I’ve been named and ‘shamed’

[EstuaryBird]

Admittedly it’s only on our local WhatsApp group...

Opened it this morning and there’s a message from a ‘founder’ member of the group.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes. Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!! Maybe you forgot..(then a list of names including mine). Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”

I know she’s a twat but I’m fuming. I’m not going to dignify it with a reply because she and her little crew of followers love a public war. I’m just going to ignore her but if she thinks she’s forcing me out next week she’s got another bloody think coming.

Tbh if I wasn’t on lockdown I wouldn’t even give it 2 thoughts but I’m winding myself up about it now!

AIBU to think that clapping is not compulsory and nobody else’s business?

I would tag the people she tagged as non clapping and say...

Here’s X chairing a meeting for next week’s clapping

I'd just ignore her.

As much as I commend the NHS and all the other front line workers, we're shielding so I'm not about to go out and clap.

We also have our dinner at about 8pm, and it'll take a lot more than that to separate me from my food.

Really? What time would their shift start if they were still asleep at 8 pm? Do NHS staff have to justify wanting a sleep?

I hate social media bullying like this. I bet she is always surrounded by a clique of sniping little bitches.
Ok firstly you are NOT required to stand at your door and no one has a right to take names. You really need to call her out on this but I think you'll find she will use the 'I'm only trying to be helpful' defense when you call her out but at least you will have shown you're not to be triffled with.
Secondly, please don't dig your heels in and make a point of not clapping in future just to spite her. It is a very worthwhile gesture to those who have been working hard to keep us well, safe and fed during this pandemic and maybe next time you might feel like joining in the support but I'm sure you do appreciate those people keeping us going anyway.

Ghost the shit out of them OP, lol that will probably really annoy them! I haven’t clapped because I’m usually putting my baby to bed, you can still appreciate the NHS without going outside to clap every week! Absolutely sick of people trying to outdo one another in the virtue signalling.

As a firm supporter of the NHS and all their dedicated staff, I didn’t go out and clap for various reasons.

What I have seen on Facebook this morning are a lot of photos and videos of people filming themselves clapping...so it becomes much less about clapping for the NHS than people being seen clapping for the NHS. Look at me clapping for the NHS.
Any excuse.

Thanks everyone, you’ve given me a good laugh and made me feel much better.

Sympathies to those who’ve also had a bit of a backlash from the idiots, as we’re being told....Stay Indoors

@thecatsabsentcojones

I’m married to an intensive care doctor. He’d far rather people voted for the NHS to be better funded than clap. He thought it highly ironic that many Tory voters came out and clapped for an institution they didn’t prioritise in December.

People vote on more than one issue unfortunately, you can want the NHS to be better funded but still be fundamentally opposed to Labour as it currently is.

And you can appreciate the people who work in the NHS, whilst still seeing the flaws in the way it is funded, managed and administered.

@Nekoness

Bloody Hell, we didn't go out last week either although heard it through the window. I am in the middle of putting DD to bed at 8 pm and while I appreciate every single thing the NHS (and other key workers, shop workers etc) are doing at the moment I feel I can show this in other ways without deviating from the small bit of routine we have left.

Hollowtalk
Absolutely no idea what time their shift starts. But do you think the NHS workers complaining about disrupted sleep on this thread are all lying?
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3868797-I-dont-want-to-clap?msgid=95276692#95276692

I've moved in to my boyfriend's flat for the duration of the lockdown.

He lives on a small private housing estate and my lack of clapping was mentioned. FFS.

that's hilarious. I'd send a laughing emoji and a link to this thread because I'm immature like that.

Seriously though - how is this our life now? I used to have a varied social life a few weeks ago....

There are similar shenanigans in our village. Thankfully I have just moved in so I have not yet been shamed (to my knowledge at least!)

Send a link to this thread and leave the group.

She’s a looser.

Yes stay in the group because frankly, I know I also want to see how it pans out on this group and report back to us

Honestly

We went out, it's nice to do so if you want to but it's also nice as our street usually all drinks in the pub round the corner and we are all.missing the social interactions so it's part clap for Keyworkers and part waving to each other and shouting across to check on others. We put our speaker out last night and played a few tunes (I'm the pubs Friday Saturday DJ and I miss it dreadfully, the money is gone for now and the social interaction is so fun usually and the being locked in is really hard, I literally love my job).
It meant the old lady who lives opposite now has someone grabbing her some shopping today as she was running low, so the young couple next to us said to her to stick her list in the window as they needed to do some shopping anyway.

At 8pm last night I was trying to talk my terrified autistic 6 year old boy down. The loud noises from the fireworks had woken him up and he was upset a) because he was awake and b) because of the loud noise.
He finally fell asleep exhausted at 1030pm.

If anyone wants to shame me for not clapping, then bring it on.

She's trying to goad you into a reply so I wouldn't just to annoy her more. I would just leave the group and blank her from now on. I can't bear these little Hitlers.

Really? What time would their shift start if they were still asleep at 8 pm?

I don't work in the NHS, but my night shift starts at 10pm, and sometimes I sleep till the latest time I can, which can be upto about 9:40pm.

Given how these things tend to pan out, I suspect the number of people clapping each week will slowly dwindle and so the list on the naughty step will increase by the same amount until only the founder of the group is left clapping in her own.

can you report her?

Loving the responses from the other refuseniks in your street, OP, especially the last one!

So is she only naming and shaming women

Not people specifically, just house numbers. "Very disappointed to see that No.X couldn't give up 2 minutes of their time to respect the NHS"

Anyone else finding this kind of thing terrifying? We now have this virtue signalling ritual every week so the wider public can determine whether or not we are kosher. Forget the police state we are policing ourselves.

My DP won’t do the clap because he says it reminds him of something out of 1984

I work in a medical field...I would prefer if people didn't go outside and clap, often breaking social distancing in the process. For me, it is attention seeking 'look at me' behaviour so very indicative of the times in which we live. It doesn't help carers and health professionals do their difficult job and most are far too busy with patients to notice.

You could just reply that you were 'too busy' sourcing masks and gloves for carers on the internet to spare time clapping meaninglessly on the doorstep showing the rest of the street how much you 'care' and 'appreciate' the effort of the NHS. I have been handing out gloves and masks to every courier who brings items to my door in the past two weeks without the right sort of protection (not that anything is guaranteed in uncertain times). I reckon that is a bit more proactive than clapping.