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AIBU?

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Original poster

To have asked DS’s school to stop calling us?

187 replies

Syncrows · 02/04/2020 09:19

I was very polite but they keep calling and to be honest it’s a little irritating.

I requested the other day and said I’d call if we needed anything but still the daily phone calls continue - AIBU?

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Syncrows · 02/04/2020 10:00

starlight it’s because I have to stop working and once the kids see me it’s ‘mummy mummy mummy mummy ...’ Smile

Plus as people keep saying it’s safeguarding concerns or vulnerable children I AM wondering if there’s something I’m not being told.

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MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 02/04/2020 10:00

@why12345 not sure that’s true as I haven’t received a Single call about any of my three DC (all at different schools due to their age). Homework being set remotely but no phone calls from primary, high school or 6th form...

cansu · 02/04/2020 10:01

That is ridiculous and is obviously a senior management decision. You need to email the school and explain that it is unnecessary so thanks but no thanks. You might also want to suggest to them that the teachers may have other more important jobs to do so that they stop trying to make up tasks. In my school, weekly calls are made to vulnerable students. Daily is utterly ridiculous. My dd has special needs and we have had a weekly call. I find that a bit irritating but I understand why they are doing it. I would be very very annoyed by a daily call. Poor teachers!

Bibijayne · 02/04/2020 10:06

Tbh, I'd email and ask for just a weekly call. If they carry on after that I'd just block the number.

x2boys · 02/04/2020 10:07

Well it's Easter holidays now so I'm not sure why they are calling you ,@why12345 my sons at a special school with a full EHCP in place I haven't heard a peep out them certainly not twice a week ,he went off a few days before school officially closed ( other issues not related to the virus )so about three weeks ago and I had to phone them to check they were closing .

izzywizzygood · 02/04/2020 10:10

I think it's good the school care! Teachers don't seem to be able to win: lots of accusations of them not having any work to do (despite no-one truly understanding the immense workload the shift to online lessons has caused schools), and then when they are proving themselves to be working (as here), they are irritating and unnecessary!

What a fabulous teacher in my opinion: continuing daily contact so that your son does not feel alone in any aspects of his learning.

SavoyCabbage · 02/04/2020 10:10

It's not the Easter holidays everywhere.

CallmeAngelina · 02/04/2020 10:13

I thought British schools had stopped educating altogether?

Hmm Really? I know we're in lockdown, but have you also been living under a rock? How on earth could you think that?

Amymayapple · 02/04/2020 10:14

I had the same issue with a grief counsellor. I go to weekly grief counselling, this was cancelled.

Every week I have been getting multiple calls to check in and make sure I am okay, and make sure that I am aware of other services. The woman will talk on and on, when I am trying to do other things.

It would be nice if they ASKED do we want help, before offering help. Offering help without being asked is not help, it is making rhe other person feel like they are doing their job. I told her to stop calling.

Tell her to stop calling. Comminicating with them online is enough. We don't talk to teachers on the phone every day normally, and you do not need this intrusion now

wibblewobblejiggle · 02/04/2020 10:16

On behalf of all teachers out there. Schools have a safeguarding legislation in place to insure all children are called and spoken to at least once a fortnight.

We haven't had a single email, call or message from our children's school regarding them.
Only generic emails about FSM that don't apply to us :/
Is this meant to be across the country?

Lightofthephoenix · 02/04/2020 10:20

AltogetherNo

I thought British schools had stopped educating altogether?

Not in my house, one DC is doing full time school, following the same timetable as normal just via computer/zoom with teachers still teaching the lessons.

The other is being emailed work to do as and when.

Maryann1975 · 02/04/2020 10:21

@why12345 Schools have a safeguarding legislation in place to insure all children are called and spoken to at least once a fortnight this is just not true! I’ve got 3 dc, all at different schools. I made contact with one school for support and we are Now in contact with an individual link teacher a couple of times a week, with a call from the head once a week to check how we are doing. The other 2 schools, apart from generic emails, we haven’t heard anything.
Maybe your school are getting in touch with each family Once a fortnight, but this is in no way standard across the nation.

champagneandfromage50 · 02/04/2020 10:21

That would annoy me too. I have two DC on holiday and the third starts his Easter holiday next week. Each school has done something different but none have called. Everything is done online, he has to check in by 9 and get his work done and uploaded and his form tutor tells the DC if they don't log in and complete the work they will call there parents. Far better system as I am working from home and have a house full and don't need any more distractions! Would it be better to perhaps tell the school that your son will email them every evening to confirm work has been completed and Cc you into it?

starfishmummy · 02/04/2020 10:23

Don't really understand how one phone call is disturbing you working but 4 kids are not??

JingleBums · 02/04/2020 10:25

On behalf of all teachers out there. Schools have a safeguarding legislation in place to insure all children are called and spoken to at least once a fortnight. Children that are vulnerable E.g EHCP are spoken to twice a week

And what if they don't want to speak to you and refuse?

gamerchick · 02/04/2020 10:25

On behalf of all teachers out there. Schools have a safeguarding legislation in place to insure all children are called and spoken to at least once a fortnight. Children that are vulnerable E.g EHCP are spoken to twice a week

Really? My kid has an EHCP and nobody has rang me yet.

lowlandLucky · 02/04/2020 10:27

There are bigger things to worry about OP . How dare a teacher interrupt your working day to check that your sons education is on track

sandragreen · 02/04/2020 10:28

I would just block them.

JanMeyer · 02/04/2020 10:30

No EHCP. Top sets for everything

What's being in the top sets got to do with not having an EHCP?
Not all kids with ECHPs are learning disabled you know. It's perfectly possible to have a ECHP and be in the top sets for everything. I'm so sick of seeing people on MN imply all kids with ECHPs are learning disabled 😡😡

JingleBums · 02/04/2020 10:31

if they've been instructed to call you daily, then daily they will call.

Jesus christ, block the number OP

wibblewobblejiggle · 02/04/2020 10:32

@JanMeyer don't be so oversensitive. It was clearly highlighting that he doesn't have an EHCP and so doesn't need the contact. And he's in top set so isn't academically challenged. Two separate points.

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/04/2020 10:32

I would tread carefully with any communication to the school. Can you email the hoy and ask if there is any reason You should be aware of why you are receiving daily calls? State if there isn’t, request if possible a weekly call. Briefly explain your time is stretched and as far as you can ascertain he is completing assignments.

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 02/04/2020 10:34

Weekly I can understand, if my employer called me up everyday I’d also be unhappy... there has to be an element of trust.

YANBU

Theresnobslikeshowb · 02/04/2020 10:34

I’ve had loads of emails from school, hoping we are all well and any problems to contact them. Ds has been doing all of his on line work and it has been marked and he’s had feedback. I’ve not had a single phone call.

lowlandLucky · 02/04/2020 10:34

Amymayapple there are hundreds and thousands of children and adults in this country who are on waiting lists in this country waiting for counselling,be glad some body cares enough to call. My friend is a nurse and is grieving for her husband but she is having to go to work on the wards. Maybe the phone calls will stop and you will realise how important they were !