To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious

[garlicbread82]

MIL has just dropped off 10 easter eggs each to my 3 DCs (we maintained social distancing, she left them at the end of the path).

Now dont get me wrong, I am greatful, but 10 each? Really? I think this is not only overzealous, it also undermines me. I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

I have allowed my DCs to choose one egg each from the pile to go with the eggs they have already received, and the rest will be dropped off at the local food bank next week. DH thinks I am being unreasonable, and has gone upstairs in a huff Happy Easter hey?

AIBU?

I don't really like milk chocolate so I tend to think of Easter Eggs as not being particularly nice, so personally I wouldn't want 10.

They're going to be locked down for a good number of weeks still. Let them have 1 each per week, then at the end have an end of lockdown party with rice crispy cakes made from the remaining eggs.

My kids have had 15 eggs each. Should I take them to the food bank too?

At least you don’t have to put up with your neighbours using your driveway to hide Easter eggs for a hunt. 2 different neighbours have done it so far this morning. One even hid some behind my bins which are as far onto the front of my property as you can get! Excuse my language but it’s fucking weird to hide chocolate on other people’s private property. One was even on the tyre of someone else’s car under the hood bit. They’d done it all over the street going through people’s gates if they were unlocked (I’ve been sat at my front window and can hardly ignore). Everyone has large gardens and houses so I really don’t see the need. Easter doesn’t give you a free pass to trespass.

10 eggs each is very excessive and unhealthy for children imo. Admittedly I would eat 10 myself though🤣

Steal? lmao! this thread is gold Maybe you don't understand, the children were given gifts, they belong to the children not the OP. Taking them away without their permission is theft. then trotting off to the foodbank to act like Lady Bountiful with something that doesn't belong to you is downright offensive.

What are the children learning from this? Why not let them sit there today and tomorrow, when they will be full of chocolate, suggesting to them that it might be nice to donate them to children who haven't had any eggs. Then let the children choose what they want to donate. That is actually a very positive lesson, stealing their eggs isn't.

@DartmoorChef Jealous of what? Her inability to listen to simple instructions?

My kids have had 15 eggs each. Should I take them to the food bank too? Not unless the kids want you to.

My kids have had 15 eggs each. Should I take them to the food bank too?

If you want to, you’re their parent. 😉

It is a lot and if your children understand others don't have much maybe keep half donate half ? This one incidence isn't too bad my mil didn't bother often to get my kids eggs but did other grandchildren that is worse , but I'm guessing this is probably not the only incident that has bothered you

10 eggs each is a bit excessive, but I'd definitely let them keep more than one each. Nice gesture to donate them to the food bank but a bit mean if the children have already seen them.

taking something that belongs to the child and giving it away isn't OK. My MIL used to do this with my husband when he was a child, the result is he is a hoarder, took him years to acknowledge he was a hoarder and what the cause was. In many ways it has blighted his life

I think that's a really interesting point. If the kids had ended up with a ridiculous amount of eggs, then talking about it as a family and letting them play a part in deciding what to do do with them all, would have been far better.
They'd have had a say, and maybe been able to make their own generous gesture to others, rather than having the control taken away from them. It would certainly have been psychologically healthier, as well as inculcating generosity of spirit.

You sound really miserable and ungrateful. Why do you have to see the gift as undermining you? Why can’t it just be a lovely treat for the children? I can’t believe so many people here agree with you. I’m not a grandmother yet but I really hope I’m allowed to buy as many gifts and extravagant treats as I want when and if I do become a grandma. Why does everything need to be a competition or a personal insult?

Can't you just save them. And give them to them gradually. Chocolate lasts for ages. Yes it's excessive but she is probably sad she can't see them and has over compensated. I think you should keep them. And then also donate to the food bank seperatly

How old are the kids anyway?

But he's obviously not got any sense if he thinks 10 eggs from one person, on top of all their other eggs, is acceptable

In your opinion. Opinion is not fact. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@garlicbread82 tell me: was if worth it? If he’s sulking and you feel left to clean up the mess (whatever that means) was it worth ruining your kids’ Easter?

But now Easter for the kids is ruined because OP chose to get all po-faced and controlling instead of quietly putting most of them away until they BOTH decided what was best.

What absolute shit, the husband would let let gorge themselves stupid, there is absolutely NO WAY I'd have let my child when he was young plough through more than 10 eggs!!
I used to take him out on long bike rides and to adventure parks which he loved and a decent walk.
No wonder there are so many disgustingly fat children around now who can't move off the sofa without getting breathless.
As a result he has never been fat and can take or leave things like chocolate. He loves sport nand bike riding when there is no lock down.
He is less likely to die of type 2 diabetes, heart attack and stroke because he is fit.
My grandmother used to stuff me with food and sweets when I stayed there in the holidays, I'd come back quite frankly obese and would be on a diet for the rest of the year. My problems with food all stemmed from there - I adored my grandmother but she did me NO favours at all. I've had a lifelong relationship with binge eating and dieting and had to have bariatric surgery at 50 because I got diabetes which has now gone along with 10 stone.
I have only just paid off the loan for the surgery.
For all the people who would happily stuff their kids with more than 10 easter eggs each and McDonalds and other sundry crap that is the future you are giving them.
To everyone who thinks the kids should be given the eggs and that OP has "ruined" easter (they are probably not even christians) you are LOUSY PARENTS whose kids will be a burden on the NHS forever.

So right now the Op is sitting in lockdown with at least 30 large Easter wages and, by the sounds of it, even more from others.

How is that helpful?

It's just another example of pointless mass consumption that doesn't make anyone happy or happier.

@Bookoffacts Do you give away their Christmas presents too.
You are atrocious and if you were my mother I would never forget this. See major issues when they are adults and remember this.
I think your husband should divorce you too over just this issue

Bit much, innit?

Lockdown getting to you, is it?

@madcatladyforever

Congratulations on your weight loss. As someone who has similarly struggled that's cheered me up. Well done you

Lol @madcatladyforever slightly triggered there!

Point me in the direction of the post that says the children should be allowed to gorge on all ten Easter eggs and McDonalds (which is closed).

Your unhealthy obsession with food and exercise isn’t relevant to normal, level-headed people with healthy attitudes around food.

So you get to decide how many eggs a child can have and judge other parents. Is that a paid position or do you do it on a voluntary basis?

Yes, I do judge people that think 10 eggs from one person is acceptable. So fucking what? I'm right. It's excessive.

OP is very controlling and her reprehensible behaviour has ruined her family's easter.

I am totally on the husbands side.
She has NO RIGHT to steal the children's gifts.

@Bookoffacts were they all from the same person though? If each of the people who gifted your dc an egg gave 10 how many would they have then? And how mean would anyone who only gave one look? 10 from a single person teaches children a totally unrealistic expectation and just overshadows those who don’t decide to go completely mad (Including the Op) . Does mil think the more stuff means you love them more ? Is the idea that material stuff is a measure of love an idea you’d want seeded in your child’s mind? I know I wouldn’t.

Meh, I couldn't get upset over this - you are giving her way too much power over your feelings. Just say thanks, and as you say take them to a food bank - or use them for baking. Honestly if this (including the christmas presents) is the worst thing she does then just cut her some slack. Or are you one of those people that delights in the misogynist trope that mother-in-laws are at best a disposable annoyance and at worst an evil witch?

Disgusting and gluttonous.
Well done on you for saying only one!

Do all you frothers understand that the children don’t actually have to sit and eat ten eggs in a row?

Do you get that they can keep some for later - months from now, even?

Because you really don’t seem to...