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Made a mistake and now not sure what to do

116 replies

CandleFlames · 04/04/2020 21:12

I’m 37+4 weeks pregnant and for the past few days have had reduced movements. I’ve barely really felt him and his movements are different, nowhere near as strong. I’ve been into the labour ward twice, once being tonight. They monitored me and said baby sounded great but asked if I was still concerned and I said yes because even though I got a couple of kicks they still weren’t anything like normal. So they asked if I wanted to be admitted into the ward so they could monitor me overnight but I said no. I’m currently being treated for carrying MRSA and I also have gestational diabetes and pregnancy induced hypertension so I am high risk and tonight have swollen feet and hands which I’ve had for a while and protein and an infection in my urine. They said to come back if I’m still concerned or if I get any other preeclampsia symptoms such as a headache, which has now come on. But I feel stupid because I said no earlier so I don’t want to go back and waste their time. I only said no to being admitted because I’m worried about CV and of course hospital is the last place you want to be during this pandemic. What should I do? I feel like an idiot and I feel like they’ll think I’m wasting their time as I probably have done already by saying no to staying in.

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CandleFlames · 04/04/2020 21:13

Oh and the reason I would be going back is that I still haven’t felt him two hours later since being back home.

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Brenna24 · 04/04/2020 21:14

Just go in.

Theholidayarmadillo4 · 04/04/2020 21:14

You're not wasting anyone's time. You've nothing to feel stupid for. Don't wait. Go back now x

bloodywhitecat · 04/04/2020 21:14

Go back, it's not worth the risk or the worry of not going back.

blackfriars · 04/04/2020 21:14

Please go back in!

RandomMess · 04/04/2020 21:14

Please go back now.

004aga · 04/04/2020 21:15

Honestly I would go back in, realistically you won't settle or be able to sleep until your mind is put at rest, and assuming you don't have any symptoms of covid19 you will be monitored on a covid free ward.

bigchris · 04/04/2020 21:15

I really think you should go back, is your dh or dp there who could take you?

Wattagoose90 · 04/04/2020 21:15

Always get checked out a second time if necessary.

If the worst were to happen, you'd never forgive yourself.

The midwives will see this all the time. They'd rather check you over a hundred times than see any woman leave that ward without a baby. Extreme, I know. But it's better to be safe.

SecretsInSpitalfield · 04/04/2020 21:16

Don’t know what to say to help but I’m thinking of you Op! Have a warm bath, lots of tea and walk around and stay safe xx

UnrulySalvia · 04/04/2020 21:16

They said to come back if I’m still concerned

You clearly are concerned, so go back. They will be used to panicking mums-to-be so don't feel like an idiot.

Good luck!

Doyouwantanothercuppa · 04/04/2020 21:17

Go back. They won’t bat an eyelid about you having gone home earlier.

Winchking · 04/04/2020 21:17

Trust your instincts and go back in. No-one is going to think you're wasting their time.

QualityFeet · 04/04/2020 21:17

Go straight back in. They won’t feel you are a time waster they will listen to what your instincts are saying and monitor you to keep you and your baby safe.
They will have told you to come back if you need to - they meant it.

bythehairsonmychinichinchin · 04/04/2020 21:18

Go back, they won’t think you’re silly.

KindnessCrusader · 04/04/2020 21:18

I think you should go back.

HoneysuckIejasmine · 04/04/2020 21:18

Go back love. Things change all the time, they won't mind.

CuriousCatCatcher · 04/04/2020 21:18

YANBU I understand why you are worried, but they will look after you both.

zebrapig · 04/04/2020 21:19

If you are concerned and have a headache please go back. Pre-eclampsia is serious and it can get worse quickly. They wouldn't have offered you a bed without a good reason. Hope you're both ok.

categoricallycrackers · 04/04/2020 21:19

Get in, but before you dash out the door, grab some ice cold water to go, this got my baby moving around again in similar circumstances.

OhNoNoNoNotThatOne · 04/04/2020 21:20

When you're pregnant and concerned you are NEVER wasting anyone's time.
Please go back and get checked/stay in and be monitored, they won't mind one little bit!
Sending luck and good thoughts!

BeautifulBirds · 04/04/2020 21:20

You need to go back ASAP, you are worried.

neverenoughwipes · 04/04/2020 21:21

Just go back, it's really not worth waiting

Windyatthebeach · 04/04/2020 21:22

Never a wasted call or trip imo.
Get checked out.
I had multiple bleeds with dd. Hospital every time.

CandleFlames · 04/04/2020 21:22

I called them and they said because the monitoring was fine to call back in a couple of hours if I’m still worried :/

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