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Made a mistake and now not sure what to do

116 replies

CandleFlames · 04/04/2020 21:12

I’m 37+4 weeks pregnant and for the past few days have had reduced movements. I’ve barely really felt him and his movements are different, nowhere near as strong. I’ve been into the labour ward twice, once being tonight. They monitored me and said baby sounded great but asked if I was still concerned and I said yes because even though I got a couple of kicks they still weren’t anything like normal. So they asked if I wanted to be admitted into the ward so they could monitor me overnight but I said no. I’m currently being treated for carrying MRSA and I also have gestational diabetes and pregnancy induced hypertension so I am high risk and tonight have swollen feet and hands which I’ve had for a while and protein and an infection in my urine. They said to come back if I’m still concerned or if I get any other preeclampsia symptoms such as a headache, which has now come on. But I feel stupid because I said no earlier so I don’t want to go back and waste their time. I only said no to being admitted because I’m worried about CV and of course hospital is the last place you want to be during this pandemic. What should I do? I feel like an idiot and I feel like they’ll think I’m wasting their time as I probably have done already by saying no to staying in.

OP posts:
Jellybean27 · 04/04/2020 21:23

Please go back!

Skeeter2020 · 04/04/2020 21:24

Just go back in. They won't care enough to hold a strong opinion. They'll just deal with the clinical situation they're presented with. Good luck

lyralalala · 04/04/2020 21:25

You were told to go back if you developed a headache and you have done. Please go back.

One of the big dangers in this crisis is that people avoid medical help when they need it.

bythehairsonmychinichinchin · 04/04/2020 21:28

Go back, trust your instincts.

Grumpos · 04/04/2020 21:32

If your baby is not moving then go back.
100% ring them back and say you’re not happy, don’t feel comfortable and want to go back.
Do not leave it. Ultimately it’s your baby and it’s their duty to look after you and baby. They can’t tell you they won’t see you.

Saz12 · 04/04/2020 21:32

Yep, just go straight back. Don’t call them, just go in. I get you don’t want to be “a bother” nor risk CV. But you feel something isn’t right. So go back in,

Shinynewcoin · 04/04/2020 21:34

I've had pre eclampsia, please go back in. All the best op

Bomdigi · 04/04/2020 21:40

You really should go back. It’s not wasting anyone’s time.

YouDoYou18 · 04/04/2020 21:51

I can promise you they would rather see you 100 times and you and baby be okay, than not see you once and something is wrong. Go back, and I hope you feel better soon, not long left!

EightNineTen · 04/04/2020 22:03

The nurses who saw to you told you yo go back, so go back.

coffeeandpyjamas · 04/04/2020 22:06

Go in. Ring them now OP and tell them (not ask them) that you are coming in as you are worried. I hate to be blunt but from the experience of someone close to me, a trip to the hospital where you find out baby is fine is better than no trip and a stillbirth.

Monkei · 04/04/2020 22:13

Go and get checked out, you are not wasting their time atall !

Frozenfan2019 · 04/04/2020 22:20

Get everything ready and call back in a bit. Don't wait the full two hours maybe give it another half hour.

Thornhill58 · 04/04/2020 22:24

You most go now. Now.

PowerslidePanda · 04/04/2020 22:25

Did you tell them you now have a headache? They said to go back if you get any other pre-eclampsia symptoms, and you have - you're not wasting their time.

carly2803 · 04/04/2020 22:30

please go back!
i lived at hospital with the 2nd one. So many things were a worry - NOONE made me feel bad - go back....now!

carly2803 · 04/04/2020 22:30

please go back!
i lived at hospital with the 2nd one. So many things were a worry - NOONE made me feel bad - go back....now!

indemMUND · 04/04/2020 22:35

Go back. Think clearly now. We're in the middle of a pandemic. You're ignoring advice that would have been in place even before this. The service you require is luckily still available at the moment. It may not be for others in the near future. Why take a risk with your baby? Follow the advice given. It's not just you you have to think about. They know better, do the right thing ffs. Give it a couple of weeks, and you might not get the care and attention you and your baby need right now.

Lilymossflower · 04/04/2020 23:04

Go go go back !!!

TheTiaraManager · 04/04/2020 23:17

Please go back in Thanks

willowtree81 · 04/04/2020 23:22

No, you must go in. Don't think twice about this please.

dontgobaconmyheart · 04/04/2020 23:25

Back you go OP Smile. Absolutely the right thing to do.

FenellaMaxwell · 04/04/2020 23:26

Just go back - at my hospital we’d far rather see you than not. You are a high risk pregnancy so if you feel something isn’t right then don’t hesitate.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 04/04/2020 23:28
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