To be utterly sick of all the social media virtue signalling right now

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Just that really

@Unescorted I’m part of a village group who put notes through doors. (Sorry for the virtue signalling on the anti virtue signalling thread ) We tried to co-ordinate a street each, but I don’t doubt there were duplications from others own initiatives.

We didn’t make judgements based on the house. Frankly, some of “my patch” just looked like they’d have domestic staff to send out!

Steep steps doesn’t mean that you’re not isolating because you’re unwell, or that you’re not gripped by anxiety.

I really hope none of my neighbours read my note in the spirit you read yours.

I don’t mind the people boasting about helping others, because at least they are doing something for the wider community. It’s the smug mummy brigade that do my head in.
Look at me, today I baked with my DC (Suitably smug photo of all DC looking lovingly at each other and plate of muffins from the oven on display).
Look at me, today I let my children do finger painting (Suitably smug photo of all covered in paint and said pictures displayed).
Look at me, today me and the kids did water play (Suitably smug photo of DC playing nicely together and little tikes play station in background).
I’m talking daily updates...
I’m going to have to unfollow a lot of my ‘friends’ to survive lockdown.

This and previously ugly Brexit / parking / dog shit rants are the reasons why I deleted my FB account last year. It far outweighs the few positives of FB (such as local selling pages, parents group where you can see what's on in the local area, etc.). TBH Mumsnet isn't much better, but not knowing the people who post such crap makes it easier to tolerate for me.

I’ve already unfollowed people on SM, I’ve volunteered with the elderly for years and half the folk declaring help I know are lazy gits who are actually palming it off on other ppl. Only my close friends know I volunteer and I’ve never posted on FB, I also deliver for the foodbank again never posted on FB.
Also unfollowed ‘friends’ posting crap like oh well done Boris, no thanks!

unescorted
I live in a bungalow.... I am getting a lot of notes through the door. And corresponding FB posts in the Village group. I haven't the heart to tell them that I am perfectly able to shop so far, but you would think the steep steps up to the door and no parking would be a bit of a give away that you have to be mobile to live in our collection of houses.

I think this one is OK. There may be people who are very physically capable of shopping but have one of the illnesses that places them in a vulnerable group such as some people on immunosuppressive treatment.

Virtue signalling has spilled over to vigilantism on some of the MN Coronavirus threads. Ugly.

Yup, The “my lockdown is more productive and amazing and right in than your lockdown” brigade.
Or the “can I still go to the open farmers market a 45 minute drive away for my organic avocados as it will impact my mental health if I don’t” brigade

Nb these people don’t have genuine mental health problems they just don’t want the rules to apply to them.

I’ve stepped away.

Agree Shameful. And the rage..😳 Someone merely asks a question and its like the monty python Four Yorkshireman sketch but about pandemic correctness.

Probation staff are important and admjn are the absolute bones behind it. I work in a niche area of probation and am currently wfh, going in 1 day to check emails and get online (can't get on networks at home). We're also available to be called in any time.

Officers are still on a rota basis. They still have to make home visits, although heavily reduced contact, to abusers and critical cases. I went in Friday and an officer was seeing a guy face to face as he's a prison release. People saying let's release all prisoners don't understand that it just shifts the problem.

Reception /admjn staff are in every other day, unlocking the building, booking people in, keeping the place running, answering calls. When I send texts or letters advising of phone contacts, they do that. When I request appointments to be loaded or deleted, they do that. They do a hell of a lot to keep the service running without which probation couldn't do their jobs. I'm sure many on here would be the first to moan of an unsupervised offender broke into their house or robbed their business in these trying times. Without all probation staff doing their job the public are at risk. Not just from coronavirus but from offenders.

Admin arr the ones who keep the service running, and they're very short staffed. Ffs an officer in London has lost her accommodation because a selfish landlord has decided they don't like the potential risk. Similar happened to a Dr and that's been shared all over the place. Not this it seems

My fave virtue signalling is those who voted Labour having a go at the clappers who voted Tory.

Showing gratitude to the individuals in the NHS who are putting themselves at risk is very different to who you voted for. There is no irony because budget cuts have not caused the pandemic!!!

Getting fed up with it all too. Social media can be a good place bit is also full of total crap, speculation and people trying to trump each other with the fact they have to keep working.

In the last 2 weeks I have felt guilty due to people posting about how important their work is and how they can’t “stop working”, I work in care but also have 2 disabled children who I parent alone, I have no choice but to stop working to look after my dc, I feel guilty I can’t be on the front line helping others. I shouldn’t feel guilty for looking after my family.

Also fed up with all the fake news, the scaremongering using articles that are not true, photos that are fake. Almost every post is related to CV, I know it’s effected all of us but I do feel we need some normality, life does go on even though life is very different at the moment.

People who post on sm about their good deeds do my head in all year round...I do loads for my community all the time but quietly. I've helped lots of people at the moment, but by PM not publicly. I don't need a pat on the back because that's not why I do it.

I'm a bit meh about the virtue signalling- it's just cheesey, but I'm extremely worried about the spying and reporting. So many people craving the chance to spy, denounce and inform. It's made me realise how many folks are already spying and checking up on others, and this gives them all the validation they need. A lot of the so-called acts of neighbourliness are excuses to poke into the lives of others IMO. It's going to be very difficult to put that particular genie back in the bottle when this is over.

I've been posting tons of pictures and videos of my kids and their home learning/daily walks. It's for their dad (SI in another city) and their 4 grandparents - and I wanted to log as much of this as I could to look back on.

I don't understand why you need to put them on Facebook for everyone to see though, surely there are plenty of ways to just send them to their dad and grandparents.

My pet peeve at the moment are those people that use politics to think they can score points. This is NOT a political matter and if people are moved to clap I don't think the way they voted has anything to do with it FFS

It’s the same over here. I’ve stopped looking at our local FB group because it’s full of self-righteous crazies who are spending all day looking for things to “report” people for. We live in a very remote area and the Facebook group covers the whole county. We have had one case if the virus in this county and she has recovered. Social distancing is not any different from normal life here because we all live so far apart from one another. The Husband and I often go to the beach and can be the only ones there as far as the eye can see. But there is a woman in the Facebook group who wanted the police to “deal with” the three dats that were parked by the lighthouse because “non-essential travel is banned”. The lighthouse is nowhere near any other buildings so it’s not as if she saw the cars from her window. The only way she could have known that cars were there is by driving that way herself. I laughed when I saw someone reply “I’m waiting for someone to ask how you know about cars at the lighthouse if you’re staying at home and not making non-essential journeys yourself”. That shut her up.

And then there are the martyrs with their “I can’t stay home...” frames. One of my FB friends has a don who works in social care who has the said frame on his profile. The two of them can’t stop going on about how he could have taken a job with a six-figure salary but he’s so thoughtful of others and feels so passionate about it that he opted for a low-paid job in social care and how wonderful he is. Except last winter when the area where they live had a huge storm with 2 feet of snow overnight, it went on for a whole week, and his page was full of pictures of himself and his girlfriend sledding around and throwing snowballs with hashtags such as “snow days mean fun days” and so on and full of the fun they had because they couldn’t go to work for a whole week. But come a pandemic and he’s the next mother Theresa.

My fave virtue signalling is those who voted Labour having a go at the clappers who voted Tory.

Showing gratitude to the individuals in the NHS who are putting themselves at risk is very different to who you voted for. There is no irony because budget cuts have not caused the pandemic!!!

Hopefully you accept that NHS staff on the frontline are entitled to say stick your thanks if you voted for the cut backs. The cuts might not have caused the pandemic but they do mean there are few staff to deal with it and a lack of resources.

I hear you. A doctor colleague hasn't done any patient care for a couple of years, because she is more of an educationalist now. Nowt wrong with that, obviously, but now she's all over SM, proclaiming how she's coming back to clinical work, to help out the NHS. Well, whoopy-fucking-do, Luv - the rest of us have been here since the beginning. All help is welcome, but stop bigging yourself up.

1 thing that is reallllyyyy grating on me is the term 'key worker' no betty, your a cleaner for the water board, you are not a "key worker" (true story) In my eyes only the emergency services and hospital staff are key workers

Now we have the Whataboutery - yes people working for the Probation service do an important job, but the clapping was for the NHS staff - specifically frontline staff. Lots of people are doing important jobs including school staff, civil servants and supermarket workers, but the clapping wasn't aimed at them, nor indeed the pen-pushers in offices in the NHS.

YANBU - it normally doesn't bother me when it's a few people doing it but when my entire feed being filled with thisreally starts to get my dander up!

It’s absolutely bonkers on social media at the moment. It’s given the crazies a platform and I love it and hate it in equal measures.

I’m all over reading the local Towns FB page. It gives me the absolute rage but without it I’d be bored.

It’s shown me that a lot more people than I thought seem to suffer with severe anxiety/ delusion.

My fave virtue signalling is those who voted Labour having a go at the clappers who voted Tory.
Agree with this. Also that the NHS is the be and end all. Can you imagine the civil unrest if the shops weren’t open.
I think we should clap fir poor retail staff who have had to work incredibly hard, all hours of the day and night, nothing in the way of PPE for ( if they’re lucky) just over minimum wage.
But there’s no political gain in that .

Oh yes. In fact, I think Mumsnet is one of the worst hotbeds of all for this. On Trending Now (please, MNHQ, will you get rid of it????? ) I can see "AIBU to tell you about the muppets I have seen".