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Best covid 'brags' you've heard?

213 replies

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 01/04/2020 23:30

My favourite was a friend talking about a neighbour that she doesn't even like very much.He is a part time assistant to a funeral director - rushed off of his feet, so brave, so busy...

I was so irritated I checked on line - seven covid deaths n the entire bloody county, none reported in that town.
And it's a large county.

OP posts:
Unbridled · 02/04/2020 23:24

@SirChing Sorry to hear about the medical difficulties you have. I have actually also previously been told that I may have fibromyalgia but don’t think of it as being a risk in the way being on strong immunosuppressants would be or having a condition like COPD. This is the advice being given on the Fibromyalgia UK webpage.

Best covid 'brags' you've heard?
Gingerkittykat · 02/04/2020 23:40

I'll just leave this here.

Is there anyone who isn't a hero right now?

Best covid 'brags' you've heard?
Femail · 02/04/2020 23:51

My brag is I go out the house 4 days a week not because I want to but because I have to Sad as I'm a shop worker and will chuck it in soon as had enough. Need to find another job first tho

Femail · 02/04/2020 23:52

Gingerkittykat

I think parents will be clapping when this is all over and kids are back at school Grin

Andromeida59 · 03/04/2020 00:01

I have a friend with Fibro and she has stated that she needs to isolate for 12 weeks. She only has Fibro and does like laying it on thick. She constantly posts about how brave she's being. I also have Fibro but I don't feel the need to brag on social media as she does. I also haven't been out the house in three weeks (last time was to the hospital). She constantly posts about how people should help each other and how others thank her for being an inspiration whilst living with Fibro.

I know what I've been doing to help others, I don't need to brag.

SirChing · 03/04/2020 02:05

@Unbridled You know Fibromyalgia UK is written by laypeople? If it's all the same, I'd rather go off what the GP, Rheumatologist and Neurologist have told me, and what more recent scientific journals have shown.

It isn't an autoimmune disease, that's right. It's a neurological disease which the newest research shows has profound effects on the immune system. It isn't the body attacking itself as in autoimmune disease. It's the body having too strong an immune response to things like viruses. So people with fibro are more susceptible to things like cytokine storm.

It's also frequently found in tandem with diseases that are auto immune in origin. Like IBS (recent research suggests it is likely to be auto immune in nature). Like Ehlers-Danlos, hypothyroidism, Hashimotos etc. Because it is linked to immunity in a major way.

So I am quite happy to say that whilst Fibromyalgia UK have written what was known about fibro say 10 years ago, it certainly isn't up to date with recent developments.

Also, when some of us are bedridden for six months due to a severe immune response to a stimulus like a virus or vaccine, it isn't really convincing when anyone says that doesn't happen.

SirChing · 03/04/2020 02:10

*She only has Fibro and does like laying it on thick"

Well if you have it too, you should know that people differ in their severity of it. One of my friends who has it can work and do Zumba. She doesn't think I am laying it on thick that I can't stand or walk far. That my mum has to sometimes help me dress. That I am bedbound with pain a good 5 out of 7 days.

It might "only" be fibro to you. But it's stolen my ability to parent my daughter, my marriage, my career, and my future. That's the reality.

I am pissed off with people who have mild versions of conditions thinking that because they are ok that every one is. It's so fucking offensive and hurtful. Fuck right off with your "only fibro" and "laying it on thick" Angry

Unbridled · 03/04/2020 06:42

@SirChing I read “only has Fibromyalgia” to mean the friend does not have any other conditions, not a judgement of how bad fibromyalgia makes anyone feel. You don’t know how severe anyone else’s illness is either. It is up to people individually to decide how much to self isolate, people generally are recommended to do so as much as possible but obviously everybody can’t do it completely as there are only so many delivery slots etc and some healthier people are needed to help others.
I agree with going with professional medical opinion, that’s why I am trusting the list that has been published of the conditions that are extremely high risk and which require people who have them to shield- fibromyalgia is not on it. I appreciate your doctor may have given you different advice and that you are right to follow that. I don’t see high risk as meaning ‘you might feel really bad if you catch the coronavirus’ but rather ‘you are at high risk of dying if you catch the coronavirus’. It is a new virus and so nobody has any immune protection to it to stop them getting unwell with it but there are certain people who are far more likely to become seriously ill and require hospital care and, as we all know, there are serious concerns about that.
I wish you well with your health and really hope you are not affected by it.

SirChing · 03/04/2020 07:57

@Unbridled Ah I see what you mean. Sure, chances are I won't (fingers crossed) die from it. Though I have already had symptoms and no idea whether that was "it" or not. For me it's not about dying but about being really debilitatingly disabled after if it induces a fibro flare. But I totally get that's nothing like the same league as dying. It just felt like people were saying it was nothing much. When it really and truly is for some of us. I bleedin hate the fucker! Hope you get through it all unscathed too.

Dyrne · 03/04/2020 08:10

SirChing Certainly for me as well it’s not the fact that people have these conditions or are concerned for their health. Even posting for support is perfectly acceptable. For me, I get annoyed when people use their condition or their vulnerability as a sort of trump card; like they are “winning” in the sympathy stakes and everyone else should just suck it up because they’ll never have it as bad etc etc.

SirChing · 03/04/2020 08:27

@Dyrne That is irritating. One if my mates has an organ transplant. I am under no illusions that he is far more at risk than I will ever be.

I think sometimes, people like me are a bit sensitive to how things are written. Because lots of people don't even believe fibro is "real" and they do tend to judge other people's functioning by their own. When your own life has been decimated by it, it's hard to read stuff which seems to minimise it. That's all. Perhaps it's me being oversensitive, I don't know.

Absolutepowercorrupts · 03/04/2020 08:52

Just goes to show how many people don't read the opening post properly.
Very many posters have really missed the point completely.

Andromeida59 · 03/04/2020 18:51

As with most illnesses, people have different experiences. My Fibro is severe, I'm losing my job because of it. You have my absolute sympathies, I am genuinely sorry that you have it so bad.
It is incorrect for me to call her a friend, she is more an acquaintance. I think my animosity towards her is because she claims to have every illness going. I fell for it, time and time and time again. I supported her financially, emotionally and had her stay at our home. As soon as I started saying no to her various requests, I was no longer useful and she moved on to someone else. I think her behaviour grates on me because I do not use my condition to biblically gain sympathy whilst also playing the saint card.

myself2020 · 03/04/2020 19:30

my cousin is a nhs gp, and her facebook is full of boasts on how brave she is under the circumstances. only - her daughter developed a cough about 10 days ago (that weirdly enough isn’t audible on any videos), so she has been self isolating for 10 days. she thinks her younger daughter might have caught it as well, and she might have to self isolate for another 14 days.

teainthetardis · 07/04/2020 06:42

Anyone posting about how they’re getting 80% pay on furlough but are just so grateful for anything

Come the fuck on

okiedokieme · 07/04/2020 07:30

@everydayisaduvetday

My friend is a funeral director, they are busy because people are dying, just not of covid 19. He said business was up for the time of year and he's staff down because they are isolating. I've been asked if I was willing to help out on the phone (done it before)

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 07/04/2020 08:06

@Spidey66 - glad you got your brakes fixed, and also that I'm not the only person in the world that thinks nextdoor.com is full of weirdos!

@okiedokieme - I am not that Funeral Directors will be busier, it was just that this was extremely early on, in a region with v. low infection rates and mortality, and the whole 'I'm at the centre of the universe because my nextdoor neighbour....." attitude.
Lots of organisations are far busier than pre-covid, mine included, projects & strategies with months of work being shifted 350 degrees (and yes, 350 not a typo, because they retain a microcosm of the original)

As @Absolutepowercorrupts above mentioned, many posters on this thread seem to have missed point of a light hearted chat about peoples experiences of similar situations/brags.

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Oliversmumsarmy · 07/04/2020 08:17

There is a thread at the moment where someone says they haven't left their house in 24 days

Dp hasn’t left the house in the 22 days. He has s part of the vulnerable group and started to not go out a week before he received a letter.

He is keeping himself to his self for the most part of the day.

He is going slowly up the wall.

LolaSmiles · 07/04/2020 08:41

Oliversmumsarmy We have relatives in the same position. They're also going up the wall. We're doing some deliveries for them.
It's not a brag, like some think it is.

Oliversmumsarmy · 07/04/2020 08:46

Really worried about Dps MH as he took retirement at Christmas and was finding it so difficult that he was looking for another job.

His mum has dementia and is in a nursing home and he is starting to act like her.

Circe32 · 07/04/2020 11:08

A recent post on our local fb page on some idiot throwing a brick at a car got the following response:
"Had it done to me last yr and I’m a key worka!!!"
So, bricks should only be thrown at non-key workers? Bit of an underhanded 'I'm special' brag lol
Our fb page is a hoot Grin

Snowboarder45 · 07/04/2020 11:24

Apparently, someone I work with was the first to get it in our city and now they have it again! Hmm

FunkyKingston · 07/04/2020 13:55

Apparently, someone I work with was the first to get it in our city and now they have it again

Ha, that's nothing, I've gone retro and got Swine Flu.

FirstNameSurname · 07/04/2020 15:37

I know someone who has had it right at the start (didn't go abroad, knows no one who has and lives rurally) despite our local hospital announcing they were yet to see a case. Shes now posting about a second bout of CV shes now had "confirmed". Worst than the first apparently so everyone needs to bow down to her, even those with active symptoms because shes on her second round. Same person has just announced shes trying for a baby while she has CV.

One neighbour is has a key worker role and speaks as though hes on the wards having physical contact with patients. Hes a lorry driver and while an important role the constant reminders that his risk and sacrifice are, to his mind, equal to doctors and nurses on our local FB page is tiring. If a pub posts about delivering food he will berate them for not giving him and his family a free meal. Saying they aren't supporting key workers.

Many people have claimed to have "the letter" and shielding for 12 weeks but then posting daily pictures of them out and about not social distancing much less shielding themselves.

uggmum · 07/04/2020 17:20

Circe32 I saw that post on my local Facebook group. I loved the poster who said, "she's a locksmith"
Really made me laugh 😂