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AIBU?

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Original poster

To have asked DS’s school to stop calling us?

187 replies

Syncrows · 02/04/2020 09:19

I was very polite but they keep calling and to be honest it’s a little irritating.

I requested the other day and said I’d call if we needed anything but still the daily phone calls continue - AIBU?

OP posts:
DefConOne · 02/04/2020 09:37

My year 7 DD has an EHCP and a TA in mainstream, top sets for English, History etc, low set for Maths. We’ve had one e-mail from her TA since she’s been home. I’m happy with this as she struggles to work at home and does most homework at school. She’ll just have to catch up when school starts again.

Lazypuppy · 02/04/2020 09:39

Get your son to speak to the teacher

Original poster
Syncrows · 02/04/2020 09:40

Ok def but ds doesn’t have an EHCP.

lazy no, they specifically ask to speak to me.

OP posts:
TwistinMyMelon · 02/04/2020 09:40

Isn't it meant to be the Easter holidays?!

Summersunandoranges · 02/04/2020 09:40

Yeah that would irritate me too.

Maybe suggest they set a system up where he can email the work I’m so they can see he’s done it

Seventyone72seventy3 · 02/04/2020 09:42

I would tell them that you will be blocking all calls while you are wfh and to leave a message if it's urgent.

DefConOne · 02/04/2020 09:44

Syncrows, kind of my point. If my DD’s school are not chasing up a child who has an EHCP and could be in school now because she can’t work at home your school seems heavy handed.

ilovemydogandMrObama · 02/04/2020 09:47

Maybe best to keep in mind that after this is all over, that you will be needing to communicate with the school.

Not sure that safeguarding kicks in when children are at home with their own children? Absolutely not suggesting the OP's child is at risk, but if there were concerns, wouldn't it be the function of social services to have a care plan in place rather than the school? I don't know.

Personally would love the school to call me every day as there are so many issues I don't know where to begin!!!

Original poster
Syncrows · 02/04/2020 09:50

twist Easter starts tomorrow for us at any rate.

Sorry def misread your post.

ilovemydog’sorry I genuinely don’t understand what you mean.

OP posts:
Rubyupbeat · 02/04/2020 09:50

What a cheek, to disturb you from working, for the sake of your childs education...disgraceful!

Ragwort · 02/04/2020 09:51

Sounds great, I wish my DS’s uni tutors would keep in touch Hmm

cologne4711 · 02/04/2020 09:51

If I didn't want to take the call I just wouldn't answer it.

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cologne4711 · 02/04/2020 09:52

isn't it meant to be the Easter holidays

Not until next week in our area, I assume it's the same where the OP is.

Scbchl · 02/04/2020 09:52

We havent had one call and our school are very much saying this is an uncertain time for all children ans to do what they can of the work that's set and if they dont want to do any thats okay too. They are in primary still and my eldest has no work as her nat 5 exams have all been cancelled now.

Snaga · 02/04/2020 09:52

@TwistinMyMelon not yet. Easter hols is next week in Wales

inwood · 02/04/2020 09:53

@why12345 really?

AltogetherNo · 02/04/2020 09:54

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Fluffybutter · 02/04/2020 09:55

This is bonkers .
How annoying for families and the teachers having to check up

tootiredtoconga · 02/04/2020 09:55

The only families we are calling daily are the ones where there are safeguarding concerns. There will be different protocols in place at different schools but I'd be amazed if any school has the resources to contact parents of every child on a daily basis the way things are at the moment.

MitziK · 02/04/2020 09:57

From the teachers' points of view, it doesn't matter what you say, if they've been instructed to call you daily, then daily they will call.

After all, whilst you're irritated, they know you are there, aren't ill, your DS is safe and well and doing the work.

Which group do you think are more likely to not respond to calls - the good parents in pleasant circumstances or those who are neglectful, ill or abusive/in abusive relationships? And some of the latter group might take being singled out for calls whilst parents like you are 'left alone' as being picked on and disengage completely, leaving no way of ensuring the safety of or support for the children concerned.

ilovemydogandMrObama · 02/04/2020 09:58

@Syncrows - a poster mentioned that the school needed to get in touch for safeguarding reasons. As far as reasons for a school to be calling, I don't think this is right, and the only reason the school would call would be for schoolwork. Is it that much of a hassle just to say, 'we're doing OK, thank you for asking?'

Starlight456 · 02/04/2020 09:59

My son's scool hasn't called me or Ds.. He did nothing first week.

Some of his work is submitted some not..

HoweverI really can't see why taking a 5 minute call about your childs education is so tough.. If they called I would say you are better talking to child about his work. My DS is year 8 I make sure he is working, check missing stuff but he does the work unless he asks me for help.

Original poster
Syncrows · 02/04/2020 09:59

Seriously ragwort, your son is an adult, surely.

Hugo he is completing it although no one is marking it so I’m not honestly sure how they know if he’s done it or not!

tootired it’s DS’s form tutor, they have vertical tutor groups and y11 aren’t being contacted so about 12 phone calls a day, I think.

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oncemorewithfeeling99 · 02/04/2020 09:59

You need to complain. It’s excessive and I think most people would’ve irritated in your shoes. I would ask on the phone who you can complain to as you are being frequently disturbed. That will probably stop them.