Report neighbours with grown up children visiting?

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My neighbours have both their grown up children plus partners seemingly staying for the easter weekend.
It makes a change that the neighbourhood are not having to put up with their usual excessive drinking, loud music and loud sweary, crude converstions that generally go on every time the sun comes out and they all come round, maybe they think if they are quiet then nobody will notice?
Why do they think the advice about not travelling to see family over the holiday weekend doesn't apply to them?
Would you report them to the police?

@Wallawalla

Ffs mind you're own business!

It IS everyone's business! If they were only risking themselves then fine, crack on. But you seem to have missed the bit where this virus spreads outwith the family. 🙄

@NameChange3667

Hampshire council have a Covid section and an easy online report function. I imagine lots if others will too.

I guess it depends where you live if it's followed up or not, but it's worth trying. Stupid,selfish,idiots like this will cause lives to be lost - why do they think they're the exception to the rule?

Op can you play some music to drown them out.
Opera or classical music?I
I know this isn't the point but it reclaims your space.

😆Can just see everyone on this post like this

I struggle to understand the "live and let live" mentality of ignoring your neighbours' behaviour, when your neighbours' behaviour can quite directly lead to other people dying.

@AmelieTaylor if you keep your distance from your neighbours, stick to social distancing, wash your hands and only go out when ABSOLUTELY necessary etc etc, why are you concerned if your neighbours have guests? How is it your business what other people choose to do on their own private property?

I was sitting out in my garden yesterday and could quite clearly hear my neighbours out in their garden with their visiting son, dil and grandchild. No curtain twitching required.

Is this an English thing, the obsession with "private property" - your home is your castle etc?
Breaking the law applies wherever you do it. You can be fined for behaviour at home. Leaving aside the complete moral wasteland that is inside your head.
Lots of people are key workers and have to go out to work, coming into contact with someone like these neighbours means coming into contact with everyone they have been choosing to socialise with too.

@Scissorsnglue well I am not english, so no. You have no right to tell people what they can and cant do in their own home.

You are trying to control the actions of others. Everyone is quick to jump to conclusions of their neighbours flouting the rules because they see or hear behaviour which you deem as unacceptable but you dont know what goes on behind closed doors. Maybe the parents needed their children to do certain tasks for them. I am not excusing it because I dont agree with it, but I think mumsnet is a tribe of judgemental people who gather in mass to pass on their opinions in quite a forceful way. If someone disagrees with your belief or opinion you are literally spat at with harsh words or labelled as inconsiderate. Tbh I dont care what anyone thinks, I am passing them time in isolation because I am bored, but I dont agree with curtain twitchers, I dont agree with family visits but I am not going to sit on a high horse like many on here looking down and judging others

Happy Easter all! Stay safe and peace out!!!!

The OP didn't sound like this though jolly

Maybe 1 person round to do a task at a push not several

People are getting frustrated because they are playing the game and not flouting the rules. I miss my dps and my adult dcs and dgc but the greater good is more important

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My neighbours have both their grown up children plus partners seemingly staying for the easter weekend.

@Jollypolly999 you dont have to be english to have common sense.

If it was true that ppl are allowed to do whatever they want in their homes, then police wont be able to respond to domestic abuse, or murder or whatever because it was in a private property!!!!!!!! Nor will the environmental council be able to respond to noise reports.
The rules for social distancing applies, whether private property or not

I too dont agree with curtain twitching, nor judging ppl by the look of things

I'm not the one telling people what they can't do. The government and the police have told people. I believe they do have the right.
My dc haven't seen their granny for a month now. None of my friends have met up. I haven't seen or heard anyone call at the neighbours, and I know some of them anyway have adult dc who would normally be round. In the park I've seen dog walking and exercising but no groups meeting up at all. Maybe people where I live are just better at following the rules? Thank god some of us are or we are screwed.

It's not curtain twitching to be in your front garden weeding in the morning and the neighbour waves over 'See you later' as they load their car full of children and beach chairs or bikes and drive off pulling up again hours later to unload the car when I am putting out my bins that evening.

And it's not curtain twitching to be sitting in my back garden with DH and suddenly we hear a party next door of about 12 guests at the neighbours having lunch in their garden with music and bbq smells.

My 87 year old neighbour is not a key worker and is cleary going to the shop when I'm in my garden weeding and I can see her leave then come back 30 minutes later walking past me with a small bag with bread and a paper poking out. Then a woman blocks my drive as she drops off a bag of 'essentials' every couple days for the lady maybe not knowing that the lady actually goes out each morning herself.

I'm not being nosey these people are blantanly breaking the rules. I don't think it's policing what people do in their homes. The rules are for everyone but everyone is not following them and I don't see why that shouldn't be policed.

My neighbours also been having their grown up and younger grandchildren over. Meh.

Choose your battles wisely. They're fools but nothing to do with me

so MN - which is worse: being a curtain twitcher or being a Covidiot?

There’s only one way to find out.

FIGHT!

Agree that you only need to be out in your own garden in this fine weather to see many examples of pisstaking. I don't give a shit if people want to damage their own health. But you can bet your life they will infect other people, some of them the health workers they go to for treatment. It's no good standing clapping like overexcited seals on a Thursday night if you then refuse to recognise you have your own part to play.

My adult dc is still visiting. He has mh issues and attempted suicide twice this last 7 months. He isn't working due to lockdown or shopping. He is home or here.
The alternative isn't better than CV imo.
Other dc live here ft.

@Hannah021 my comment about not being english was nothing to do with common sense. If you read the previous post, it was about treating your home as your private property.

I like to think I am a reasonable person with common sense, which includes following the instructions set out by the government. Like many, I have not seen my elderly parents since this started despite them living a road away from me. I am not going to sit here and look down on others who choose to not follow the rules. They have their reasons, whether I agree with them or not. It is none of my business.

However it my parents called me over to stay with them for whatever reason, I would go. That is no one else's business and it anyone called the police on me for doing that, sorry my parents need me. You dont know the circumstances of others, whether their elderly relatives need additional assistance or whatever it may be. Even loneliness.

Anyway slag me off now, I'm off not returning to this post!!! You all hate it when people disagree and this is what I mean. People are allowed to have an opinion and rationale that differs to the narrow minded majority on here.

@LagunaBubbles Of course I have, it's rammed down our throats at every possible chance. I still don't agree with anyone dobbing their neighbours in for having their adult children to visit.

We know the risks and if people want to put their families and loved ones at risk, so be it!

Sadly I wish that was true but its not, how aren't people that think this not getting these selfish fuckwits are putting the NHS staff at risk to. 28 NHS staff so far have shed doing their job because of this virus. Don't people that think this care at all?

Died not shed obviously.

Then I truly despair that people like you actuallyeugene think the way you do. Be ayse it is people that aren't following the guidelines that's spreading this. And people are dying. The virus doesn't spread by itself. The next time I have to sit with someone that's dying without their family I will think on people like you with such contempt. And wish more people would report others and then they might get the message about the right thing to do.

@LagunaBubbles Funnily enough, the reason I'm so fucked off with those who're only too eager to call the police and then sit awaiting their gold star is because of a death.

My poor friend lost her dad 2 days ago. She lives on her own and was absolutely devastated; as was her mum, who went to my friends house (along with her brothers) so they could grieve together.
Nasty neighbour went storming round their banging on the door and gave them a mouthful of abuse before calling 999 (unbelievably.) The police turned up and she was fined.
For grieving for her dad. With her family.

It's fucking disgraceful and I harbour nothing but contempt for those who think they're a member of the specials, and believe it's their 'duty' to police what other people are doing. You have no idea what's going on in someone's life and why they might need that visit.

Just ignore them! I’m going to C&P that and post it on every thread complaining about neighbours at the moment...