I’ve been named and ‘shamed’

[EstuaryBird]

Admittedly it’s only on our local WhatsApp group...

Opened it this morning and there’s a message from a ‘founder’ member of the group.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes. Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!! Maybe you forgot..(then a list of names including mine). Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”

I know she’s a twat but I’m fuming. I’m not going to dignify it with a reply because she and her little crew of followers love a public war. I’m just going to ignore her but if she thinks she’s forcing me out next week she’s got another bloody think coming.

Tbh if I wasn’t on lockdown I wouldn’t even give it 2 thoughts but I’m winding myself up about it now!

AIBU to think that clapping is not compulsory and nobody else’s business?

Someone was filming in their front garden, and zooming in on house numbers, to post in the group and shame those who didn't go out to clap and bash pans with wooden spoons. I could not find it more funny grin

They sound like that bossy ARP warden in Dad’s Army.

I git shamed too, via facebook 😱
I was on FaceTime with my nurse sister who was showing off her lockdown diy haircut she got drunk and did despite working through lockdown... i don't know if that makes it better or worse 🤷🏻‍♀️

*rude of you
Or even just ‘rude’.

Tell her you were in the pub

Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise

There was a thread yesterday where multiple NHS workers said the noise was disrupting their sleep prior to a shift. This woman sounds like a vacuous clown. I would exit the WhatsApp group. Life is too short for this kind of BS.

People are bizarre. Our next-door neighbour pointedly and disapprovingly asked DH this morning when they were both taking the bins in if we'd forgotten last night 🙄. We hadn't, but I'd fallen asleep putting DC to bed as I'm so bloody tired from the last couple of days at work (doctor) and DH was in the shower attempting to decontaminate himself after a day at work as a police officer... In fairness he doesn't know what our jobs are, but people could have all kinds of reasons for not being out, including just not bloody wanting to!

The current outpouring of support and appreciation is lovely, but slightly galling when those making a big deal of it and policing others are usually those slagging us off the loudest at other times.

Tell her you were protecting those workers who are on night shift and need to get some sleep.

She's a twat. Ignore.

Unless they are giving away free toilet paper I would leave the group.

Tell her you were at the local care home setting off fireworks

Say you were having a massive shit and couldn’t get off the toilet quick enough

I was going to suggest claiming you were having a fantastic shag and lost track of the time, but the above is so much better!

I have left the group but obviously made MrThyme stay in, so I can see what is going on

So is she only naming and shaming women?

I’d be fuming. This exactly why this whole clapping lark is ridiculous. And I have worked for the NHS and public services my whole life.

I think one of the more upsetting things about this crisis is that it has proved that the British are so so willing to shop their neighbours, enforce rules regardless of logic (even if they are not the real rules) and shame people publicly. This blind deference to authority and groupthink is how some terrible terrible things have been allowed to happen in the world in the past.

Of course the current situation is in theory benign, but these traits do not make for a free society that supports everyone as individuals with different circumstances and values.

No YANBU

Hubs . Dear oh Dear .

Why would anyone do that?
We go out and clap, that's our choice.
It's not compulsory.
Stupid person ooh I'm really riled for you now op

I’m married to an intensive care doctor. He’d far rather people voted for the NHS to be better funded than clap. He thought it highly ironic that many Tory voters came out and clapped for an institution they didn’t prioritise in December.

Also, he’s never back at 8pm at the moment due to this virus, so it’s a bit early for medics!

Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!!

What a twat she is. I'd be fuming too but not wanting to dignify it with a response.

Maybe something like:

Disappointed to see that some of this group make assumptions that people "don't care" and have become self-appointed thought police. I'll send a reminder next week for you #virtuesignalling #twat

We forgot because it was FIL’s funeral yesterday and it was an odd day.

Half a dozen people very far apart at the graveyard, five minute service then home.

We lost track of time later until we heard the clapping and got to the front door to see everyone turning back inside.

Now I’m worried all the neighbors think we are selfish bastards.

It got silly last night, here. Airborne and fireworks woke my youngest up and it took me over an hour to get her back to sleep.

I’m incredibly grateful to ALL key workers but don’t see how a weekly clap that wakes the shift workers up will help?

The virtue signalling is making me sick. I’ve done some nice things.....haven’t posted about them because I’m not a dick head. Also, the majority voted against the best interests of the NHS not that long ago, so difficult not to feel they’re 2 faced idiots.

I’ve replied with 2 laughs and a #bekind.

Several others have replied with FGS and ‘don’t be so ridiculous’ and one other named has added a ‘Go fuck yourself’

I can’t leave, I’m far too nosey and it’d drive me mad if I don’t see how this pans out

I'd be so tempted to conspire with the other MIAs to pretend everyone was round at yours. Tell her not to worry, you all clapped together in the garden. Give her something else to stress about

skeptile it is Orwellian indeed.

There was a thread yesterday where multiple NHS workers said the noise was disrupting their sleep prior to a shift.

Really? What time would their shift start if they were still asleep at 8 pm?

I’d stay in the group and ignore the silly mate. Don’t let her push you around. If you really want to respond the “wow! #BeKind’ is excellent.

I don't normally swear but I think I'd go with that last reply.

People who have blanked me for 25 years ( whilst I was " being kind" ) are suddenly my friends and wany to stand on their doorsteps clapping.

Its utter nonsense. OP , reply with a smiley, that will wind her up , then leave the group.