Need advice for my son

[Hoarder123]

My son who normally lives with us has moved out to stay with a friend as my husband is a “shielded” person. He was terrified that he would catch Coronavirus and pass it on to his dad, knowing this would probably be fatal. Unfortunately his friend started showing symptoms 2 days after he moved in, therefore he has had to isolate for 14 days, which are now up.
He normally works shifts in a factory that is open 24 hours a day 5 days a week.

Due to the Coronavirus the person who gives him a list is refusing to take him to work, which is fair enough as he obviously wants to minimise his risk. When he can’t get a lift by this person he normally gets the bus or his dad takes him back and forward.

The issue now is the buses that, time wise, would normally be able to take him back and forward are cancelled. His shifts are 10pm-6am, 6am-2pm and 2pm-10pm.There are no buses he could get to work around these shifts as earliest either way is 9am and latest 6pm. His dad is his backup if he can’t get the bus or a lift. Obviously with his dad at such significant risk, him taking him is not possible.

The response from the company he works for is that it is his responsibility to get to work, end of story! They have put him as AWOL and told him he won’t get paid anything. He will also probably lose his job over this.

Is he being unreasonable in not being at work, because he can’t get, unless he walks the 5 miles there and back? Any advice gratefully appreciated.

Why does it matter how old her son is? You don't lose interest in your kids once they hit a certain age.

^^ and this totally. Who cares how old he is? How bloody dare a mother worry about their offsprings problems after a certain age Peak Mumsnet.

Would it be worth looking at a different job?

@HippoPudgy “People have come up with every suggestion possible, apart from offering to come and give him a lift themselves, and you have knocked them all back with excuses.

Excuse me?? You obviously haven’t read the full thread or even just my responses. If you had you would have seen that I am looking at a couple of suggestions that pp’s have made TWO HOURS before you wrote this!

Does it make you feel good, kicking people when they are down?
*At least try and make an effort to read a thread before commenting on it and slagging the op off!!!

I don’t see why it is relevant, but my son is 22. I don’t kick my kids out and ignore their wellbeing when they hit 16. I’m there for them if/when they need me. We are a close family.

The poster that asked about my daughter taking him to work, sorry if you think it’s a drip feed, but she is also a shielded person and been told to isolate for 12 weeks.

Moped

Thank you very much to those who have given me support and some good suggestions on how to overcome our problem. It just seems to be one thing after another just now and I can’t always see the way forward. I am grateful to you for your input.

Sorry meant to ask if anyone on here actually has to use public transport to get to work? Before he took the job he checked that he could get there by bus, and did travel that way until he was offered a lift, apart from one awkward start over the 3 week shift rotation.

Just seems that, by the replies on here about him relying on someone else’s kindness to get him back and forward, that nobody relies on public transport!

The problem he has is that the normal bus service that can get him back and forward has been cancelled!

@Hoarder123 I use public transport to get to work. If it was off, I'd cycle. If I absolutely couldn't cycle then I'd have to resign.

I was interested in your DS' age. There are options available to your your 22-year-old that I wouldn't be so keen to recommend a 16yo apprentice.

A lot of people commute on public transport, if it was constantly an issue in 'normal' times then yes, it's problematic and people should probably consider finding another job. But having issues during a global pandemic because the busses aren't regular is completely different. Some places don't have masses of jobs nearby, are we saying that if you can't afford a car or can't drive etc you shouldn't work? Such a strange attitude, I bet if it was a job for a law firm or something in London people wouldn't be as ridiculous about it as a factory job.

www.halfords.com/bikes/electric-bikes/assist-crossbar-hybrid-electric-bike-137302.html

I mentioned an electric bike right back at the beginning. I still think it’s the best option. There are finance options available too. £500 seems to be an average price. From what I’ve read it would work for your ds.