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Are driveway drinks allowed

503 replies

NotPawPatrolAgain · 06/04/2020 08:18

With neighbours if sticking to the 2 metre rule?

OP posts:
ralphi · 06/04/2020 11:10

Absolutely fine if you are on your own property and are observing the minimum distance. The "essential" refers to travel, and since you are not leaving your property this does not apply. Crazy how some people massively misinterpret the rules!

JustAnotherPoster00 · 06/04/2020 11:11

I think everyone needs to keep in mind that some pp's arent telling the truth and are here to do no more than polarise the debate, same with Brexit and the 2019 election, lots of new posters with INFORMATION and to tell people to STOP RISKING LIVES and theyve all seen 70 billion trillion people flouting the rules everyday

WotchaTalkinBoutWillis · 06/04/2020 11:18

Do you mean you're all sat on your own driveways,?
As can't see why that wouldn't be OK.
Or do you mean all on the same driveway though but " 2 metres away?"
If the latter, no - what is it that people don't understand about don't meet up with people from other households?!
It's really not that hard, or at least you'd think!!??

Bbq1 · 06/04/2020 11:21

^l

BiBiBirdie · 06/04/2020 11:23

Hmm it's a grey area isn't it?

I suppose it's similar to me shouting out the window to our across the road neighbors last week (one is also a teacher and DD was stuck on some homework so she shouted across how to do it)

mochajoes · 06/04/2020 11:25

One can only hope the majority of people are in the middle and have common sense.

I'm pretty sure in the real world they do

Ponoka7 · 06/04/2020 11:27

"And surely being in a shop carries more risk than talking outside...."

Apparently there's danger in speaking to someone for around 15 minutes, because of the way the virus is carried/thrown in the air.

However, it was said that we are allowed to have conversations at a distance away, as long as there is no special travelling involved.

They've featured various activities in neighbourhoods, dancing, exercising etc on the BBC specials and they've said that it's all fine.

BerryPieandCustard · 06/04/2020 11:28

But why would you? For arguments sake 5 households with 2 people each are congregating on driveways/grass verges (this was what was happening in my street) the distance between some of them were questionable. Say one person from each household is the designated shopper that person comes into contact with 50 people or things others may have touched (for example) that one household then has 50 chances of catching the virus from other shoppers/trolleys/goods to the sit around with others who for arguments sake have come into contact with the same number of people/trolleys/goods then multiply their chances of contracting the virus.

Why would you risk it, especially as in normal circumstances I have never in the 7 years I have lived here seen people come together in that way, so why now?! I don’t get it.

I happened to be washing my car as a neighbour was coming back from their key worker job, we exchanged pleasantries from a far and asked if we needed anything and that was it.. seeing someone in passing by chance and being polite is very different from planning to spend several hours with people

Biancadelrioisback · 06/04/2020 11:34

To those who thinks this is a huge no no - why? If the virus is air born then we're screwed anyways...my house isn't air tight. If I have the windows open am I increasing my chances? What are we supposed to do??

Deux · 06/04/2020 11:34

But why would you?

Because we’re social animals and we like chatting to other people? Because it makes the other 23 hours stuck inside more bearable?

Because it lifts our spirits?

What’s this designated shopper business? That’s just another made up rule.

WotchaTalkinBoutWillis · 06/04/2020 11:35

Anyway, it's a moo point lol as we have no idea how far away the driveways are from each other and how silly piss takers OP and her neighbours are.
Here, not enough space between houses for it to be viable.
MIL or the parents on the other hand could easily if they stayed on their own driveways.

AmelieTaylor · 06/04/2020 11:36

@00100001

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AmelieTaylor. What's the fucking difference between being in your back garden and chatting than being in your drive??? Do you honestly go inside from your garden anytime a neighbour pops out???

stop frothing & Try reading what I wrote.

There isn’t any difference I SAID...

STAY INDOORS & when you must go outside stay away from others, don’t work out how to socialise with them bending the rules.Enjoy your own garden if you have one, but don’t be chattering away with the neighbours - keep your breath & CV to yourself

People don’t want to hear it because all of a sudden chatting to the neighbours is terribly important - most people probably didn’t even know their names before now.

The virus doesn’t give a shit if you’re out the front or the back it just wants a host - stop giving it the opportunity for it to find one. It’s not difficult.

WotchaTalkinBoutWillis · 06/04/2020 11:36

Just seen designated shopper - what?
Are you in the UK?

Ladyglitterfairydust · 06/04/2020 11:37

I think this is fine if you’re all on your own property and drinking your own drinks while keeping at least 2 metres apart. I expect many people are probably more than this if you’re on your drive. You’re not travelling anywhere. Peoples mental health needs to be considered too and this could provide a real boost for those who are feeling particularly lonely and isolated. I had a chat to my elderly neighbour over the garden fence the other day (well over 2 meters away). Should I not have done this either? I’m all for sticking to the rules, but surely Talking to a neighbour from a safe distance is ok?

Clymene · 06/04/2020 11:37

Ban the Italians from singing!

BerryPieandCustard · 06/04/2020 11:40

When I said designated shopper I meant as an example... this is not a thing but in households where someone is a high risk group they obviously would not shop (hopefully)

But as most supermarkets are now asking for one adult per trolley per visit one would go shopping

Ladyglitterfairydust · 06/04/2020 11:40

Also most of my neighbours are on their drives / on the street doing the NHS clap. Should they not be doing this? I just don’t know anymore. Everyone was well over 2 metres apart (detached houses with large driveways).

AmelieTaylor · 06/04/2020 11:40

@Alsohuman

*Alsohuman

If cigarette smoke can waft across from one driveway to the next, what's stopping the virus from doing the same?

What’s the point of the two metre distance then?

Two things - the heavy droplets will fall in the 2m and it’s what the Govt think most people can handle hearing without panicking. If they went the full distance they’d have to admit certain other businesses shouldn’t be running either & they don’t want to do that. Plus they’d need to provide more PPE for other people, which they couldn’t do.

It’s about Heath/economic balance not the ideal for health.

BerryPieandCustard · 06/04/2020 11:42

If people want to chat use the phone/video calling/zoom and the like to allow for groups to chat and do it from the safety of your front room

CruCru · 06/04/2020 11:42

Go ahead. Realistically you stand more chance of catching it in the supermarket.

saraclara · 06/04/2020 11:44

If and when we come out of this there are going to be a shitload of people with MH issues, ranging from minor to major. Allowing people to do things like sitting in their own gardens talking to a neighbour who is also sitting in their own garden might help with that, and I defy ANYONE to demonstrate why people shouldn't be able to do this.

Exactly. Other posters are questioning why "suddenly" everyone wants to socialise. I think it's pretty obvious. Many are not at work any more so missing out on human interaction. Many, like me, live alone, and the opportunities we had to meet friends or socialise, are gone. Also people are scared and stressed, and a nice little conversation with a neighbour can relieve that.

OP you wouldn't be doing anything wrong, and I'd tell you to go ahead, but sadly there clearly are people out there who would be only too ready to complain if you did it. Such a shame.

Alsohuman · 06/04/2020 11:45

Yeah OK, if it makes you happy.

mochajoes · 06/04/2020 11:46

If people want to chat use the phone/video calling/zoom and the like to allow for groups to chat and do it from the safety of your front room

Is it safe if my neighbour & I both have our windows open.

NotACleverName · 06/04/2020 11:49

Is it safe if my neighbour & I both have our windows open.

Only if you're both wearing hazmat suits and take baths in Dettol afterwards.

mochajoes · 06/04/2020 11:50

thought so, luckily I'm a prepper 😉