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No children allowed in supermarket

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flashbac · 25/03/2020 11:52

My sister went to Tesco with her toddler and was told no children allowed from next week. Understand this is wise for infection control but what if you're a single parent with tiny kids and can't do online shopping?

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flossyflorenceflounces · 25/03/2020 12:40

'Mr Hallwood accepted that some people, such as single parents, may struggle to get into the store under the new rules but that we all must find way to do this, whether that means someone else doing our shopping

Then I will not be shopping at Tesco on principle after this. If they are making it impossible for me to give them my money now when life is really hard for many people then they are not getting it in the good times. You reap what you sow Tesco.

HavenDilemma · 25/03/2020 12:40

I have no family besides my mum who is 76 and isolating and no friends. It's just me and my 5yr old - What the hell do they expect us to do?! What about military parents who's spouses are away?

Discrimination. Sorry but it really is!

Langbannedforsafeguardingkids · 25/03/2020 12:40

There are online slots, you just need to be persistent in looking for them. They seem to now be (Sainsbury's at least) only releasing slots a day before they're available - so for my local Sainsbury's you can book for tomorrow but not for next week. They are also prioritising elderly and vulnerable customers for online slots- so I would think that would include single parents if children banned from stores (and yes I think this is the only way to reduce infections - it would not be great if a child ran up to a key worker and infected them). I think what they're doing is opening up slots for vulnerable / elderly first then only opening up what's left the day before to other customers. Be persistent and keep trying. I've managed to get slots for my elderly parents but I did have to keep trying and I did have to contact Sainsbury's to make them aware they are vulnerable because they weren't listed as such (despite being over 70 and not in good health) - and it takes time to get through (on hold for 30 plus minutes) but once you do they couldn't be more helpful.

Trumpton · 25/03/2020 12:42

Here on the Isle of Man we cannot get delivery slots at all . I normally have to book 3 weeks in advance even setting my alarm for midnight to get a slot .
We do not have click and collect .
Tesco is our only big name supermarket .
The local ones are fab but small .
That Plan is not working at the moment as the site keeps crashing .
I am in quarantine following a mastectomy and chemotherapy.
But .... we are in a different situation and we have some super groups set up to help the vulnerable and I would hope that the single parents would be able to access these groups .
Families should NOT be shopping in groups eg two parents and children .
Single parent families are obviously in a different category but some selfish people are ruining it for others .
I do have tremendous sympathy for those who are struggling .

itsgettingweird · 25/03/2020 12:43

I really bloody hope not.

I'm keyworker - LP - disabled child.
Sister - keyworker for NHs - LP - under 8yo child.
Both parents - cancer - on chemo - cannot go out.

We are already shopping (my sis and I) for all 3 families and leaving on front door step - whilst we work - using her nhs hour and my ASDA reoccurring slot. (Except app is down so can't even put that order in Hmm)

How the bloody hell in England can we get food any other way?

If they insist on this then they really should be adding a single parents hour or 2. Time that they let same numbers as individuals but family groups in.

HavenDilemma · 25/03/2020 12:43

What about Doctors & Nurses' partners? What are they meant to do with their kids whilst their partners are saving lives?

itsgettingweird · 25/03/2020 12:43

Oh and as we are shopping for 3 families each time and with 3 items rule we are already getting creative!

IntrovertBnReady4Lockdown4Ages · 25/03/2020 12:44

@TwiceAsNice22 Won't be surprised! I can't believe how some people aren't seeing just how impossible this makes some people's lives.
I hope those affected find other shops where managers use their brains. So unfortunate for them!

Thankfully, this isn't a national rule because it would leave more people in the "vulnerable" position who need to be helped and taken care of, getting their shopping when they are capable of getting it themselves. How many volunteers do we have here?

TeddyIsaHe · 25/03/2020 12:44

This is completely insane. No delivery slots in any supermarkets until June, so are single parents meant to starve? Shall I tie my 3 yo up outside to shop or what?

madcatladyforever · 25/03/2020 12:45

The problem is the piss takers again have caused this. Taking the whole family to the supermarket for weeks now. I'm sure if you ring them and prearrange a time and tell them you literally have nobody to look after your child they will accommodate you.

Chiyo666 · 25/03/2020 12:45

I can’t find any articles about this. Where did you get the info from OP?

DivGirl · 25/03/2020 12:45

As much as I would love to leave my 2 year old home while I shop I think social services would have something to say about it.

Hopefully this is not a national policy because that would be incredibly shortsighted.

LakieLady · 25/03/2020 12:46

In the article, the spokesman specifically refers to regulations brought in by the Isle of Man government. I wonder if the island might have different rules to the mainland?

If not, it's a stupid rule and/or Tesco have interpreted it stupidly.

stophuggingme · 25/03/2020 12:46

@Oldbutstillgotit
Well I for one could show them my CMS annual statement and my CAO which states the children live with me.

But I do see the point you are making and I suspect many two parent families would just go with one of their kids to get the stuff earlier.

The elderly priority treatment thing is a joke. I saw several people in their forties in the supermarkets while I was parked up waiting to go in. They were not nhs workers either I suspect although of course some could have been.

I would happily order online as going to a supermarket with three children under seven os not fun at the best of times. However I’ve more chance of becoming the next president of the USA than getting a slot of

HavenDilemma · 25/03/2020 12:46

@blue25 Excuse me? I have no family besides my mum who is 76 and isolating and no friends. It's just me and my 5yr old - What the hell do they expect us to do?! What about military parents who's spouses are away? What about Doctor's spouses who are alone with their kids?

Give your head a shake love

LakieLady · 25/03/2020 12:47

@Chiyo666, there's a link upthread.

HavenDilemma · 25/03/2020 12:48

@stophuggingme To be fair, disabled people and Carers/care home workers are included in the elderly hour

Waveysnail · 25/03/2020 12:48

The number of.couples out shopping in my local supermarket was ridiculous

WhenDoISleep · 25/03/2020 12:49

Just had this email from Tesco - no mention of banning children, but encouraging people to shop with no more than one other person (I am in England).

*

We wrote to you last week setting out the measures we are taking to provide more of the food that people need, in a safe and clean environment.

Our colleagues have risen brilliantly to the challenges of recent days, but this challenge is unprecedented and inevitably, despite our hard work and best intentions, not everything has or will go exactly to plan. But we’ll take learnings, we’ll be informed by the latest guidance from the Government, and we’ll keep going.

Importantly, we need your help to do this.

With that in mind, following the Prime Minister’s recent announcement, we wanted to write and update you on the measures we continue to take, and what new things you will begin to see in our stores in the next few days.

Food for all

• To ensure more people have access to everyday essentials, we have introduced a storewide restriction of 3 items per customer on every product line and removed multi-buy promotions.
• In product areas where demand is particularly high, we have simplified our range to get more of the most popular products on shelves.
• We have introduced a special hour in stores for NHS workers as a thank you for all they are doing. On Sundays, they can browse our large stores and select their shopping an hour before the checkouts open. All we ask is, if you’re an NHS worker, that you bring a form of ID to store, such as an NHS staff card. We have listened to feedback and are looking at how we can extend this to include extra days from next week.
• To ensure our more vulnerable and elderly customers can shop for what they need in our large stores, we have prioritised one hour every Monday, Wednesday and Friday morning between 9-10am.
• We know that it’s difficult right now to get a delivery slot for online shopping. We are at full capacity for the next few weeks and we ask those who are able to safely come to stores to do so, instead of shopping online, so that we can start to free up more slots for the more vulnerable.
• We are looking at every opportunity to increase the number of slots available. As we increase our capacity, we will also set aside more of these slots for our most vulnerable customers.
• We have more stock coming into stores every day, with up to double the usual amounts of key essentials arriving – but we need everyone’s help: please buy only what you need, so that there is enough for everyone.
Safety for everyone
To ensure we are doing everything possible to reduce the risk of infection for our customers and colleagues, we will begin to introduce new social distancing measures in stores in the coming days.
• Floor markings in our car parks will help you to maintain safe distances when queuing.
• Where necessary, we will limit the flow of people coming into our stores to ensure they don’t get too congested.
• Hand sanitisers are being placed around our stores for customers and colleagues to use, as well as extra cleaning products to wipe down your trolley or basket.
• In some stores, we will introduce directional floor markings and new signage, to create a safe flow around the store.
• New floor markings will help you to keep a safe distance from others while waiting to pay.
• We are installing protective screens at our checkouts.
• Where possible, we will create separate entrances and exits to our stores, so that it’s easier to keep a safe distance from other shoppers.
Supporting our colleagues
• We are fully supporting our team of more than 300,000 Tesco colleagues, many of whom will be affected by this situation personally or will need to care for their own loved ones. The countless messages of gratitude I’ve received are testament to the incredible job they are doing, at a time when our stores have never been busier. Your small gestures and kind words really do go a long way.
• We have almost 3,000 colleagues over the age of 70 and we are fully supporting them, as well as our vulnerable and pregnant colleagues, with 12 weeks’ fully paid absence.
• Colleagues who are in isolation are receiving full pay from their first day of absence, so that nobody finds themselves in a situation where they have to work when unwell.
• To help support our team, we are recruiting an additional 20,000 temporary colleagues. We’ve already appointed 12,500 new colleagues, but we will need more. We are also bringing in 8,000 new colleagues in driving roles, and we are training them as fast as we can.
It’s a challenging time for the whole country, but we are committed to playing our part in feeding the nation and to keeping everyone safe. We also need your help to change the way you shop with us, so here are a few simple requests to help us serve you better:
• Please check your store's opening hours in advance.
• Before you leave home, please bring enough bags for your shop. If it’s raining, don’t forget an umbrella too, in case you need to queue outside the store.
• Try to shop with no more than one other person, which will help to reduce the number of people in-store at any one time.
• Please use our cleaning stations to wipe your trolley, basket, or Scan as you Shop handset.
• If possible, use card or contactless payments.
• Please avoid shopping during our dedicated times for vulnerable and elderly people, and NHS workers, and be kind to our colleagues as they’re working hard to serve you; we’re all in this together.
We want to thank our suppliers, our colleagues – and especially you, our customers – for understanding and helping.

We know these are some big changes, and we will all need to do our very best to adjust. We will continue to update you as things change.
Together, we can do this.
Dave Lewis
Tesco CEO

GoatsBroccoli · 25/03/2020 12:50

@CaptainButtock Where’s Dad? (Unless he’s dead/mia in which case apologies obv)
I'm single parent of 2 young kids. Their dad is based at the other end of the country.

stophuggingme · 25/03/2020 12:51

@HavenDilemma sorry yes of course they are but something tells me that a fair chunk of these people were just stockpiling for themselves. I saw two trolleys loaded with wine not a joke.

returnofthecat · 25/03/2020 12:51

If you really can't get out, ask for help in your local COVID Mutual Aid Group. There are lots of people willing to help - accept the kindness of a stranger.

mindproject · 25/03/2020 12:52

This is terrible, but not surprising. Single parents always get a really rough deal and policies that cause extra stress.

user1477391263 · 25/03/2020 12:52

So, a single parent will need to start either leaving his/her children with grandma or the neighbors or a friend, or getting a neighbor or friend to do his/her shopping and bringing it round to his/her house? Isn't that going to create more mixing between households?

There are some very poor decisions being made in this pandemic.

BeetrootRocks · 25/03/2020 12:52

So if there are families all going they can say this adult can come in, the rest wait outside away from everyone.

The step they have taken is appalling.

'Good, leave the snotlings at home!'

It's a really bad idea to leave young children especially toddlers and babies home by themselves. In fact it's illegal.