Teaching Assistant disappointed by my 7 year old!!

[Bingeslayer]

This is certainay not a teacher/TA bashing thread,I'm a TA myself.And I know there's much bigger things going on right now.
Anyway,one of the parents of dd's friend and classmate posted a pic on fb of her Dd doing some assigned work.
I commented to say,messing about"tell her to have a word with Dd as she won't do it for me without a fight".Other mum said"oh I told her I'd show Mrs ** if she doesnt".
Now Mrs * is a TA who covers their class one morning a week,so most kids assume she's a teacher,I myself did for quite some time,for context she is known as the "shouty teacher",anyway,said TA is friends with other mum on fb and left a comment addressed to me"Mrs Bingeslayer tell * I am disappointed in her!!! No lol or smiling emoji so deadly serious.
Aibu to think wtf,we as adults are stressed out never mind a 7 year old who's isolating after being ill,so doesnt even get her 1 walk,doesn't get to go to school or see her friends or go out to play.

She's playing along with the original comment your friend made, you are being ridiculous

I read it as a joke as well. You didn't use emojis but you were joking.

You are majorly overreacting.

Awww nope OP slagged her own daughter off that she's not doing the work. The other mum said she got her kids to do it by threatening to tell MRS X. Then MrS X replied to that comment.

I would have thought there was a rule about discussing a child on fb. Not very professional.

Come on OP - YOU said your DD wouldn't do it without a fight, (really - a fight? What a physical fight?? or were you joking perhaps?) You asked friend's DD to "have a word" with your DD. (What really? Or were you joking?) etc etc etc.

So YABU

Sounds like she is continuing a joke you started and you've decided to get precious about it.

I would have thought there was a rule about discussing a child on fb. Not very professional

For teacher, yes. TAs tend to be a different matter, because they tend to be part of the local community and their kids might be in class with kids at the school etc. She shouldn't be discussing any information that she has gained due to her position within the school with outsiders, as that would be a breach of confidentiality. But she's not done that here.

So you said to a mum that her child should "have a word" with yours?

Said mum replied that she had "threatened" to tell the TA-which was why her daughter was doing the work?

TA then joined in?

Blimey!

I'd just have asked the mum how she had got her daughter to sit down & do the work?

Can't see that what anyone else said was any worse/different to what you did, Op.

Maybe she forgot the LOL or emoji/didn't realise you'd take it seriously?

For goodness sake get a grip!

Wise up!

Sounds like a joke to me. It doesn't sound like she is actually disappointed.

Your child won’t have actually seen this message though? I would have taken it as a joke - that you started!

She's joking! She was trying to be friendly. No way would she write that with ill intent to your daughter. She saw your joke and joined in.

You said something... jokingly.
Your friend replied... jokingly.
The TA replied... jokingly. What she said was no different to what you/your friend said.

she didn't say it to your child...

But no harm done, surely, because as the TA would have known, you'd not be letting your 7 year old on Facebook, would you?

So she's fine and oblivious and you're a grown-up so presumably understand that no TA would use Facebook to actually assess a child's work professionally, so it must be her playing along with her friend's joke.

Child fails to complete set work.
Educator disappointed.

What's the issue?

yabvvu - you said yourself you can't get her to work - maybe the TA is trying to help!

anyway she hasn't said anything in the slightest bit out of order - I bet if she'd responded with a 'ah let her have some time off' you'd have been up in arms about that as well

unbelievable OP seriously

YABU and ridiculous. You started the joke and other people carried it on.

Bingeslayer - I think you need to remember that people who are stressed out, as you clearly are and have admitted to being, sometimes lose the capacity for rational thought. It doesn’t make any sense to interpret that comment made on Facebook as deadly serious, so stop doing so! How you decide to interpret the comment is actually within your control. So stop upsetting yourself - unless you are spoiling for an unnecessary argument. I would have interpreted the comment as the TA making fun of herself and her reputation.

Perhaps you could stop posting negative comments about your child on fb.
I’d assume the TA was joining in with your request to your friend to ‘Have a word’ You should tell your friend that she’s disappointed you.

Has your child actually seen the comment from the TA?

As the child won't (hopefully) see it I can't see a problem - unless you show her to get her working!

You posted about fighting with your child about doing their school work - the TA was trying to be helpful/supportive of you