to be laughing at my ex right now?

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Just spoken to one of his family members. He works for his friend and earns about 45k a year. He fiddles his earnings down to 16k a year and his friend pays him the rest in cash so he has to pay less child maintenance (he has 0 access so this would be fairly high should he declare his full earnings). He is a safeguarding risk to our son and court ordered 0 contact, and I have a lifelong restraining order, so IMHO he deserves no sympathy. He's just been on the phone to this family member who described him as 'going mental' that he's only going to be paid 80% of what he's declared by the government. Apparently it's all my fault as if he didn't have to pay me child maintenance he wouldn't have to have fiddled the books in the first place 😅 cheered me up in my isolation...

Lol he's not paying his due taxes either. Little bitch

Beautiful

Yanbu

You will always be to blame

Brilliant- what comes around goes around.

People 'fix' their earnings to avoid tax for many reasons. I saw a friend who has a business who employs others complaining because she wont get much help as most of her money is dividends from her business rather than the tiny 'wage' she pays herself.

I do feel for some people but op's ex is doing this to avoid supporting his own children which is the worst reason imaginable.

Brilliant- what comes around goes around.

In many many cases.... it doesn’t.

So when it does, like now, it makes it particularly joyful!

Oh dear.... how awful for him 😀

I am joining the club as my ex was exactly the same.
High earner, own business, declared minimum income and paid the rest to himself in dividends. Spent all our assets upon separation, bought himself a flashy car and £600k house, actually that was the second house.
I spent 5 years going through the courts with him as he was avoiding paying what the court ordered to myself and the children. I am too wary of being gleeful incase fate comes to get me, but it is in the back of my mind.

Mind you, it often strikes me that all these women seem to know exactly how much their ex is hiding from the tax man were happy enough about this when they lived with him and were reaping the benefits. Otherwise how would they even know what he’s earnings are likely to really be?

I did the book keeping whilst married. We paid tax as we should. My ex ran off with the accountant. He no longer pays tax as he should. He lives a good life and not the life of someone who earns £0 a year. It’s not rocket science. I can’t speak for all women in this situation but I,was not party to deliberate tax evasion (tax reduction, within legal parameters, yes) nor did we cook the books to evade the authorities when it came to declaring income. There is a difference. But don’t let your smugness get in the way of that, eh?

Lovely story OP, thank you

My ex declares he earns around £6500 a year despite the big house , car etc and foreign holidays. Again fiddles the books to pay less child support , he will only get 80% I call it karma

My x only became self employed after i had to leave him (verbal, emotional, financial abuse)

You can't categorise "these women:.

Brilliant

I thought I was the only person that still used the expression 'wankstain' 🤣 @leo

Hahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Cuntchops is a another favourite... but leave off the chops bit in this circumstance... @ItsMe1985 gut smiling with you my dear..

It’s fucking ace, isn’t it.

I was fully aware of him tax dodging. I didn't see a penny of it. He kept all of my money eventually as well. In between him sexually assaulting me and causing me emotional hell 24/7 I didn't really have the time or energy to report him. Can't imagine the beating I would've got. This is on him, nor me. I don't feel one but bad for him!

It will be happening all over, and instead of people moaning at the government for not paying NHS workers enough, maybe they should look a litle closer to home as to why!

Karma is a bitch. FWIW in America if you owe child support omg you get fucked xxx total karma give it to the kids shit faces

Go karma! 🤣🤣🤣

My ex has done this I'm owed nearly 30 thousand pounds but he has pleaded poverty. The icing on the cake was he applied to adopt and was accepted, he now has two school children. Hopefully karma will get him.

My heart bleeds. Not.
My niece knows someone who claims benefits but has a cash-in-hand job and they’ve come unstuck as well.

Mind you, it often strikes me that all these women seem to know exactly how much their ex is hiding from the tax man were happy enough about this when they lived with him and were reaping the benefits. Otherwise how would they even know what he’s earnings are likely to really be?

Men often change these assets to avoid divorce settlements or child support.

I'm surprised, in cases where income and assets don't match, that tax authorities aren't investigating and issuing assessments.

@Camphillgirl there’s an hmrc phone number to report tax dodgers in confidence...

Karma.