Teaching Assistant disappointed by my 7 year old!!

[Bingeslayer]

This is certainay not a teacher/TA bashing thread,I'm a TA myself.And I know there's much bigger things going on right now.
Anyway,one of the parents of dd's friend and classmate posted a pic on fb of her Dd doing some assigned work.
I commented to say,messing about"tell her to have a word with Dd as she won't do it for me without a fight".Other mum said"oh I told her I'd show Mrs ** if she doesnt".
Now Mrs * is a TA who covers their class one morning a week,so most kids assume she's a teacher,I myself did for quite some time,for context she is known as the "shouty teacher",anyway,said TA is friends with other mum on fb and left a comment addressed to me"Mrs Bingeslayer tell * I am disappointed in her!!! No lol or smiling emoji so deadly serious.
Aibu to think wtf,we as adults are stressed out never mind a 7 year old who's isolating after being ill,so doesnt even get her 1 walk,doesn't get to go to school or see her friends or go out to play.

Bit of an overreaction by you by the sounds of things!

Are the triple exclamation marks yours or hers? If hers, I tend to take multiple exclamation marks as a sign that a comment isn't to be taken too seriously.

I think - in the nicest possible way - you are overthinking this. Why do you care about a comment from a TA on Facebook? Why does her disappointment (or not) matter?

It would get my back up too, but I’m sure it was probably meant as a joke.

So you're annoyed about two adults having a laugh with each other regarding one of their children?

I think you're being a bit uptight.

You are so over reacting. I thought you were going to say she threatened your DD directly she would tell Mrs XXX.
I threaten my DD all the time with telling her Teacher she is a nightmare for me, she would hate Teacher to see past her mask.

Eh what now? Isn’t she trying to help? So you don’t have a fight on your hands?

It sounds like she was joking....

She's obviously an arse. I would have to comment saying that I wasn't disappointed in my DD because of how fantastic she's being generally during isolation , even if she's not keen on doing that one thing.

This place never ceases to amazing at times.
Take no notice of the previous replies. YANBU. Fancy saying that to a bloody child.
It’s going to be hard enough to get some kids to go back to school as it is.

Yeah I think she was joking. It’s hard to tell isn’t it from a few words on a screen. She might not be the emoji type either so tried to convey her joking tone with a few extra exclamation marks. Of course those exclamation marks can also mean the opposite so it’s confusing!

It's obviously a joke.

Mum 1 said kid is doing the work
You said your kid isn't
Mum1 explained the thread of MRS X works (and I assumed tagged her)
MRS X played to her role (shouty teacher?!? Parent threat) and replied with the textbook "I'm so disappointed in child".

I don't think she's done anything wrong here. You were the one publicly declaring that your daughter was refusing to do the set work. I'd think more carefully about what you share online and who with if you have an issue with it garnering comments.

Just not putting a smiley doesn’t mean it’s deadly serious! The tone if that whole situation is Lighthearted so YABVU!

I mean, if you really think she wasn't joking (it sounds like she was joining in with your joke though) just don't tell your 7 year old she wrote that on fb? Definitely an overreaction OP, although I can appreciate this is an unusually stressful time. Deep breath and let it go!

I think isolation is sending you a bit doolally op.

babyspider she hasn’t said it to a child...she said it on a post to another adult...

Surely an unwritten rule is to put a laughing emoji at the end of a comment. If you don’t know how it’ll be taken.

But you started this with "tell her to have a word with..." it's just banter. The shouty teacher wasn't going to put an emoji on a post that's playing along with your banter. Just laugh about it and move on.

That is clearly not a serious comment and seems entirely appropriate for the conversation you were having

Oh dear.

You're being very unreasonable.

@Awwlookatmybabyspider I’m presuming the child hasn’t seen the post on FB so wasn’t actually said to the child.

Water off a duck’s back OP. I’d take it as a joke, but if it wasn’t, who cares if she’s disappointed?

So she’s slagging off a child to another parents. No that’s not great either.

Oh and obviously it's a message which serious or not, you can decide to ignore and not pass on if you decide. She said it to you not your child. So the effect on your daughter is irrelevant.