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The clapping, please make it stop.

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orangejuicer · 09/04/2020 20:02

Is it just every week we are in lockdown or is that it forever and we have become a nation of clappers? Do I need to move?

OP posts:

phoenixrosehere · 10/04/2020 10:46

One lady commented that on her street the shared ownerships turned out but nobody else. What a strange thing to observe?

This happened in our area’s Facebook group, the person actually called out specific streets. Why? Why do you care? It’s lost all meaning if you’re telling people and trying to embarrass them for not doing so.

loserssaywhat · 10/04/2020 10:50

What's cringey about it? Nothing initially, it was a thoughtful gesture. Now it's become a competition and an opportunity for virtue signalling busybodys to shame others for not taking part.
I cringed at the video posted earlier on the thread with the couple standing awkwardly clapping and the bloke with his sheep clapping by himself and videoing it. Cringey.

LimitIsUp · 10/04/2020 10:56

The shaming on social media, with pointed remarks if not every house on a given street participates. Ugh

fairgame84 · 10/04/2020 10:56

Can't stand it. It was lovely week one but now it's just cringe.
I'm a nurse and all my neighbours know what I do for a loving. Last night I shut the blinds at 7.30pm to avoid it.
I'd rather they support us by staying indoors instead of nipping out for a paper every morning and nipping to the market for fresh food every 2 days. When this is over they can continue to support us by not turning up at the gp and a&e for every little niggle.

Susanna85 · 10/04/2020 11:11

I think it's nice.
Last week I put DC to bed early as it would have been in the middle of bedtime, no problem.
Last night DC stayed up but were still settled down in bed by 8.30, no problem.

1forsorrow · 10/04/2020 11:18

Greenpop I was stating what I have heard, NHS workers are entitled to an opinion and if my kids working on the front line find the sight of people like Johnson, Raab etc clapping for them offensive they are entitled to their opinion. We aren't living in a totalitarian state yet.

I don't know what the majority of clappers think but I see posts about shaming and nasty notes and FB messages and I think that is wrong. If you want to clap then do it but leave other people alone.

If someone had come to my door at 8 pm last night to complain I wasn't clapping they would have found me taking a phone call from a close relatives care home telling me it looks like she has COVID 19, if she has she is unlikely to survive. If they want to have a go about that they are welcome but they should be aware they will get at least as good as they give.

LR33 · 10/04/2020 11:23

We do it every night in Spain.
No banging or anything, just 1 min of clapping.

bringincrazyback · 10/04/2020 12:37

I don't know what the majority of clappers think but I see posts about shaming and nasty notes and FB messages and I think that is wrong. If you want to clap then do it but leave other people alone.

Couldn't agree more. The sniping is what I hate about what this whole thing has turned into. Personally I don't see the necessity for the pan banging and other forms of noise making in addition to clapping, but above all now I'm just starting to feel sad by how certain members of each 'faction' are being nasty about the other 'side'. Maybe some of this is driven by people's fear and sadness at the moment, I dunno, but it's like some people are determined to create division over this, and imho it's tainting the whole spirit of the thing.

I must admit, I was cynical about the clapping myself at first (lifelong NHS supporter, just wasn't sure if the token gesture would achieve anything) and have been a bit sarcastic in previous posts, but I've since changed my view as it's been lovely hearing some NHS staff saying that the clapping is lifting their spirits. I'm now planning to start joining in the clapping from a safe distance (though not banging pans or anything). But either way can't we all just live and let live, and try to remember what the whole thing's supposed to be about? All the anger and aggression is poisoning the sentiment imho.

I've just read this back and realised it sounds preachy but I'm going to let it stand, because it's a sincere statement of how I feel.

Callcentreworker23 · 10/04/2020 12:47

We were the only house that didn't film ourselves clapping. It's turned very fake and more about noise and one upping in our street. We don't have any NHS workers on our road and I'm the only 'key worker' so maybe that's why they have to film and put it online, who knows.

Picassoh · 10/04/2020 13:49

There are NHS workers on this thread telling us how much they love it, feel appreciated by it and people are still saying it’s pointless.

And some NHS workers are on saying they don't like it, don't do it, find it cringey. Each to their own. Two of my kids are frontline and they say they don't like it and they think Tory voters are hypocrites when they have kept them short of money and resources for years, they are also entitled to their own opinion. They also tell me that none of their colleagues like it. On the other hand my DIL, also front line NHS, does like it. You can't please everyone can you. So if you want to do it for the NHS workers who like it then great get on with it but accept that some NHS workers don't like it and people who don't do it might be doing things to support the NHS without needing to stand outside advertising the fact.

Like I said it’s not pointless though is it? Not if it is boosting the ones who need it. The ones who don’t and find it cringey can simply ignore it for two minutes. I’ve given blood, there are no Tory constituencies near me. But this is just an extra something that doesn’t cost anything and family members have told me that the people they work with are grateful and have their spirits lifted by it. Im actually quite shy doing it and don’t want any attention but I go out and do it anyway. It’s not advertising. I’m not doing it for me or you or the ones who don’t like it or need it. I am doing it for those who do.

Florencemattell · 10/04/2020 13:56

It needs to be stopped because of all the people who think it’s an excuse for social gathering.
My 90 year old mother was asked to come and sit in the street last night. So annoyed with her neighbours, she doesn’t go out because the last two times she did she ended up in hospital after falls.
She sensibly said no, she would stay in and observe the government rules.
My idiot neighbours walked half a mile to the end of their drive to sit and share drinks with other neighbours!
The idiots , the virus can travel more than 2m and being outside is no protection, granted it might be safer than being inside but it’s not worth the risk.
The NHS workers , bus drivers are dying and giving their lives, and yet these people think they know enough to break the safety guidelines,

Picassoh · 10/04/2020 13:56

It’s wonderful you have such high opinions of yourselves but maybe think about removing the stick from your backsides and do something nice for others

*So it's fine for you to force your views on others, but not ok for them to decide to do what they want to do. Might actually be a bit more useful to donate money to an NHS or foodbank charity if you can afford it. If you can't afford money, but are well, maybe go and donate blood. Also more useful than clapping.

If you want to clap, clap. If you don't, don't.

This is just like the poppy thing where people are shamed for not buying a poppy. Bog off with your virtue signalling and trying to twist things so the people who don't clap are the selfish unreasonable ones.*

They can absolutely choose not to clap! I don’t know or care much who claps and who doesn’t but to think you’re just doing something nice for someone else and come on here and read that people think you are rough, simple, attention seeking for doing so is horrible! I am not, in my original comments, referring to people not clapping, I am specifically referring to the people who look down on others for doing so!

Thisisworsethananticpated · 10/04/2020 14:43

Yes only on MN

How 5 minutes of clapping once a week does any harm I don’t understand

And it’s not just for the NHS

slimecentury · 10/04/2020 14:46

I didn't actually realise it was once a week 😂 but my view is yes great once but now let's look in our pockets where we can and do something more practical to support key workers

Iwalkinmyclothing · 10/04/2020 14:53

It's not "only on MN", for goodness sake. There are people who think the weekly clap is great and people who think it isn't, both groups can be found everywhere.

Bloodybridget · 10/04/2020 14:55

How long does it go on in your area, OP? In my street it's maybe five minutes. Once a week, that's not too much to tolerate, surely?

HolyBumoley · 10/04/2020 15:01

The NHS workers , bus drivers are dying and giving their lives

This is rather mawkish, Florence.

They are all paid to do jobs, and are getting on with them. As are other people.

The clapping is, I suspect, enforced by the same people who are telling people with severe MH problems caused by lockdown that they just need to get a grip.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 10/04/2020 15:02

Here it’s 5 mins max
Stand at front door
Clap , cheers and a few banging noises
Then everyone goes inside
Hence can’t understand the furore !

Thisisworsethananticpated · 10/04/2020 15:03

The clapping is, I suspect, enforced by the same people who are telling people with severe MH problems caused by lockdown that they just need to get a grip

Jesus that’s a major assumption there !!!!

pigsDOfly · 10/04/2020 15:07

But it isn't 5 minutes of clapping.

It's 5 minutes of clapping, screaming, fireworks, banging of metal objects and loud horns; some people find 5 minutes of that level of loud noise very unpleasant.

And it's vastly different from 5 minutes of clapping, which it was on the first night in my area.

Eggcited · 10/04/2020 15:11

It's 5 minutes of clapping, screaming, fireworks, banging of metal objects and loud horns; some people find 5 minutes of that level of loud noise very unpleasant.

Exactly, if it was just clapping then I wouldn't mind. However in my area it has now turned into who can make the most noise.

BirdandSparrow · 10/04/2020 15:11

5 minutes is a long time to clap. In Spain it's about a minute. No screaming, pot banging or fireworks either. Maybe it's worse cos it's only once a week? People treat it like a party.
People don't hang out together for it either here (cos we're not allowed out), it's from their balconies/windows/doorways. There's no mingling.

Calmdowndeary · 10/04/2020 15:14

FFS being a Tory doesn’t mean you hate the NHS. Getting sick of this shit. It’s pathetic and shows our ignorance and not to mention level of intelligence.

MamaBearLockdown · 10/04/2020 15:20

It's just easy to blame the Tory party, rather than recognising that Labour would have made a lot more damages and destroy the economy entirely!

GreyGardens88 · 10/04/2020 15:21

It's for virtue signallers really, so they have something to put on instagram/facebook stories

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