Report neighbours with grown up children visiting?

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My neighbours have both their grown up children plus partners seemingly staying for the easter weekend.
It makes a change that the neighbourhood are not having to put up with their usual excessive drinking, loud music and loud sweary, crude converstions that generally go on every time the sun comes out and they all come round, maybe they think if they are quiet then nobody will notice?
Why do they think the advice about not travelling to see family over the holiday weekend doesn't apply to them?
Would you report them to the police?

Devlesko

Have you really not got your own life OP? really nothing better to do than spy on neighbours

Of course the OP has a life, one that they want to keep, no thanks to each and every person breaking the guidelines.
Clearly you're another one who doesnt care about the lives of NHS staff either.

Yes, it’s selfish, but it’s their own family and loved ones that they are risking.

I’d rather leave police time to deal with increased domestic violence than giving the neighbours a stern telling off (and it would easy enough for them to lie their way out of it anyway).

Yes agreed but as people including yourself likened it to what was happening in war time I think it is worth pointing out you cannot know for definite what peoples motives and reasons are for their various coming and goings. And it is very easy to justify any kind of reporting on the neighbours in a look at me doing my bit for the good of everyone else even if the motive is actually far more for your own satisfaction than anything else.

Yes, it’s selfish, but it’s their own family and loved ones that they are risking

No its not, they are also risking all the people they will come into contact with, including NHS staff like me and all my nurse colleagues, and paramedics like my daughter in law.

The phrase I hate most in the world is “you don’t know the circumstances.” Of course there are (very rare) times when it could be explained, but for the most part it really isn’t and is purely a case of people just feeling that the rules shouldn’t apply to them.

I have a family member who believes this is all a fuss over nothing and has been happily swanning about, and when she was waiting for something another family member was going to give her and said that he would but it would have to be after this was all over she drove round to his house, despite him being vulnerable, and was surprised when he opened the door wearing a mask and didn’t let her in.

Last night somewhere behind my house there was a group of lads laughing and chatting and smoking weed (you could clearly smell it) and if I’d known where they were I bloody well would have reported them without conscience.

Not sure I could be bothered to report the neighbours, but I wouldn’t go anywhere near any of them for a long time.

Please please please just mind your own business. You don't know what it going on with other people. Please just concentrate and yourself and your family

I'm trying not to look at what my neighbours are doing tbh, it's killing me not seeing adult DSC and our DGS and knowing others are just pleasing themselves would be the icing on a pretty shitty cake for me.

Oh come on everyone knows that all these people don’t suddenly have masses of visitors because there are exceptional circumstances.

If they were having a bbq with friends would you say the same? Or a party? “You don’t know the circumstances” is the oldest excuse in the book for thinking people should be able to do what the hell they like.

And the longer people keep doing these kinds of things the more likely it is that the rules will be tightened so people are not allowed to e.g. leave their properties.

I maybe skewed because I have experienced it from the other side, but like so much else this was more for the 5 minutes of facebook fame. Where I am (large city) buses have gone to every hour and a half, so I am having to walk to work. It's a fairly long walk and part of it is through a park/along a cycle path. I stopped and sat on a bench for a 5 minute breather and some curtain twitcher promptly took a picture which turned up on the local Facebook page with a host of others of people sat on that bench throughout the day, some single people a few couples and one or two groups that might have been family. It isn't really a place where you would congregate its very much a place where u stop for a rest on your way to or from a busy shopping high street. But that thought obviously didn't enter curtain twitchers head such was their desire to get a number of likes and well done huns.

It's flout NOT flaunt!

If everyone flouted the rules, the lockdown would be extended and arrests would have to be made. Either politely say something to your neighbours about the current "instructions" or leave them be.

Also my tolerance for people their behaviour and what is important is currently at an all time low. This week in work, I have had 2 colleagues go home in tears because of the abuse they have received, I have been called a fucking cunt because there was only one person serving in the cigarette kiosk (cant have 2 because of social distancing) and seen the colleague doing mark downs have people descend on him like vultures, then screamed at by other shoppers that I am not making them keep 2 metres. And lets not forget all those that finish their shop then chuck their gloves and masks on the floor for someone else to pick up.

I want to report my neighbour. Never thought I'd be the type to do so, but she has relatives coming & going regularly, right now there's a guy out in her garden painting her shed. Last Saturday they had a barbeque, at least 10 people.

I live in a house divided into 2 separate flats. Own front doors but to get in here there's a main communal door and area. I'm here with DCs we are self-isolating, being careful with social distancing generally but really, what's the point? She doesn't give a fuck about risk. She's the nosiest neighbour on our road always something to say about others. But it's ok for her to flout guidelines, it seems.

I won't report her as I doubt anything will be done. But (keeping my distance) I'm going to have it out with her. I'm not putting up with her shitty behaviour. It's a shame as we get on well but her actions now are a real eye-opener

I don't live with my DP, we've not seen each other for 3 weeks. We're choosing not to mix households. Yet selfish idiots out there who lack control decide just like that, same rules don't apply to them. People can fuck off with their snitches & grasses bullshit, it's ok for you if you've no-one around you being stupid about what's happening in the world now. As far as I'm aware, lockdown and social distancing isn't a game.

Your main reason for reporting them is to be spiteful to them. That is not your best self to express.

Sweeney somebody reporting a neighbour having a barbecue is not putting that neighbour at risk of being dragged out of the house and being transported to a concentration camp.

I don't understand the thinking of people using your analogy to discourage reporting serious breaches of restrictions that could put other people's lives at risk.

They could have moved in long term. If they're just visiting, yes, it's out of order.

Alternative perception

It may be more unusual for people to have a genuine reason but it does happen. Just because there's a cross right now affecting everyone it doesn't mean that people aren't still having their own nightmares to work through. Infact dealing with deaths in the family is one thing more are probably going through.

My point remains....

Report if you wish
BUT do bear in mind you may not know the real circumstances.

My neighbours didn't and their judgement made a rubbish time for us feel even worse.

(fortunately they didn't get to the point of reporting officially)

I think the confusing thing is I hear friends in varous parts of the country say they were stopped and questioned by the police for being 'out', there are online postings by the police scanning the shops for 'non-essential' items being sold, and then myself and other people I know are seeing people blantanly breaking the rules daily and nothing is happening. So I guess it depends where in the country you are whether the rules are being strictly enforced or not.

Or rather if the rules are being enforced at all.

I would say yes and report them, wish I had the guts too as our neighbours are doing the same. Their oldest daughter appeared yesterday (who is pregnant) and her toddler, I was not curtain twitching, we have a four foot fence between our gardens so can quite easily see who is there. It makes it worse as the dad of the family was on Facebook yesterday morning complaining about people flouting the rules.then he goes and picks daughter up (she lives 12 miles away).

Although your neighbours sound like selfish shits, I’d leave it.

There’s the tiniest chance they are dealing with something shitty.

The police are busy and their time would be better spent breaking up gatherings of 10+ people or dealing with crime.

It is gutting that people ignore the rules or don’t think the rules apply to them but it’s better overall to let this go.

No one likes a snitch

Bollocks. There are times when it takes real bravery to speak up and say who has committed a crime etc.

12:14Howfar12

No one likes a snitch

Absolute fucking rubbish. This is about saving lives, your opinion is selfish and pathetic in the climate we are up against just now. Maybe if more people had reported the ever increasing amount of NHS staff that have died because of Covid 19 would still be alive. Disgusting.

Our neighbours has their grown up son and grandson visit. I don’t understand how they think they are immune