Teaching Assistant disappointed by my 7 year old!!

[Bingeslayer]

This is certainay not a teacher/TA bashing thread,I'm a TA myself.And I know there's much bigger things going on right now.
Anyway,one of the parents of dd's friend and classmate posted a pic on fb of her Dd doing some assigned work.
I commented to say,messing about"tell her to have a word with Dd as she won't do it for me without a fight".Other mum said"oh I told her I'd show Mrs ** if she doesnt".
Now Mrs * is a TA who covers their class one morning a week,so most kids assume she's a teacher,I myself did for quite some time,for context she is known as the "shouty teacher",anyway,said TA is friends with other mum on fb and left a comment addressed to me"Mrs Bingeslayer tell * I am disappointed in her!!! No lol or smiling emoji so deadly serious.
Aibu to think wtf,we as adults are stressed out never mind a 7 year old who's isolating after being ill,so doesnt even get her 1 walk,doesn't get to go to school or see her friends or go out to play.

Oh and btw the "she's not a teacher even if the kids think so ,she's a TA" and "shouty teacher" sneery bits were not relevant to the story.

Yabvu.

You chose to make the comment. She joined in.

Your child has no reason to know about it. Unless you want to use it as a way to help motivate if you think that would help

Sounds like she was just joining in what was clearly a light-hearted chat.

Over reaction.

Cool your beans! You were the one who started it by saying you couldn’t motivate your child to work. Your pal then brought poor Mrs TA into it as some sort of terrifying shouty ogre, Mrs TA isn’t of being upset that she is used as some sort of dire threat against lazy children plays along, and then you get the arse. If you don’t want her commenting on your child, either you don’t post about her, or block Mrs TA.

She’s trying to support and help you. As you said- publicly- that your child wasn’t doing the work

If you hadn’t have started it I’d say it was unprofessional - but given you mentioned the TA in the first place..? I’d tell your DD that Mrs x is disappointed she won’t do her work when mum asks but do at school. As that’s what she’s saying (with your prompting). Agree it’s an overreaction - we are all a bit touchy at the moment, you’re reading too much into this

I think she was joking.

I think the isolation is going to your head.

I don't know if my brain just isn't working but I had to read that several times to get the gist of what was going on!

Anyway the TA was either deadly serious or she just doesn't use excessive punctuation or emojis. My mum is a bit like this and so her texts can often come across as abrupt at times but it is not intended.

I'm sure she wasn't actually implying that your daughter is a lazy layabout!

Let it go, pour yourself a glass of wine and don’t let it wind you up! It was maybe a bit clumsy but it doesn’t look like it was meant with any kind of seriousness! We’re all a bit wound up now, just forget about it.

She should have put a laughing emoji. It can be so hard to gauge the tone in written messages so I can see why you're upset.

FFS people managed before emojis were invented!

So because no smiley face it’s deadly serious As if!
Btw school staff should not be fb friends with parents!

You joked about your daughter not working. Your friend joked back, the TA joined in the joke.

It's really just as simple as that.

And this is why staff shouldn't have parents on FB (yes even if they have children in the school). I don't think YABU OP, if you were friendly with the TA then maybe I'd laugh it off but there was no need for her to jump in to the conversation like that

I'm just amazed Mrs TA is seeing fit to comment on anything school related. It can only end in tears.

Come on OP this is so obviously a joke

She didn't even do it of her own accord, she literally replied to you after you were joking about your child not doing school work.

Report her to the board of education. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

no need for her to jump in to the conversation like that

She was tagged in the conversation fgs!

Apologies I don't think she was actually tagged but her name was certainly mentioned. Maybe don't have a conversation about someone, mentioning their name, openly on a public social media site where they can see it if you don't want said person to 'jump in to the conversation'.

saraclara

Oh come on, you know it's never as simple as that. Mrs xxx has form, probably looks at people funny, has possibly walked past a friend of the OP without smiling, and I dare say she eats the odd naughty child for her lunch when she feels so inclined ,.......

Wow. Just. Wow.

Op, stay off FB for a while. Maybe take a break from all social media.

In the nicest possible way OP, get a grip!!!