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Report neighbours with grown up children visiting?

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NameChange3667 · 10/04/2020 22:34

My neighbours have both their grown up children plus partners seemingly staying for the easter weekend.
It makes a change that the neighbourhood are not having to put up with their usual excessive drinking, loud music and loud sweary, crude converstions that generally go on every time the sun comes out and they all come round, maybe they think if they are quiet then nobody will notice?
Why do they think the advice about not travelling to see family over the holiday weekend doesn't apply to them?
Would you report them to the police?

OP posts:
Scissorsnglue · 10/04/2020 23:06

I don't know what would happen if you reported it, especially if they are sweary-cunty types normally anyway.
If their chickens come home to roost you will know that their behaviour was, to some extent, responsible for their increased exposure.

Sometimeswinning · 10/04/2020 23:07

Ah report them. All these people accusing you of curtain twitching and nosing are probably breaking all the rules themselves!

LagunaBubbles · 10/04/2020 23:07

It's absolutely disgusting that me and all my colleagues in the NHS are risking our lives whilst some people are idiots and think they can do what they like, it's even worse that when people are thinking of reporting these people there is someone here that calls them "grasses". That's one of the vilest things I've read here and so disrespectful to everyone who has lost someone through Covid 19.

brownandpurple · 10/04/2020 23:10

I've got annoyed about people doing similar but I've come to the conclusion that the people they are most likely to impact negatively are their own loved ones. Visiting like this just puts them and anyone they care about at much greater risk, so I've decided to let them crack on and karma will probably catch up with them soon enough.

Mrsjayy · 10/04/2020 23:13

I dont thinkthe police will be able to do anything all they have to say they are self isolating together what could the police say ?

BogRollBOGOF · 10/04/2020 23:16

It's wrong, against the guidelines and the purpose of the social controls, but the reality is that reporting it is highly unlikely to result in action and unfortunately there's a mass of other worse contraventions that the police need to focus on in addition to the usual law and order issues continuing on.

TrentBridge · 10/04/2020 23:18

Oh FFS, it's not what you're meant to do, but seriously, report them? Are you 5 years old and someone took your apple? Perhaps there's a good reason behind it. Perhaps there isn't. But you don't need to be a twat.

Rachie1973 · 10/04/2020 23:19

I must admit I can see it’s selfish, but I always wondered why and how so many people became informers in Germany during the war. It seems a few well placed words hold a lot of power.

I’m still working as a support worker and I hate that I’m at risk and risking my DH every time I go to work.

Appiandterri · 10/04/2020 23:22

The police have no jurisdiction on this matter within a private dwelling
Are you op’s Neighbour Grin

www.met.police.uk/tua/tell-us-about/c19/tell-us-about-possible-breach-coronavirus-measures/

TheLadyAnneNeville · 10/04/2020 23:26

No. Don’t report them. Maybe, they were delivering groceries and medication, like Robert Jenrick MP.

midsomermurderess · 10/04/2020 23:28

It's flouting, you eejit, flouting.

Sadie789 · 10/04/2020 23:28

It’s flout not flaunt.

LastTrainEast · 10/04/2020 23:29

"The police have no jurisdiction on this matter within a private dwelling." yeah just like if you mug someone and run inside a house you are safe from the police lol.

I don't think it's worth reporting them, but these idiots are risking other people.

Whoknows11 · 10/04/2020 23:31

My neighbour has gone to stay with her partner for the weekend in the next town nearby. I'm horrified. She stood on her doorstep clapping last night!

I'm a nurse in the NHS and went to work today on Good Friday whilst my children went to school.

I'm trying so hard to not let the selfishness of some people get to me including her. It makes me so cross. But what do I say, she's my neighbour. I have to see her most days.

I don't get to see my family and risk my life going to work whilst she's drives 15 mike's to stay with her boyfriend! I'm just lost for words!!

Nuttyfellalovesnutella · 10/04/2020 23:31

I wouldn’t report. The police have better things to do than questioning people for having their family visit.

You can’t control other people’s behaviour so for your own overall mental health, it’s probably best to stop worrying about what others are doing and just make sure you look after your family and yourself.

Smileyaxolotl1 · 10/04/2020 23:33

rachie if you really can’t see the difference between people informing on innocent citizens who were then murdered due to their religion and people informing the authorities about people breaking the rules designed To help reduce deaths in a global pandemic then you must be an imbecile.

LastTrainEast · 10/04/2020 23:33

The problem with reporting is NOT that there's something reprehensible about reporting crimes, but that as with reporting benefit claimants you don't really know the circumstances.

rosesparkleysocks · 10/04/2020 23:34

Definitely report them.

This is a national crisis - 980 people died over the past day.

It's everyone's responsibility to listen and follow the advice of the experts.

Smileyaxolotl1 · 10/04/2020 23:39

rachie
I didn’t read the second part of your post or I wouldn’t have been quite so harsh but please think before making such an offensive comparison.

MargotB7 · 10/04/2020 23:40

*Sadie789

Suddenly a nation of curtain twitchers and snitches.*

Normally I would call people who are nosey neighbours but it's shit out there It's not normal circumstances, a lot of people are dying. Peoples actions are pissing people off because it's spreading the virus. I don't understand posters telling people to stop being nosey and get a life - are you the ones iigoring the rules?

catfeets · 10/04/2020 23:41

Report them. I have twats for neighbours and I can never have a window open and never go into my lovely garden, all because they are noisy and drunk all the time. I understand what it's like to have every single nice day or weekend ruined - it's hell.

I've reported mine several times as she didn't think they rules apply to her. Don't expect anything to happen though, neither my neighbour or her mates have had visits from the police over their social gatherings.

MargotB7 · 10/04/2020 23:41

Ignoring

Moomin12345 · 10/04/2020 23:44

Sure. The police must be so fed up with trying to solve murders and being called to a higher number of domestics because of the lockdown, so they'll appreciate another nosy time waster telling on their neighbours. In all seriousness, just move as the neighbour issues seem to be running deep.

IamMoana · 10/04/2020 23:47

My 84 year old neighbour has had her daughter, granddaughter and 3 great grandchildren visiting frequently. On a couple of occasions the kids have been left with her and are collected a few hours later without a care in the world. I also know a family splitting childcare between two sets of grandparents and a brother. There are most definitely two camps when it comes to the lockdown rules.

GabsAlot · 10/04/2020 23:50

people calling op a snitch- more like are you 5?

no lets just everyone have their family over and parties and get togethers -why not eh

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