aren't yours to give

Megan2018 · 12/04/2020 12:37

@VeganVeal Neither me or by brother have been fat, we are both 40’s and don’t have any fillings either and we ate a fuckton of eggs as children.
I’ve had 1.5 myself today. It’s not crack!

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 12/04/2020 12:37

YANBU - 10 eggs each is grotesque!

Fruitsaladjelly · 12/04/2020 12:38

Depends how you view sugar, there is plenty who believe refined sugar is as addictive as cocaine (including me) I have terrible issues with sugar and weight issues due to allowing myself to over indulge. I consider keeping an eye on chocolate /sugar consumption to be good parenting. This idea that you can’t take a child’s property is complete nonsense. Is no one parenting anymore?

LoveIsLovely · 12/04/2020 12:38

"You are atrocious and if you were my mother I would never forget this. See major issues when they are adults and remember this."

Over easter eggs?

Jesus wept.

OhCaptain · 12/04/2020 12:39

Yes but you can keep an eye on consumption without giving them all away.

Again, they don’t have to sit and eat them all in one go. Confused

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 12/04/2020 12:39

Do all you frothers understand that the children don’t actually have to sit and eat ten eggs in a row

Exactly. We still have Christmas chocolate in and it will continue to last us a while. Ditch the packages, break the eggs down and they won’t take up much storage space and ration as you see fit. Far better than showing the children they don’t get to keep their own gifts, they will remember that for a long time.

saraclara · 12/04/2020 12:39

But he's obviously not got any sense if he thinks 10 eggs from one person, on top of all their other eggs, is acceptable

We don't know that he does think that. But he wasn't given the opportunity to discuss it. maybe he'd have suggested keeping half of them, or done the reasonable thing and discussed it with the kids too.
But no, his wife decided unilaterally, and because he loves his Mum, he's offended that a) he wasn't consulted and b) that his wife is undermining his Mum to the kids by refusing to let them accept her gifts (and presumably making it clear to the kids that she doesn't like his mum).

saoirse31 · 12/04/2020 12:40

I think you and your mil are v unreasonable. Her with the eggs and you with your ' oh the DC could do with shoes and a book' for xmas, thereby trying to ensure she doesnt get the chance to choose a personal gift for her gc.

You do sound quite controlling esp over food ie re one egg only and give away the rest and also re your dh. But only you know if that's the case or not.

If I was you I'd let them keep a few more each and use them over a long period of time. I'd also try and ensure your poor kids dont have to endure an Easter Sunday with you and your dp being annoyed with each other.

Pogmella · 12/04/2020 12:40

@Fruitsaladjelly a few lines of cocoa off the back of our toilet cistern in the afternoon keeps me on top form with DC, what’s the issue?

Ginnyrellas · 12/04/2020 12:40

I’m interested to know how the children feel about this?
How the MIL may feel about her gift and money being just given away after imagining the joy on her grandchildren’s faces.
The only thing that seems to matter is what the OP feels and fuck everyone else.

LoveIsLovely · 12/04/2020 12:41

"Is no one parenting anymore?"

It's shocking, honestly. The kids seem to rule the roost. Hell would have frozen over before I was allowed 10 easter eggs. No wonder there are so many entitled twats in the world.

HarrySnotter · 12/04/2020 12:41

I'm a little puzzled by anyone thinking the children would be given these to eat all at the one time. Even if the OPs husband is happy for the DCs to have them (though it appears he has no say anyway), very much doubt that he would allow his children to sit and gorge 10 Easter eggs at the one time. Even if he does eat 2 Big Macs at a time (so would my marathon running, superfit DH).

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 12/04/2020 12:41

Rationing over a few weeks is what you do if kids have got six eggs each from combination of GPs, Aunts / Uncles, parents and Easter Bunny. Not from one Granny who is very out of order!

nellythenarwhal · 12/04/2020 12:41

It is bonkers behaviour. Imagine if every grandparent and the parents gifted the kids 10 eggs each! Of course MIL is missing the kids but 99.9% of kids would be over the moon with 2 eggs each and don't need a mountain just from one person. Everybody is missing their families- the person who gifts 10 isn't missing the kids more than another grandparent who gifts l egg.

Imagine the cupboard space taken for these eggs... Lots of replies mentioned rationing the eggs all year but why would the op want extra work? I have kids who'd be constantly nicking chocolate- did anybody see that pic of a chocolate egg eaten by mice ? I dread to think how many mice you'd end up with storing 27.

I think it's a bit mean to limit the kids to keeping 1 egg but I'd be donating at least 21 of the 30. (I assume other people like the parents have bought too and that the kids are at least primary aged. ) Here there are community projects where someone could get the egg today.

OhCaptain · 12/04/2020 12:43

No wonder there are so many entitled twats in the world.

I know! Imagine thinking you can just take what doesn’t belong to you, decide what to do in your household without even consulting the other person, and control what another adult eats!

Still, it takes all sorts...

notchickenagain · 12/04/2020 12:43

Have to laugh at the adjectives. Grotesque? Atrocious? What do people call things that really are grotesque and atrocious? What's wrong with 'excessive' Smile

madcatladyforever · 12/04/2020 12:43

And......because this is a subjkect very close to my heart - yes and thank you veganveal - exactly what I'm saying.

I adored my lovely kind grandmother, she was my life but the very worst gift she gave me was obesity and letting me eat whatever I wanted. Directly against my mother's express wishes. When I was with my single parent mum all the time I was never fat.

As a result I got diabetes and had to have a very major operation to lose weight, I have to take vitamins for life, I'm often now sick when I eat anything.

And I have to have more very expensive surgery on a loan to get rid of the loose skin. I'd do anything to go back in time and have my lovely, lithe, healthy, beautiful body back.

This isn't love it's abuse, people think giving a child 10 eggs is love, it isn't, neither is stuffing them with sweets all over christmas, or giving them sweets and junk food all the time.

I work in the NHS and was at one point a childrens nurse, I have never seen so many really fat kids as I do now, many of whom have had to have every tooth in their head removed because they have rotted away with sweets.

I've met kids who can't walk to the end of the road without collapsing because all they do is sit and look at a screen, they don't play or do anything outdoors, they don't do sports.

I loved you grandma but you gave me a lifetime of pain and given my time again I wish I'd never spent those holidays with you.

Original poster
garlicbread82 · 12/04/2020 12:43

DH has now decided to make an appearance just as I have put lunch in the oven, after going off in one of his huffs upstairs...Hmm Toddler DC is still having a meltdown since he saw the easter bunny MIL with the bulging bag of eggs...give me strength Shock According to some people, DH is planning to ride off into the sunset with a more "warm-hearted" woman all because of his MIL's inability to follow basic instructions...some people Angry

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Coulddowithanap · 12/04/2020 12:45

How many children will sit and eat Easter eggs all day? Maybe some of you need to teach your kids not too if you think they will eat 10 in one go.

HarrySnotter · 12/04/2020 12:45

I should add that I think that amount of eggs is bloody ridiculous and no I wouldn't be happy about it but I would encourage my DCs to make the right decisions about donating them and explain why, rather than just taking them from them.

Wannabangbang · 12/04/2020 12:47

I think it's rather generous of your mil and maybe you could space them out so they are not all eaten at once. If not send them all to me lol GrinGrin

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