To ask are all men selfish?

[Gre8scott]

I notice a trend in my friends stories of the men in their lifes and how most of then are selfish. Even if they are family men and they dont spend all day in the pub (per covid 19)
They still do things like make everyone go in the garden cos they want to be outside.
Golf on a Saturday cos they've been working all week although wife had been with baby
Pushed themselves at work will wife has stepped back to have family
Just have a bath even if family need something
Are all men like that

People are not being horrible
Its a stupid question,
Of course all men are not selfish. Thats like saying all women ask stupid questions

make everyone go in the garden cos they want to be outside
Why are they putting up with being forced into the garden though? Why don't they just say 'No, I don't fancy it. You go out there and enjoy the air'?
Pushed themselves at work will wife has stepped back to have family
Are these women forced to have children though or was it a choice they made? And are the men being unreasonable for working harder to support these children (and presumably the wives too)?

Of course all men are not selfish. Thats like saying all women ask stupid questions
😂😂

i always read HTH as 'hang the husband' - like a variation of LTB?!

Of course all men are not selfish. Thats like saying all women ask stupid questions

Or assuming I'm a women

Not all men are selfish but I think selfish behaviour in men is generally more accepted than selfish behaviour in women, which may be why it seems that there are more selfish men. There's probably an equal amount, but women get condemned for it more. I am talking in general terms before I get hounded.

every Saturday football came first

Just as it should

Football (or darts) always comes first here and I’m female and definitely not selfish.

Bill Shankly ;
Some people think football is a matter of life and death. I assure you, it's much more serious than that.

No. It's not an inherent male characteristic. Maybe you and your friends made poor choices.

Are all men like that

No. My DH isn't. He goes out of his way to be considerate etc, and makes me feel selfish 😂 I'd eat the last square of chocolate, but if I go in the fridge and it's the last bit, I'll find half left where he broke it in two 💖

Still talking generally... For example in a heterosexual relationship with children, a father might go and play football twice a week and that would be that, "it's 9am I'm off, see you later". Whereas a mother who wanted to play football twice a week is more likely to be faced with questions about who's going to be looking after the dc during that time, and the onus would be on her to make sure that either their father was with them or that childcare was arranged. That's a fairly common thing I think.

Who said I have a man

"Everyone of them that replied was horrible"

Just because people don't agree with you doesn't make them arseholes

In general most likely to be sensible than women I’ve found

I think you need a walk OP- you are beginning to show signs of stress.

Of course all men aren't selfish fuckers. Like not all women are selfish fuckers. Are some of us selfish fuckers - absolutely. That's life.

I used to think that all men were selfish until i met dp when I was 40. I think I finally got a relationship which was fair when I decided that I wasn't going to put up with any less, iyswim. Had to dump a fair few blokes from the age of 25 to 40 but it was worth it.

Nah my husband is spot on. Never been treated so well. I am pretty much the centre of his universe (minus the kids obvs)

Haha ola my other half goes that. But I scoff the lot. To op, I think there are a lot of selfish men out there but I've discovered that they aren't all like that. But if you stick with a selfish arse you'll never meet a good one.

That’s such a sweeping statement, of course all men aren’t selfish, just because you know someone who enjoys going to football on a Saturday doesn’t make him selfish’ ’, my DH likes playing golf .... I have things I like to do on my own ... so does that make us both ‘selfish’ for having our own interests? We can discuss things rationally, co-ordinate when we are out (although no longer so necessary now our DS is a teenager) and respect each other’s interests.

I think the issue is with society and how the expectations of men and of women differ. I felt relatively equal until I had a child.

Depends. DH’s halo is shining today - he brought me a cup of tea in bed this morning, cleaned the kitchen from top to bottom, made biscuits this afternoon, and is cooking dinner at the moment.

He’s not always like this though and will often make a cup of tea or a sandwich for himself without offering. I don’t think it’s selfish, he just doesn’t think.

Some people bend the truth to make themselves look hard done by and a martyr . DW used to complain to her friends that she did most of the household stuff and I hardly did anything .
At the time kid 10 and 13 no school run or anything . I was working 6 days 48 hours and had a 1 1/2 hour commute each way wife was work 12hrs over 2 days
Whilst I'm sure there are men as you describe but everyone is a massive generalisation .