To ask are all men selfish?

[Gre8scott]

I notice a trend in my friends stories of the men in their lifes and how most of then are selfish. Even if they are family men and they dont spend all day in the pub (per covid 19)
They still do things like make everyone go in the garden cos they want to be outside.
Golf on a Saturday cos they've been working all week although wife had been with baby
Pushed themselves at work will wife has stepped back to have family
Just have a bath even if family need something
Are all men like that

Think of those millions of young men who marched off to the trenches. Not much selfishness there.

My friend's lovely husband used to come straight in from work and take over with the small children. She told me and I saw it.

I'm a woman and am one of the laziest people I know, apart from my daughter, that is. It's a good thing I wasn't born a man because I would have been a macho entitled prick.

As many pp have said...no...not all men are selfish, but I think men are generally more selfish than women. Especially in terms of their careers and aspirations...hence 'the trailing wife' label.

I think all human beings can be selfish at times though, regardless of gender.

I don't consider wanting to watch football every Saturday as selfish. My DH is a footie fan and always watches his team playing. I have no issue with that.

Obviously if there was an emergency with the kids or me, he wouldn't sit in front of the TV watching the match.

No in fact I’m probably the more selfish one in the relationship

My husband honestly doesn’t do anything for himself other than occasionally play Xbox after I’ve gone to bed! I try to get him to go to the pub with friends or skittles but he rarely does. He always finds something important to do at home it feels bad for leaving me when he’s already at work all day. If he goes out he often takes us with him! He’s probably the least selfish person I know (unless it’s chocolate, then he’ll eat the whole lot and feel no remorse )

Yes, and all women are vain and shallow, just like the 90s romcoms told us.

Whilst it’s down to the individual character as to whether someone is selfish and not their sex, I do believe that men on the whole are more self focused than women and that in itself can drive behaviour which could be seen / categorised as selfish I guess.

Women generally make more sacrifices than men, often putting everyone else before themselves. And it’s somewhat expected and taken for granted - when a man acts the same way they are seen as a marvellous person (whilst as a women they’d simply be doing what we’re custom to).

I personally have a very nice partner who can be a dick sometimes (as I can be too). But I have had and do know lots of self serving men. I know less women like that.

Of course not.

And it is a stupid question.

My dad is amazing, not remotely selfish and did more than my mum for me and around the house growing up. My DH has a really demanding and emotionally draining job and still does a lot. Not all men are shit.

What are you trying to accomplish with this thread op?

I’m in the bath with a 🍷 looking at this while my husband of many decades is cooking my dinner.

YABVU

YANBU.
Many, many men are like that.

There is a reason why studies show single women are happier and healthier than married women

I don’t think all men are selfish, but on average they are more selfish than women.
They think about their own wants/needs more than the average woman does.

no, your mates are having sex with the wrong types. 'all men are selfish' is no more true than 'all women are boneheaded handbag obsessives' even though many are.

Didn’t have time to read op just title but answer is yes! 😂

Yes he has a hobby - too outing to say what

I promise you, it's not.

Mine's not,I've been symptomatic and he's spoiled me rotten.

No my husband isn't.

I think that some women set their bars so low, due to circumstances in their upbringing and other surrounding factors, that they will stay in an unequal partnership instead of raising their standards and expectations of their partner.

No one is having sex with their selfish husbands

YABU, of course they’re not. It’s a shame you’ve had such bad experiences but don’t attribute them to every single man.

Delete 'men'.
Insert 'humans'.

People are selfish. I can be selfish. Dh can be selfish. Neither of us are more selfish than each other.

My husband is lovely and very considerate. Not all men are selfish we as women have to just choose better. Also not put up with crap in the name of having a relationship. That's my thruppence worth on the matter.

Most men, but not all.

But tbf, society does encourage self-centredness in men and selflessness in women.

To the detriment of both.

Come on people. You can see OP is just trying to start a fight.

shock i always read HTH as 'hang the husband' - like a variation of LTB?!
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