To ask are all men selfish?

[Gre8scott]

I notice a trend in my friends stories of the men in their lifes and how most of then are selfish. Even if they are family men and they dont spend all day in the pub (per covid 19)
They still do things like make everyone go in the garden cos they want to be outside.
Golf on a Saturday cos they've been working all week although wife had been with baby
Pushed themselves at work will wife has stepped back to have family
Just have a bath even if family need something
Are all men like that

Thanks for all the responses. Even being told to fuck off and that I'm bitter.
I found it interesting that the women said theres husbands werent selfish put it down to the fact they made tea or did their fair share of housework which wasnt what I was talking about it seemed a bit sad you were pleased they made the dinner surely thats just what people do.
Cheers anyway x

So how do you define an unselfish husband op?

My DH is wonderful; he can at times be selfish but then so can I 🤷‍♀️ The key to us working as a team is realising when we need to put ourselves first and supporting each other to be able to do that.

I agree with pp that male selfishness is insidious and we are all accustomed to seeing certain things as normal

It wasn’t until beginning a long period of being single in my forties and divorcing that I began to see it . It’s too simplistic to say men tend toward being selfish , to me it goes a lot deeper. So few of my friends are in genuinely equitable relationships that when you see it it really stands out.

My boyfriend descaled all my taps and dusted all the bannisters and skirting boards while I slept off a hangover.... What a man x

Sootynsweep
Does he says the same when you do it?
That's not about being selfish though that's housework I mean men that go for a run when their babies just been born or go to the golf every saturday I'm sure they still do housework

My DH turned down a huge promotion when I was on mat leave because it would have made it really difficult for me to return to work as I'd planned.

My DH always puts his family first, he is totally unselfish to the point I have to tell him to go out and enjoy himself sometimes. He's currently cooking the Sunday roast while I'm sat in bed eating cheese and crackers!

Men are still allowed hobbies - even when they have children. As long as it doesn't impact on family life and you get similar leisure time that isn't a problem. My DH has a football season ticket. He goes to most matches but happily cancels if I have other plans. I don't begrudge him that time. Although this last year he's started to take DS which means more free time for me.

Oh and he is quite happy for me to bugger off all day riding my horse on the weekends while he gets left at home with our DD, and he doesn't expect anything in return!

Well yes YABU as not all men are selfish but I'm frequently gobsmacked at just how utterly selfish some people's partners are. I'm also frequently angry on the behalf of friends and how little they feel they deserve.

My husband is great and always has been.
It has been commented upon many times over the years.

It used to piss me off a bit because as some would say...women are never remarked upon in the same way.

But as i have grown older i have realised he really is great, particularly in how supportive he has been of the children, me, family life.

I don't know any many IRL that are on the scale of the utter wasters I read about on here....but I certainly know many that do just enough...but very much put themselves first if they can...particularly the golfing twats....

@Gre8scott it's my house and he did it without me asking... left to me it wouldn't have got done for a lot longer..I just thought it was really thoughtful