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Starting to get annoyed at people who don't think rules apply to them

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WelcomeToShootingStars · 30/03/2020 08:42

So the rules say we can go outside for 1 form of exercise a day. Yet I see so many people saying things like "but we live in the countryside and it's quiet", or "my dog is used to 3 walks a day" etc

Then there's the newer stipulation of not driving anywhere non essential. And yet I see people saying it's OK less than 10 miles, or it's OK if you're driving somewhere remote to exercise.

Why are people unable to make such a tiny miniscule sacrifice? And why do they think the rules (designed to keep everybody safe) apply to everybody else but them?

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teablanket · 30/03/2020 09:19

1981m - I live in an urban area and we've been advised to run around the neighbourhood (along pavements). What makes your area unsuitable?

cherrybunx0 · 30/03/2020 09:26

to echo what others have said I think basic common sense has to apply here. Boris couldn't really single out individual circumstances and has made a blanket statement of "once a day". I live next to a private field - you have to literally go through parts of my property to get there and would not know about it unless you were aware it's there (ie. you had been a visitor here before). I go out for a run first thing, then take my daughter for a stroll in the afternoon. havent seen another person. unfortunately, most people dont have this and live in pretty populated areas so if everyone was going out multiple times then much more likely to not be able to practice social distancing.

not saying it doesnt suck for those living in cities but it is what it is. I do agree about the driving places to exercise though. however, I dont think this is because of the accident argument predominantly but kore to avoid the scenes we had weekend before last where people drive to the beaches and places like mount snowdon in large numbers (that was just silly imo and if I had gone somewhere like that and seen it so busy I would of turned around)

Changeofname79 · 30/03/2020 09:29

@teablanket exactly. And let's face it, it really isn't essential anyway. There are plenty of alternatives and people are just full of lame excuses. People are being stopped in cars for non essential journeys and it has been very clearly stated you are not allowed to drive somewhere to take your daily exercise.

Also there are so many people who never bothered exercising before are out every day as if they couldn't possibly manage without their daily run.

Whatwedontknow · 30/03/2020 09:30

@TeenPlusTwenties
I think partly because rules are there 'for the obedience of fools and the guidance of wise men'.
I love this Grin

@LolaSmiles Mon 30-Mar-20 09:09:29
Great post, ironically followed by @1981m

cherrybunx0 · 30/03/2020 09:32

@change that's unreasonable because the people who never used to go out for a walk/run etc. would of been going out other places. it's not good for mental health to sit indoors all say every day for an extended period of time (unless this was your life anyway) especially for those without access to an outdoor space such as a garden. very ignorant comment

QuimReaper · 30/03/2020 09:33

It's only been a week but I am stunned at how some people interpret it. A friend posted on FB this weekend a photo of her alone in a local beauty spot someone else took the photo not a selfie. Said beauty spot is within walking distance but not half an hour.

Cue a myriad of posts saying how did you get there did you drive because you couldn't even walk there take a quick photo and walk back in an hour.

Where did this "only an hour" thing come from? It it just a MN shared delusion?

PurpleDaisies · 30/03/2020 09:35

People are being stopped in cars for non essential journeys and it has been very clearly stated you are not allowed to drive somewhere to take your daily exercise.

Has it?

poppadopolis · 30/03/2020 09:39

Oh fgs if someone lives in the middle of no where and sees no one ever then of course they can go out whenever..

Well no, not here in France.........because people who don't live in the middle of nowhere couldn't use the sense that they were born with.

I can go to the supermarket/pharmacy. Other than that, I am restricted to staying within 1km of my house.

anotherlittlechicken · 30/03/2020 09:40

@WelcomeToShootingStars

I live in a very low population area, like only 150 people in a 2 mile square area. (About 55-60 homes.) So some people have been going for walks 3 or 4 times a day because they can, as we are surrounded by fields and woodlands, and the chance of seeing someone is slight, and you can easily stay 15-20 feet away.

I have only been going for one walk a day, because I can't be arsed to go for any more, but dog walkers are out 3-4 times a day. A few cyclists and people who usually go to the gym every day are out 2 or 3 times a day too (cycling or jogging.)

As a few posters have said, if people can go out more than once a day, (because they are in a very low population, rural area,) then there is no reason why they shouldn't really.

Icantrememebrtheartist · 30/03/2020 09:41

I agree with the restrictions we're being asked to live by at the moment - they're for our own good!

BUT - I do think there is such a variance on where people live. For example, where I live I can go for a walk at 7am and see no one! If I go for a walk at 8am I might see one or two people. We have a local well stocked little Tesco express and I've just walked straight in at 8.30am. I live in a village where there are young families but there's also quite an elderly population and by how quiet it is I can only imagine most are self isolating. There is a big difference between here and London (I'm from London).

JustStayAtHome · 30/03/2020 09:44

Now the sun has gone back in so have the people. It’s cold again

Where are all the new runners I saw last week?? There were loads all in shiny new trainers

StVincent · 30/03/2020 09:45

Very very few people live somewhere with “no-one around”, not even a few neighbours or other walkers. My mum lives at the end of a track (not even road) and is self-isolating. Putting the bins out last week she saw hordes of walkers and some bellend in a car even got out to ask her for advice on somewhere they could go for a walk! She couldn’t do much more to isolate but all these people determined to get out into the quiet places are putting her at risk.

anotherlittlechicken · 30/03/2020 09:45

@PurpleDaisies

Yes it HAS been stated that you should not DRIVE anywhere to get exercise. Many times.

Have you been living in a cave for the past few weeks?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-52062209

www.thesun.co.uk/motors/11240469/drive-coronavirus-lockdown-exercise-uk-travel/

www.telegraph.co.uk/politics/2020/03/27/public-warned-not-drive-countryside-exercise-following-confusion/

www.walesonline.co.uk/news/uk-news/government-says-you-can-drive-17998680

Macncheeseballs · 30/03/2020 09:46

And the ones who say 'my dog needs 3 walks a day'. I need 3 walks a day ffs. I am a very outdoorsy person who likes walking running cycling but I haven't done any of that whilst self isolating. Why do dogs get special dispensation

PurpleDaisies · 30/03/2020 09:48

Those articles don’t say you can’t drive to somewhere local to exercise.
You need to read your own articles...
While the new advice does go further, it does not explicitly define what counts as "local", and whether or not people can use cars.
This is in the bbc one.

Changeofname79 · 30/03/2020 09:50

@cherrybunx0 that's not what I was saying but probably badly worded. I work in mental health so I know very well what exercise does for mental health, most definitely not ignorant but apologise for coming across that way. I typed quickly and didn't think through how I was saying it.

I was meaning the people who are on facebook saying how they can't possibly not go out for a run etc daily and need to do this, that and the other also when they really wouldn't usually. My kids did about 10 hours a week of relatively high level sport and can't do anything if course but we are still managing to follow the guidelines and not make a big deal of FB about how it is so much harder for us and make excuses as to why we have to bend the rules as we're so special.

I quite agree that people need to get out the house for fresh air for our sanity etc but let's follow the rules eh and not pile down country parks, beaches etc (before they were shut this week) when you usually wouldnt. A walk locally is surely sufficient.

TabbyMumz · 30/03/2020 09:52

"People are being stopped in cars for non essential journeys andit has been very clearly stated you are not allowed to drive somewhere to take your daily exercise.

Has it?"
No it hasnt. When this was queried, he said to keep it local. He still didnt explicitly state you absolutely cannot drive to your walk.

Changeofname79 · 30/03/2020 09:53

I have definitely heard it stated on the news bulletins that you should not be driving to do your exercise. It is non essential travel either way.

TabbyMumz · 30/03/2020 09:56

News bulletins perhaps, but not Boris. The news and the police often interpret things in different ways. People can still drive to work if they cant work at home....that doesnt stop the police stopping people to ask where they are going etc and asking where they are a key worker.

Whatwedontknow · 30/03/2020 09:57

@QuimReaper

Michael Gove has offered some clarity on exactly how long people can exercise outside for during the coronavirus lockdown. The minister appeared on the BBC’s Marr programme on Sunday morning, where he spoke about the sacrifices people are making, as well as offering guidance on how long people should be leaving the house for exercise.

“Obviously it depends on each individual’s fitness,” he said. “But I would have thought that for most a walk of up to an hour, or a run of 30 minutes, or a cycle ride between that, depending on their level of fitness, is appropriate.”

Of course it's only guidance which means those who don't want to take the advice won't.

anotherlittlechicken · 30/03/2020 09:58

@Macncheeseballs

And the ones who say 'my dog needs 3 walks a day'. I need 3 walks a day ffs. I am a very outdoorsy person who likes walking running cycling but I haven't done any of that whilst self isolating.

Why do dogs get special dispensation?

Is this actually a serious post? Please say you're kidding.

Changeofname79 · 30/03/2020 09:59

Various police forces have also mentioned the driving situation. . .

Starting to get annoyed at people who don't think rules apply to them
cherrybunx0 · 30/03/2020 10:00

@Changeofname79 okay that's fair enough. I actually already agreed about the driving to places etc. and crowding beaches/snowdon to exercise in my first post so no argument there

Inthepurplerain · 30/03/2020 10:00

Yup.
My husband wants to drive to the post office today to post non essential items.
I’m fuming.
I cannot get it into his clearly thick skull that this is not essential and putting others at risk.

😖

Changeofname79 · 30/03/2020 10:02

@TabbyMumz agreed, I don't think it was on his briefings. Many police forces, including our local one are sending people home if they are travelling to places to exercise, dog walk etc. In fact my friend was travelling for what she believed was an essential journey and was sent home. The police agreed it was for an extremely important reason but not technically essential and they would not budge on this. It wasnt exercise or a dog walk.

It could well be the interpretation of the police but people are definitely being stopped and sent home.