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Are driveway drinks allowed

503 replies

NotPawPatrolAgain · 06/04/2020 08:18

With neighbours if sticking to the 2 metre rule?

OP posts:
LynetteScavo · 06/04/2020 23:38

My neighbours are proper pushing it....almost everyday the stand about 4 meters apart and have a chat....one if them even leaves his property to do this! They may even hold a mug of coffee each during this interaction.

AprilFloundering · 07/04/2020 00:04

Yes, segregated street parties.

Didn't everyone see the videos of Italians all out on their balconies playing music together?

It's no different.

Runnerduck34 · 07/04/2020 00:59

Dont think you would be breaking any rules if you were on your own property with your own drinks and at least 2m away. I can see it would be morale boosting but if you spent a prolonged period of time 2m apart would it increase your chances of infection? Might also be a bit annoying/anti social for other neighbours depending on how loud you are and how long you are out there! But one quick drink is probably fine.

alexdgr8 · 07/04/2020 01:10

just stop.
dont do it.
hunker down.
keep away from people.
listen to the pleading of nhs.
just heard another doctor on radio 5live.
if you heard him, you could not ask this question.

LaurieMarlow · 07/04/2020 04:29

if you heard him, you could not ask this question.

Why would hearing him make a difference to the OP being on her own drive?

Was he telling people to stay indoors 24/7?

user1477391263 · 07/04/2020 05:00

OP, as long as you are maintaining physical distance from each other, it is absolutely fine. I live in a flat with a balcony. As the weather gets warmer, we will all be on our balconies at the same time, like the people in Spain were. It is no bloody different--in fact, drinking on separate driveways sounds like you will be further away from each other than people on adjacent balconies.

No jealousy from this flat owner, I assure you. On the contrary, I think those of us in flats are even more acutely aware of how important daylight and a change of pace is, for our mental health. We all need to keep our spirits up at these times. Ensure correct distancing and enjoy your drinks.

I think it's really interesting how even in our secular age, people seem to find it really hard to let go of the idea that making yourself miserable on purpose will make pestilence go away faster, like the people in the Middle Ages who fasted and flagellated themselves. Psychologists and anthropologists will have interesting things to say!

RingtheBells · 07/04/2020 05:05

I still speak to my neighbours either from the driveway or from back grading, observing 2m rule and still would if I had a drink in my hand and they also did, in fact I am often drinking a cup of tea while speaking to my neighbour, surely doesn't make any difference

RingtheBells · 07/04/2020 05:05

back garden

user1477391263 · 07/04/2020 05:09

if you heard him, you could not ask this question.

Er, why?

What the OP is doing is not going to spread the virus. So please stop the weird hysterics.

PotholeParadise · 07/04/2020 05:09

Being happy is not a risk factor for this virus. The virus doesn't care whether you are out there with a bottle of wine, or virtuously clapping the NHS.

If you are too far apart for it to pass from person to person, you are too far apart, full stop. What you are doing while being too far apart for it is immaterial.

Have the drinks.

user1477391263 · 07/04/2020 05:10

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flagellant

RingtheBells · 07/04/2020 05:14

The whole thing is becoming some weird kind of self-flagellation for some people

RingtheBells · 07/04/2020 05:16

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enchantedspleen · 07/04/2020 05:17

Quite simply, technology isn't enough for human interaction. We are a social species and I'm afraid WhatsApp and Facebook just don't cut it to fully fulfil our need to socialise.
Let people have a chat on their driveways, let a bit of community form. Its a coffee from their own homes at 2m apart, not a mosh pit ffs.

PotholeParadise · 07/04/2020 05:23

P.S. that said, if you are going to be out there a while, make it more than 2 metres. I'm just going to bed now, but various reports have me thinking that 2 metres is the safe zone for momentary exposure, but if that if you hang around at 2metres from someone for a good, long time, and that person is incubating it, that could be enough for transmission.

I don't worry about people coming closer than 2 metres for a moment in the supermarket, but I wouldn't want to sit precisely 2 metres away from a stranger for 30 minutes. I would make it 3 metres. Give yourselves a buffer.

RingtheBells · 07/04/2020 05:39

Maybe you should tell the supermarkets. PotholeParadise they allow queueing at 2 metre intervals usually for at least half an hour.

LaurieMarlow · 07/04/2020 07:21

The whole thing is becoming some weird kind of self-flagellation for some people

Yes it is. It’s bizarre.

People need to be sensible. Not miserable.

Hotcuppatea · 07/04/2020 07:40

just stop.
dont do it.
hunker down.
keep away from people.
listen to the pleading of nhs.
just heard another doctor on radio 5live.
if you heard him, you could not ask this question*

Stop projecting your anxieties on to the rest of us. It won't make you feel any better.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 07/04/2020 08:07

just stop.
don't do it.
hunker down.
keep away from people.
listen to the pleading of nhs.
just heard another doctor on radio 5live.
if you heard him, you could not ask this question

The majority are listening! People are talking about going outside in their own garden or driveway, not a mass gathering in the park!

'Hunker down' makes it sound as though we should all stay indoors with the doors and windows shut and the blinds drawn for the duration

DippyAvocado · 07/04/2020 08:20

I think it's an unnecessary risk but then I'm not a very sociable person so drinks with the neighbours would not be an essential activity to me!

However, I do think if you're having a prolonged chat, as PP above suggests, I would sit further than the minimum 2m apart. Some people down the road from me were doing similar but sitting on the pavement. They'd made an attempt to sit in groups apart but we're quite close still and small children were running between the groups which kind of defeats the purpose.

lmcneil003 · 07/04/2020 08:25

Just use common sense. Simples.

NoSauce · 07/04/2020 10:47

Common sense is something that many MNetters seem to have lost right now.

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 07/04/2020 10:48

For all those saying " no" -why are driveways any different to gardens?

PrincessConsueIaBananaHammock · 07/04/2020 10:55

Because driveways are in out and gardens are in in or something.

There are also quite a few people that think even gardens are a no no. Lock yourself in,draw the curtains and maybe open a window once a week.

Alexis21 · 07/04/2020 10:58

I wouldn't do it but you are probably more at risk from your supermarket

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