Need advice for my son

[Hoarder123]

My son who normally lives with us has moved out to stay with a friend as my husband is a “shielded” person. He was terrified that he would catch Coronavirus and pass it on to his dad, knowing this would probably be fatal. Unfortunately his friend started showing symptoms 2 days after he moved in, therefore he has had to isolate for 14 days, which are now up.
He normally works shifts in a factory that is open 24 hours a day 5 days a week.

Due to the Coronavirus the person who gives him a list is refusing to take him to work, which is fair enough as he obviously wants to minimise his risk. When he can’t get a lift by this person he normally gets the bus or his dad takes him back and forward.

The issue now is the buses that, time wise, would normally be able to take him back and forward are cancelled. His shifts are 10pm-6am, 6am-2pm and 2pm-10pm.There are no buses he could get to work around these shifts as earliest either way is 9am and latest 6pm. His dad is his backup if he can’t get the bus or a lift. Obviously with his dad at such significant risk, him taking him is not possible.

The response from the company he works for is that it is his responsibility to get to work, end of story! They have put him as AWOL and told him he won’t get paid anything. He will also probably lose his job over this.

Is he being unreasonable in not being at work, because he can’t get, unless he walks the 5 miles there and back? Any advice gratefully appreciated.

sorry meant fit in with hsi bus travel options that are available.

You could also look on eBay for an electric bike/scooter/skateboard.

@Thehop Yes, that looks excellent. I was just going to post the same one after having a quick Google.

Electric skateboard.
TheHop I love that bike.

I've gone down a rabbit hole of electric bikes/scooter/skateboards.

I love this one!

Please don't put your DH's LIFE at risk to give your adult son a lift.

Surely he has three choices

1. Get himself to work using the suggestions on this thread - be careful not to get a moped though as unless in his 40's he would likely need a CBT test.
2. Take the bus and wait outside. Taking snacks, bike for exercise, book.
3. Quit his job and move home. Self isolating in his room for 7-14 days, then within the home to protect dad

@DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou thanks for your understanding. Unfortunately on the early shift, the earliest bus is cancelled, none from 6pm the night before. Night shift, the latest bus is 6pm and he starts at 10pm, then he finishes at 6am and couldn’t get a bus home till 9am. Back shift, no problem getting in but late bus cancelled, so couldn’t get home.

@sleepingpup* thanks for understanding. I am worried sick about my husband and this is just another worry. My son is a tremendous support. His friend wanted him to move in with him permanently, but he wants to stay at home, to help out.j

@Bee128 yes no Ubers, or taxis here either. Think he would be happy taking unpaid leave, but they have said he would be AWOL, so worried they will sack him. He needs to learn to drive!

@Breakdown98765 he would happily pay that for travel, he already was, but don’t think it’s legal unfortunately!

@horlicksbabe
Unfortunately the ACL reconstruction didn’t go well. Surgeon said it was one of the worst he had seen, and he is the knee expert.
It was nearly a year ago, but still causing issues. He used to play golf, football (which caused the problem) and also run. He has been told he should never play football again or golf at the moment (because of the twisting) and to limit other sports. He is working hard on his spin bike, to try and improve his knee.

Why won't you say how old he is op?

If you are rural, could he put an ad up in the village shop or a mutual aid group asking for someone to give him a lift there and back for taxi money?

There must be a fair few people with cars in the village that have been laid off and are struggling financially , and a regular gig that would bring in a little cash at low risk (exposure to only one other person) might be helpful for them as well as solving the problem for your son.

Lots of suggestions OP, if none fit then he has to take unpaid leave!

I don't agree with anyone car sharing with him, they've stopped car sharing for the postmen around here, so it's the same principle!

@Cailleachian that's illegal and not confirming to the two meters apart rule.

I have the same shift patterns at my place or work ... on the off chance it’s the same company private message I may be able to help ... not with a lift but options that are available

I agree with everyone else getting to work is his problem not his employers if he can't get there he needs to take unpaid leave

Suggest he puts message on your local Facebook asking for

Lift in car
Loan, share, buy or free bicycle
Loan, share buy or free electric bike

5 miles each way is not that much, I've done it
It's very pleasant in the long summer nights

How old is he?

People again so rude someone saying an adult shouldnt be relying on other people to get to work... ermmm public transport has mostly stopped not everyone bloody drives or has a bike or is physically able to walk 5 miles so dont be a dickhead.

Quit job and u give him money or wait til they sack him and sign on If no other option. Or he moves in with u again and husband takes him and takes the risk

Unfortunately the ACL reconstruction didn’t go well. Surgeon said it was one of the worst he had seen, and he is the knee expert.

Well that's quite a nice drip feed. In your OP you didn't mention his ACL problem until someone suggested walking or cycling, now when people are asking how long ago it was because he should still be okay to walk or cycle, you come back with this... I am not sure what you want from this thread to be honest. You won't even state how old he is. People have come up with every suggestion possible, apart from offering to come and give him a lift themselves, and you have knocked them all back with excuses.

I'll be frank and say that I am now thinking you just wanted everyone to say he wouldn't be unreasonable just not to go to work.

Clearly OP is shy of how old he is, this is when we learn he’s about 25 and way capable of thinking outside the box

Why does it matter how old her son is? You don't lose interest in your kids once they hit a certain age.

OP, has he asked around to see whether anyone else at work can offer a lift? It would be worth his while paying a high rate to get a lift. Or as someone said, asking friends on Facebook who could do with the money?

@OlaEliza and @DareToTiger thank you for your suggestions, we never thought of something like that. This is what I was hoping for when I posted. I have had a look and this would work

RTFT @HippoPudgy

@HollowTalk if anything be else from work gives him a lift it will less than two meters distance. He should not ask this! The postmen round here are not can sharing for that exact reason.

If he can't get there safely and with out endangering someone else, then it's unpaid leave, that's it!

*anyone not anything! 🙄

van not can sharing! 🙄 🙄