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Are driveway drinks allowed

503 replies

NotPawPatrolAgain · 06/04/2020 08:18

With neighbours if sticking to the 2 metre rule?

OP posts:
Bluesheep8 · 06/04/2020 10:42

And surely being in a shop carries more risk than talking outside....

mochajoes · 06/04/2020 10:45

Plus during the conversation I asked if my neighbour needed any shopping as I planned to go to the shop later.

You should have communicated this with paper & pens!

AprilFloundering · 06/04/2020 10:45

What the OP has proposed isn't a 'grey area'. FFS

EmbarrassingMama · 06/04/2020 10:45

If you are each on your respective driveways? There's no difference between that and driveway clapping every Thursday night, is there?

TheLadyAnneNeville · 06/04/2020 10:46

@BerryPieandCustard, exactly

Eckhart · 06/04/2020 10:46

@JinglingHellsBells So you're making up your own rules because you don't trust the WHO?

Do you think we should all do that?

allinit2gether · 06/04/2020 10:46

By edinamonsoon's reckoning I'm not allowed to do any gardening in my front garden. Despite the fact I'm 30ft back from the road surrounded by a big hedge. Indeed is it essential that I put the bins out? What about going in my back garden. Am I not doing lockdown properly unless I stay indoors. Do fuck off dear.

Clearly some people won't be able to do driveway drinks safely. But the vast majority of people will be able to (if they want to) and the government has no desire to create social anarchy. I've seen nothing in the rules to say you can't use your own property perimeter.

HavelockVetinari · 06/04/2020 10:46

I have an exceptionally large garden, bordered with high shrubs and trees

In a smaller garden, I'd probably go inside

BINGO! This has got to be one of the best, most MN-bragging posts I've ever seen! "Aye, the poor sods in small houses or flats^ can fuck off. How dare those plebs set foot outside?!" Grin Hmm

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 06/04/2020 10:50

BINGO! This has got to be one of the best, most MN-bragging posts I've ever seen! "Aye, the poor sods in small houses or flats can fuck off. How dare those plebs set foot outside?!"

I don't know how they'd have coped in my situation at the weekend. I'd been in my very small garden a while when I realised my neighbour was the sitting quietly other side of the 6ft fence, less than 2m away. I didn't run indoors screaming and bathe in dettol, although maybe I should have done.

burnoutbabe · 06/04/2020 10:51

does anyone really want to spend their day listening to neighbours all shouting at each other outside?

A brief hello, passing pleasantry is fine. But long shouty chats when everyone else is stuck inside, windows open for some air, is not really considerate of others.

mochajoes · 06/04/2020 10:52

@burnoutbabe why have you got your windows open?

MamaBearOnLockdown · 06/04/2020 10:56

^ BINGO! This has got to be one of the best, most MN-bragging posts I've ever seen! "Aye, the poor sods in small houses or flats can fuck off. How dare those plebs set foot outside?!"

bitter much? No need for such a stupid comment. You know perfectly well that when someone lives in a flat they don't have the same rules than someone living in a detached house.

It's the same thing about outdoor space at the moment.

So yes, "rules" or more accurately common sense means things are different for someone with no garden and someone with lots of land. Do you really need for someone on MN to tell you that?

I wish I was one of these people with enough land to exercise their animals. Just because I can't, does it mean they shouldn't? What kind of twisted and bitter reasoning is that? You can't do something so no one else can either?

Burnbabyburn1 · 06/04/2020 10:57

Yeah just stay in your own garden

SueEllenMishke · 06/04/2020 10:57

What the OP is suggesting isn't a grey area!
This thread is so typically MN it's actually making me cringe reading it.

The people who are saying what the OP is suggesting is wrong are probably the same people who have a go at people for daring to want to celebrate a birthday or anniversary and forget (or ignore) the fact that not everyone lives in huge detached houses with massive gardens.

I'm also really laughing at people who seem to think that the instruction to not socialise with people outside your family means not speaking to anyone other than the people you live with 😂😂😂

Jocasta2018 · 06/04/2020 10:57

Our front gardens are large and across the road from each other so we can remain at least 10 metres apart. I queued for over 1.5 hours to pick up a prescription on Friday & I was closer to people for much longer than when interacting with my neighbours.
Admittedly when my next door neighbour was out mowing her lawn last night, I did wait til she went in as a part of our front lawns is a large shared patch of grass separated by a rope fence.
We've also chatted to each other whilst sitting on doorsteps with a cuppa. I don't see any problems with this & it's nice to see them.

LadyHofH · 06/04/2020 10:59

What the OP has proposed isn't a 'grey area'. FFS

No, it isn't a grey area. It's a clear-cut case of 'absolutely fine'. MN has collectively taken leave of common sense at the moment.

itsgettingweird · 06/04/2020 10:59

Well I e seen plenty of news programmes and chat shows showing neighbourhoods who are doing just this.

So I can't see why it's an issue.

They wouldn't be showing it if they didn't want/ mind people doing it.

SueEllenMishke · 06/04/2020 11:00

burnout some people get on with their neighbours. If we did this every single one of our neighbours would join in.

mochajoes · 06/04/2020 11:01

What kind of twisted and bitter reasoning is that? You can't do something so no one else can either?

That's exactly what the people who are saying it's a no no are doing. They are not having any social contact & not leaving their houses so expect others to do the same.

Eckhart · 06/04/2020 11:01

A brief hello, passing pleasantry is fine. But long shouty chats when everyone else is stuck inside, windows open for some air, is not really considerate of others

Unless people are breaching the usual noise restrictions, stopping people from talking whilst maintaining social distancing is not really considerate of others.

Deanetta · 06/04/2020 11:03

The instructions are Stay At Home, not Stay Indoors. The legislation (which someone already correctly copied out earlier in the thread) specifically mentions outbuildings, gardens, passageways etc. It's totally fine to be on your own driveway.

I am seriously beginning to question the intelligence and/or puritanical nature of a large proportion of Mumsnet users.

Deux · 06/04/2020 11:04

Don’t forget about the cul de sac where the fitness instructor goes out every morning at 11 and runs a fitness class, socially distanced.

That was on the news and all the residents said how lovely it was.

MamaBearOnLockdown · 06/04/2020 11:05

That's exactly what the people who are saying it's a no no are doing. They are not having any social contact & not leaving their houses so expect others to do the same.

I suppose it's a nice change from the ones on other threads who say it's absolutely fine to pop to the shops for an ice cream or a cucumber and guidelines don't apply to them Grin

One can only hope the majority of people are in the middle and have common sense. I have seen a few (mainly elderly) people sitting on a bench in their front garden. Granted the roads are nearly dead around here, but surely that's a nice way for them to be safely isolated without feeling completely cut off the world.

MamaBearOnLockdown · 06/04/2020 11:07

It's totally fine to be on your own driveway.
dont' say that, people will translate it as it being fine not to respect any social distancing from their neighbours because they are on their driveway, even if they are each standing on the boundary line Grin

teafourtoo · 06/04/2020 11:08

If you're on your own property with your own drinks and are at least two meters apart I don't see an issue with this. Go for it!
People saying no to this are lacking in common sense.