For wanting to go for an early morning run

[Shiningstar88]

So since christmas I have been on a diet and exercise regime, driven by the fact I am bridesmaid for a friend at the end of the year. So far I have lost 2 stone (slow progress!) And then lockdown happened. I have been quite good, tracked my food and dd and I have been out for a walk every day. I've lost 5lbs whilst in lockdown.

I really got into running at the gym before lockdown, which obviously now isn't an option. Dh works shifts so I have to work anything round his shifts.

He is still working and is working all weekend so I said I want to get up before he goes to work and go for a run. He has to leave the house at 730, so I will get up at 630, go for a 30 - 40 min run and be back before he leaves for work.

Dh thinks this is a stupid idea and has voiced his opinion about this all afternoon. I'm now losing all motivation about keeping going as I'm getting no support.

Is this a really stupid idea?

Also to add, despite feeling good about my weight loss, I asked Dh the other day if it could notice, and his response was of course not, you haven't lost enough yet!

[2Rebecca]

Not a stupid idea but I don't understand why you're running your exercise plans by him. Is it a childcare issue? If not just go for a run when you want and leave him to do exercise when he wants. You sound over dependant on his opinions.

[Taswama]

Enjoy your run tomorrow. I’m enjoying morning runs at the moment as no rush to get kids to school and DP at home to look after them.

[PennyNotSoWise]

He's feeling threatened by your weight loss and most likely your new confidence.

I'm sorry, but it's a classic trait of an abuser. You want to go out with your friends, he causes a lot of aggro, so much so that it becomes not worth trying anymore because of the uproar it will cause.

Not saying this is your scenario, but it seems like he's trying a similar tactic, especially as you said this I'm now losing all motivation about keeping going as I'm getting no support.

You've done so well so far OP, don't let anyone ruin it.

[RightOnTheEdge]

I don't understand why he would say its a stupid idea unless he'd just bring an arse!

Well done on your weight loss and having the will power to want to get up and go out running at that time. You should be very proud of yourself!
Don't let the misery guts make you think otherwise or bring you down.
Go for your run!

[delilahbucket]

It's a great idea! Your dh isn't very supportive at all. Mine noticed I was slimmer and toning up after 7lbs and is very encouraging.

[PatchworkElmer]

Go OP, it’s a great idea.

[Happierwithouthim]

Of course you're not being unreasonable, I used to run at 5.30am when I was still with ex h as he wasn't supportive enough for me to go at a time he could look after the children so I went while they were still in bed before going to work. It's also easier to run on an empty stomach in my opinion & it sets you up for a day of eating well

[woodencoffeetable]

yanbu
just before sunrise is the best time to exercise outside.
the world looks and smells amazing at that time.

[ellanwood]

How is it a bad idea? It's a brilliant idea. And two stone since New Year isn't slow progress, it's incredible. Admirable. I need to follow your lead. Don't ask. Men don't. Just go for your run. As long as you are back before he leaves so childcare is covered (assuming that's the reason you need to be back by then) then no problem at all.

[NotEverythingIsBlackandwhite]

He doesn't sound very supportive. I am shock that he said he can't tell, of course 2 stone shows.
It depends on how much you have to lose in the first place. If you are 20 stones and lost 2 it probably wouldn't be noticeable to others (although you would obviously notice it yourself).

[WatchingFromTheWings]

Best time of day to do it! Get all your stuff ready so you can be up, dressed and out quickly. Don't discuss it with him again, just go!

[Bluebooby]

I don't believe he can't see a difference after you've lost two stone of weight. What an arsehole. Enjoy your run.

[spicedemerald]

I’m really sorry-I clicked YABU by mistake! YADNBU to go for a run early morning. Keep it up-sounds like you’re doing brilliantly.

[Crikey0000]

He sounds insecure selfish & unsupportive . Go for your run, don't cave in to him, it'll be the thin end of the wedge.

[trulyconfuseddotcom]

It is definitely NOT a stupid idea, go for it! Can you use his lack of support as a motivation - even more of an impetus to carry on, lose however much more weight you want to lose, and stick two fingers up to him mentally? Wishing you the best of luck, you can do it!

[Shiningstar88]

Thank you for all the replies, I was beginning to doubt myself.

Should have mentioned in my post that we have 1 dc (4) who usually wakes up about 8 in the morning so all he has to do is listen out while he gets ready but I am aiming to be back in plenty of time. He is then on a 12 hour shift so it really is the only time I get to do anything.

Should also say that although I have been taking dd for a daily walk during lockdown, if I run tomorrow I won't go out again, so it is my one exercise if the day. Its predicting to be hot tomorrow so I would rather dd played in the garden where I can keep an eye on shade etc rather than a longer walk.

Thank you again for all the encouraging responses, I am now setting my alarm for an nice early morning run!

[BrightYellowDaffodil]

@Shiningstar88 - go for your run and as you sail out of the door, be sure to flip the bird to your unsupportive dick of an OH on your way!

[BogRollBOGOF]

I'm generally a school day runner which is impractical in the summer holidays so I switch to early morning runs, and it is a glorious time of day. I also do it to get the coolest time during a heat wave.

While there will be other people with the same idea, at the moment you'll also have the advantage of not having to dodge the family groups strolling around.

[Bootikin]

You sound fabulous. Go run! Your DH sounds like a total dick alas.

[1Wildheartsease]

Well done on your determination and your success.

Sounds as if your DH is feeling a bit threatened by your changes :). Is he afraid that your new looks will lead you to a higher status man?

[maras2]

He's just jealous.
Enjoy your run.

[Verily1]

Sod him he can’t tell you what to do?

Why is he such an arse to you??

[MadameMeursault]

It’s a great idea, plus if you’re thinking about going tomorrow, it’s going to be hot so that’ll be the best time. Your husband sounds like a dick.

[shinyredbus]

2 stone is amazing - your Dh sounds like an arsehole.

[Zantedeschia]

Well done on your weight loss ( and motivation to go running at 6am )

Don't ask, tell. I'll be back at 7.20. Bye