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To be utterly sick of all the social media virtue signalling right now

286 replies

lightnesspixie · 29/03/2020 09:47

Just that really

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lljkk · 29/03/2020 11:20

My facebook is fine. Nothing doing my head in there... well ,I can snooze or hide/block memes from folk that I don't agree with. Quickly sorted.

MN does my head in though: the self-isolation police. Just do one, I want to tell the self-appointed enforcers.

Also the people who are in very low risk categories who are utterly terrified of getting cv19. 80% of us will find it no worse than unpleasant and can manage it at home. Stop fretting like it's zombie plague. We need to slow it down not live in abject terror of it.

lmcneil003 · 29/03/2020 11:21

I agree. People clapping the other night, people wearing poppies, etc

All virtue signalling. Charity should not be marketed and publicised. Discuss...

majesticallyawkward · 29/03/2020 11:21

I'm also seeing a lot of utter BS being posted to SM seemingly just so the poster can be annoyed. One was something like 'all single parents they aren't telling you!!!!! kids can't go in shops from monday!!!!! You won't be able to go in a shop with your kids to get food!!! ITS THE LAW!!!!!' With a stream of incensed rage at this new 'law'. Complete crap and anyone could have checked that... much easier to rage about the government and their laws (that don't exist 🤦‍♀️)

All the announcing of people who have done a good deed is cringey and those praising the saints in the NHS who 3 weeks ago were on Facebook complaining about the useless doctors!
I've been helping out neighbours who are isolating but never felt the need to broadcast it, it's something I would do anyway.

One of the most infuriating is one mum I have on fb who is constantly posting photos of her and her kids doing such nice wholesome things... like going to the beach - but it's ok it's a nice secluded spot- to build a den, walks in the countryside, popping drawings through people's doors 😡 all with #stayhome #staysafe

lozster · 29/03/2020 11:24

So glad it’s not just me thinking this!

I was invited to join a group mail dropping houses in the (large) village I live in. I declined as I know all the people in my street and two roads off it and already help. I then realised that the plan wasn’t to encourage people to help their neighbours but to do a mass mail drop (I’ve done 500 today guys! C’mon we can get another 1000 out). Meanly I really hope his phone rings to infinity.

And the judgement, my god. Even on the hoarding - super markets say sales went up 10%. Well, I’m now isolating from an elderly relative so it’s a bloody good job I did stock her up (not crazily obviously 🙄) for the next couple of weeks as I’m not able to get a supermarket delivery.

I had another relative trying to push for ‘baskets only’ at the supermarket. He lives next door to a supermarket! I am 6 miles from the nearest one and 30miles from the elderly relative who needs the shopping. 🙄

I have two observations. One, people’s behaviour may not be as irrational as portrayed. Two, people always assume that everyone else’s situation is the same as their own.

Fivefourthree · 29/03/2020 11:24

I quite like the clap for carers, but more for in the spirit of community coming together at a time social distancing.
I'd like to think that all the people who keep the country running start being appreciated and treated way better, now and into the future.
I've been looking at ways I can assist too, and like many of you, I don't feel the need to shout about it.

LolaDarkdestroyer · 29/03/2020 11:25

I saw a post a couple of days ago, woman mid 30's...I don't work for them anymore but 20 years of nhs service behind me, strong arm emoji blah blah...cue all the you're amazing, you're an angel erm really? I just didn't see the point the nhs workers of today aren't posting this shit they do their job and don't seek praise how fucking self indulgent can a person be, I was actually 😮

NewYearNewJob123 · 29/03/2020 11:28

Just saw someone post about how their DP said they were going to the shop for bread and they told them not to be stupid because she could make some and therefore 'save lives'.

Alsohuman · 29/03/2020 11:29

I can deal with the virtue signalling, it was always going to happen. It’s the rise of the neo Stasi I hate, in fact it terrifies me.

BlimeyCalmDown · 29/03/2020 11:30

I'm loving the positivity of the community coming together! Mixed with all the funny quarantine funny posts. Bunch of misery guts on here!

justmyview · 29/03/2020 11:31

And at Christmas, we will see virtue signalling in a different guise ie
"I'm not sending Christmas cards this year, because I've decided to give money to charity instead"

If you don't want to send Christmas cards, that's fine. I don't mind. But don't pretend that sending Christmas cards / giving to charity are mutually exclusive

ShamefulBlanket · 29/03/2020 11:32

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goldpartyhat · 29/03/2020 11:35

I have a serial virtue signalling Facebook friend. Very left wing, socialist leaning etc etc. If she wasn't such a lovely person I'd block her!

I've snoozed someone who is constantly posting Coronavirus info, never good, for 30 days

multivac · 29/03/2020 11:35

I can deal with the virtue signalling, it was always going to happen. It’s the rise of the neo Stasi I hate, in fact it terrifies me.

This, this and this.

ravenmum · 29/03/2020 11:36

Very meta thread starter 😂
Posting on what could well be described as a social media website to signal your virtue about how you are not signalling your virtue on other social media sites Grin
(sorry OP, not serious criticism, just made me laugh!)

NeedToKnow101 · 29/03/2020 11:39

What I hate is the long philosophical ramblings of people, pontificating about how we will all change and be kinder to each other as a result of this, blah blah blah. (I don't read them but it annoys my just seeing them).

Saw a meme recently: "I always wanted to be able to read people's minds, then I joined Facebook." This is how I feel about it!

tappitytaptap · 29/03/2020 11:40

I am purposely not posting anything in relation to it, it’s obviously virtue signalling and ‘look at me, look how well I am doing at self isolation, please praise me’. The one that is winding me up most, ‘we are just being asked to sit on our sofas’, well no, me and DH are expected to continue working from home whilst looking after two preschoolers. Not much sitting around doing nothing there is there?!

cantata · 29/03/2020 11:48

I like this thread.

OP, YADNBU a thousand times over.

Unescorted · 29/03/2020 11:54

I am happy for people to put the notes through & understand that duplication occurs. I am happy for them to be received (see the last part of the original post) - It is the endless flagging on Facebook that it has been done that is the virtue signalling. Look at me I have dropped notes in all the ugly bungalows - all of us who live in them say thanks, but not needed as we are able bodied. Next day - Hi I have dropped notes to all the ugly bungalows. Still not needed but thanks. Next day ….. nope still not needed. I have had 8 of them so far, all from the same "co-ordinated" group.

Lucianation · 29/03/2020 11:55

Seriously horrific, and if I hear one more ‘comedy’ song played on acoustic guitar about how everyone needs to stay in and wash their hands, I will not be responsible for my actions.

PeterFoggsTractor · 29/03/2020 11:59

The thing I'm finding fascinating (have worked in many different NHS settings) is that ex colleagues who are working in arms length NHS organisations far removed from anything patient related are all changing their FB profile photo to one with an NHS frame. Not a single frontline NHS worker I know has done that, they're just going about their days very quietly. It's very interesting.

RickOShay · 29/03/2020 12:01

That thought crossed my mind too @ravenmum Grin
Oh well, not doing any harm

YgritteSnow · 29/03/2020 12:02

I find the competitive "discipline" on this very site far worse than anything else I have seen on social media.

runrabbitrunrunrun · 29/03/2020 12:02

Very simple answer....delete social media! You will feel SO much better!

MintyMabel · 29/03/2020 12:03

She's a fucking receptionist in a probation office. Uh, I wasn't clapping for you love.

Why weren’t you? You’d prefer if probation office staff just decided it was too risky and stayed at home? You don’t think that might impact on society?

but the clapping was for the NHS staff - specifically frontline staff

Why was it? Why aren’t other people doing their bit to keep the country fed and safe being appreciated with a round of applause? This attitude is exactly why I didn’t join in. People who have chosen healthcare as their vocation and do it for the love of the job and helping people are working in environments designed to reduce cross infection, generally with the appropriate PPE to protect them, being managed by people who do this kind of thing every day. They are no more worthy of praise than someone who has taken a minimum wage job to keep the wolf from the door and is now working with little protection, managed by people who really don’t have a clue how to keep their workers safe. I applaud anyone who is going out to work and risking their health and that of their family.

Yes, that includes Betty the cleaner for the water board who’s job it is to keep the place clean so that the people who make sure we still have running water don’t become ill.

NHS workers are great, but they are not bloody Gods.

MadameBee · 29/03/2020 12:03

I check in on my very independent 89 yr old next door neighbour who has a even more elderly husband and no other family, have done for years.

I have her phone number and am just phoning her every day 🤷‍♀️ Rather than stuffing a Coronavirus infected note through her door. This is just being a decent person I wouldn’t dream of posting on SM about it.

I have offered to volunteer for the NHS partly because I want to go out! But again this is just being a decent person and do not need to pat myself on the back on SM.

I am a key worker (not NHS or shop).

When did we being a decent person become being part of a competition? Sad

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