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AIBU?

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Neighbours have friends round

132 replies

Frigginella · 28/03/2020 21:46

Why are people so stupid?! I’ve seen posts about reporting to the police but can they do anything if it’s in their own home? There’s only 2 people round.

OP posts:

Nicknacky · 28/03/2020 22:41

Can anyone provide a link that covers private dwellings? Genuinely. I read the legislation yesterday at work (quickly, as it a LOT of info but I’m fairly sure it doesn’t cover this situation.)

Tigger001 · 28/03/2020 22:42

OP I would probably report it.

More morons do seem to keep making their presence known.

Do people not understand the severity of the situation.

Thank you for being a frontline worker and putting yourself at risk every day. It must be even more Infuriating seeing stupid people ignoring the advice.

PeterFoggsTractor · 28/03/2020 22:43

What they are doing does not impact you.

Well if they are spreading infection which is entirely likely, that impacts all of us. The NHS staff who are put at risk (including the OP of course) the cost of treating them and the others they infect, they might take up a ventilator and an ITU bed.

JackiFazaki · 28/03/2020 22:43

I've a neighbour of 90.

He's had four cars worth of family visiting today. They all parked in the otherwise empty road. Within minutes of each other. I'd say about ten people

He seemed quite well, as after a while, he was handing paving blocks to one family member, who was fixing his drive. It was touch and go each time as to him staying upright, as the blocks are heavy.

The rest ( mostly half his age) chatted outside and looked on. Not a paving block picked up by them. It was bizarre, but I was horribly fascinated.

( Curtain twitching disclaimer: I was weeding in the front garden. )

Khione · 28/03/2020 22:43

OK so you are going to work, in areas where there are likely to be people with CV and then going home to your children. All within legal guidelines and unlikely to be an issue for your children. If any of you catch it it is likely to be fairly mild.

Your neighbours (who are not in contact with anyone else that you know of) have a couple of friends round who as far as you know also have no other other contacts. Unless they are elderly and/or vulnerable, even if they do catch it is it likely to be mild and contribute to heard immunity.

Unless either your neighbours or their friends are elderly, vulnerable or in close contact with someone who is, they are not likely to be putting anyone else at risk - and if they spread it are likely to contribute to heard immunity.

It doesn't make it right or safe but, unless there are other factors, it really isn't important. IMO

SouthWestmom · 28/03/2020 22:44

Our neighbour has his family over every day. He's older but quite able. What can you do? British culture seems to be the rules apply to everyone else. Look at all the parking outside schools - only stops when they get a ticket and then only for a few days. Or abuse of blue badges and blue badge spaces. If the government really want the rules followed they need to impose fines and vigilance from authorities but I suspect they are trying for a trickle effect.

1Morewineplease · 28/03/2020 22:46

@Greenpop21 the government has banned public gatherings of more than two people.

Yester · 28/03/2020 22:46

@starsparkle08 it's all of our business when selfish twats spread the disease and take up ventilator.

Nicknacky · 28/03/2020 22:47

1more Not if they are from the same household.....l

Greenpop21 · 28/03/2020 22:47

Not within your household members.

pallisers · 28/03/2020 22:53

"judge not".

What an absolutely assinine phrase that is. The poster who said it was judging the OP so wtf use is that?

Do people seriously not judge people who are cruel to children, dodge their taxes, ignore public health and safety rules, spit into communal dips etc. of course you do.

I feel for you OP.

Alsohuman · 28/03/2020 22:54

the government has banned public gatherings of more than two people

And this isn’t public, it’s in the privacy of their own home.

TheMotherofAllDilemmas · 28/03/2020 22:56

It may impact me, I’m a nurse and bitter than I’m being put at risk by people like this.

That x 1000. Why are medical stuff out at risk so selfish idiots go around thinking the rules don’t apply to them???

It is not only demoralising but disrespectful to people who are risking their lives to save others.

LotsaDo · 28/03/2020 22:59

And this isn’t public, it’s in the privacy of their own home.

Quite.

EngTech · 28/03/2020 23:00

A case of Darwinian Theory in action? 😎

PeterFoggsTractor · 28/03/2020 23:06

And this isn’t public, it’s in the privacy of their own home.

Which has also been banned. Private or public, the risk is that there will be cross infection. That's the whole bloody point of households not mixing.

Pulppixies · 28/03/2020 23:07

The government have banned gathering of 2 people except at work where hundreds can gather and that’s just fine. Why are people going crazy about one person visiting another and not that? Doesn’t make sense.

Nicknacky · 28/03/2020 23:09

peter I cannot see where a meeting in a private residence has been banned. I’m prepared to accept I missed it when I read the legislation so can you link me to it please?

pallisers · 28/03/2020 23:12

This stuff of "but it's in the privacy of their own home"

After the past 4 weeks are people still this dim about infection???

Nicknacky · 28/03/2020 23:13

pallisers But people are being dim. Are you really that naive to think every single person in Britain is going to follow the guidelines?

Tigger001 · 28/03/2020 23:13

Do not have visitors in your home
Do not invite or allow social visitors, such as other friends and family, to enter your home. If you want to speak to someone who is not a member of your household, use the phone or social media.
If you or a family member receive essential care in your home, then carers should continue to visit. Carers will be provided with facemasks and gloves to reduce the risk of you passing on the infection.

This is on the government website.

UnfinishedSymphon · 28/03/2020 23:14

It's been quite clear on the news, don't visit friends and family houses. You can exercise outdoors with members of your household.

Nicknacky · 28/03/2020 23:14

Trigger Thanks but I’m asking for the law, not the guidance.

pallisers · 28/03/2020 23:17

I don't live in the UK Nicknacky so I don't have any reasonable expectations of anything.

The replies on this thread are amazing - judge not/its in the privacy of their own home/the government hasn't banned it. Do people not look at the news and realise what is going on here?

Well actually I shouldn't be surprised since the Commonwealth Service went ahead as did Cheltenham when it was abundantly clear a pandemic was imminent.

Hannah888 · 28/03/2020 23:18

Why on earth can't people get it? So they have friends in private property so the law doesn't apply. If friend A murders friend B thats OK then as !ong as its on private property. Why are people do incredibly stupid?

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