For wanting to go for an early morning run

[Shiningstar88]

So since christmas I have been on a diet and exercise regime, driven by the fact I am bridesmaid for a friend at the end of the year. So far I have lost 2 stone (slow progress!) And then lockdown happened. I have been quite good, tracked my food and dd and I have been out for a walk every day. I've lost 5lbs whilst in lockdown.

I really got into running at the gym before lockdown, which obviously now isn't an option. Dh works shifts so I have to work anything round his shifts.

He is still working and is working all weekend so I said I want to get up before he goes to work and go for a run. He has to leave the house at 730, so I will get up at 630, go for a 30 - 40 min run and be back before he leaves for work.

Dh thinks this is a stupid idea and has voiced his opinion about this all afternoon. I'm now losing all motivation about keeping going as I'm getting no support.

Is this a really stupid idea?

Also to add, despite feeling good about my weight loss, I asked Dh the other day if it could notice, and his response was of course not, you haven't lost enough yet!

[BigChocFrenzy]

YANBU

Excellent idea

Revs up your metabolism at the start of the day

• and also gets the exercise over before your brain has woken up to object !

Your DH is a selfish arse, of course

[ElloElloVera]

It sounds to me as of your DH is one of those that would like you to stay overweight. He feels threatened by the new healthy and possibly more attractive you. It’s a classic I’m afraid. So he says he doesn’t notice and says you’re daft for trying. Heard it many times sadly.

[BigChocFrenzy]

Glug a black coffee before you go

• some trainers say it can help mobilise fat stores for energy and I must say I've always found coffee does give me that extra boost if I train on an otherwise empty tum

[EmmaC78]

It sounds to me as of your DH is one of those that would like you to stay overweight. He feels threatened by the new healthy and possibly more attractive you. It’s a classic I’m afraid. So he says he doesn’t notice and says you’re daft for trying. Heard it many times sadly.

This was my first thought as well OP.

[Sunseed]

Early dawn - best time of the day to run imo - wish I did it more often.

[PicsInRed]

He resents your weight loss as he sees it as giving you options.

Don't stop, keep it up. Consider losing another 200lbs of dead weight.

[supercee]

Two stones is excellent and your 'D'H sounds like an arsehole. Run when you like, that time of day is a great time to run.

[HolaWeenie]

Congrats! 2 stone is amazing. Also 5lb during lockdown is incredible, I'm struggling with boredom eating and drinking a bit more whilst gardening in the warm weather. I run at that time most days, as a pp said, beautiful light, peaceful with few people, quite a bit of wildlife about and I like to get home shower and start the day safe in the knowledge I've done my exercise for the day.

I wonder if he's insecure with your weight loss and he's attacking the running as part of that.

[actiongirl1978]

Really I've been running at that time for 8 years. When I started we had street lights in the city, now in live in the country and run on rural lanes with a head torch if still dark. If I'm busy I run at 4.30am to fit it in.


I started when children were 2 and 4. Now 10 and 12 and they are used to getting their own breakfast as dh is usually still asleep.

[hannabarbera]

Well if DH thinks its a stupid idea dig your heels in and just go. When I told my DH i was booked into a marathon he said “you will never finish”. Well fuck me, i made a point of training hard and finished in 4:15. One of the toughest in Europe. So 🖕🏼 To any one who says you can’t .

Go do it!

[actiongirl1978]

Just to say its totally normal to run first thing.

[Shopaholic100]

Well done op you have done amazing! I’m sure it is visible (I’ve lost a similar amount), keep your clothes from before so you can see for yourself, I also found before and after pictures really helped me see the difference. Some people just hate to be happy for others jealousy is not an attractive trait. I found not sharing my weight loss with others around me really helped me stay on track (I could have good and bad weeks without having to be accountable to others). Definitely do the running, I prefer early morning exercise too, it just sets you up for the day, have you tried you tube exercise classes? I try and fit some of these in too. Good luck 😀

[Talulahoopla]

Not a stupid idea. Running is keeping me sane. Three weeks in to lockdown and I couldn't have survived without it. It's a great way to wake up and perfect for reducing stress and anxiety. I always go for a particularly long run if I want to clear my head and feel so much better for it.

[RochelleGoyle]

Sounds like you are doing great OP. You ANBU at all but your OH is being an unsupportive twit by the sounds of it. I'd think it highly unlikely that a two stone loss is unnoticeable. Maybe he's worried you're going yo start attracting attention from other men! Do your thing!

[HuckfromScandal]

Do it!!!
Totally do it.
Not just good for you physically
Great for you mentally too

[Quarantimespringclean]

If I didn’t do things because my DH thought they were stupid I’d have a very empty life! He doesn’t understand or share most of my hobbies and enthusiasms. However, unlike your DH he just shrugs tolerantly and leaves me to crack on with yoga/travelling/gardening/voluntary work etc. Just like I don’t interfere with him playing golf/watching endless repeats of crap 70s tv/going to football matches.

Your DH sounds very insecure to me. Ignore him and enjoy your run.

[Samtsirch]

OP don’t let him put you off, at this time of year very early morning is a beautiful time of day.
Try it, if you don’t enjoy it stop, but at least you came to your own decision.
If you enjoy it, continue.

[HarrySnotter]

Hmmm. I think he sounds a bit jealous. I think he most definitely has noticed that you've lost weight, no doubt looking fantastic and doesn't really like it.

[Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow]

I’m an early riser and am generally out with the dogs at 0630. Back by 0730 and then do yoga. By the time everyone gets up at 0800 I have done my exercise, had my “me”‘time and feel better able to cope.

[AnxiousBear]

2 stone is fantastic and a good amount to have lost in that time. Well done - you should be really proud of yourself.

Can you sit down with your DH? He sounds unreasonable and I wonder what’s going on. More worried about him not being more supportive of your weight loss than anything else.

Before lockdown my DH got up at 5am to do an early morning marital arts class that he loves. At the start 5am seemed a bit extreme to me, but after a while I got used to it and could either sleep through or doze. He found the exercise really helped him start the day off positively and I could see how good it was for him. Now that we’re in lockdown he still gets up at 6am for an early run. It really helps him. What you are suggesting sounds like a great idea to me. Sorry that you are not getting the support you deserve.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

In fairness to @Shiningstar88‘s dh, as he is seeing her every day, it may be difficult for him to see the huge change she go has made, because he has seen it in one day increments.

But he needs to be much more supportive - even if he can’t see the change, he knows how much she has lost and should be applauding it wholeheartedly.

And an early morning run sounds like a really good idea - both for your physical wellbeing, and for your mental health!

[ilovecakeandwine]

Well done on the weight loss .
I too find it odd that he thinks it's a terrible idea why ?
What's it to him if your in bed or running your not making him run .
Many people get up really early before work to fit in exercise. Do it !
Just say to dh that you want to give it a go and your not sure what the issue is .

[disorganisedsecretsquirrel]

Hmmm he is being unsupportive ?

May not apply to you but a lot of men don't like their 'women' getting slimmer, fitter & healthier. It's a power thing.

All the while you feel bad about yourself and your self esteem is low - they have the upper hand. Low self esteem makes you more susceptible to putting up with poor behaviour from him. With misguided thinking that not one else will want me'

There is also ' the fear factor' .. a super new confident you may attract other attention...

All of which is extremely controlling even though it may be an unconscious action on his behalf.

Ignore it and enjoy your run.

[bluebeck]

YANBU

Is he one of those men who is terrified he might have to look after his own children whilst you are out running?

Unless you were morbidly obese before,it is not credible that he cannot see you have lost two stone. I would be suggesting he makes an optician appointment - eyesight does fade so with age tell him.

You keep going OP - I wish I had your willpower and dedication. Sometimes a partner will see your desire to lose weight and get fit as a declaration of war. Is he trying to derail you in other ways?

[bluebeck]

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