DD’s boyfriend banished from family home due to cough

[HildegardeCrowe]

Posting here for traffic. My student daughter is home with me for the foreseeable. Her uni boyfriend has gone home to his family. BF has developed a cough and his father has basically banished him from the family home (no elderly/vulnerable there) and told him to go back to the student house indefinitely. The dad called him whilst he was at work earlier and he’s not even being allowed home to pick up some things.

The dad is self-employed and obviously worried about getting ill himself and losing money (no excuse). I feel like telling the lad to come and stay with me and DD but know I can’t. But he’ll be all alone in the student house and won’t be able to get out to buy food. I’m a fixer and want to help, what should I do?

Yes it is and now a 21 year old, who had no health issues has died in the UK

Source please - it's not on the BBC.

*A British Woman has died from CV in Cape Verde.

There are no hospitals in Cape Verde so that doesn't surprise me*

The British man (not woman) died in the hospital in Sal Rei. There are no hospitals on Boa Vista

@flossyflorenceflounces sky news

@Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow

don't be ridiculous

@GrouchoMrx
It is disgusting. He could have self isolated in his room at home and took hand washing and hygiene to the next level. But just sending him back to be in his own, with what could be a deadly disease, is shit parenting!! So if you agree with him, well ..........,,,

I can't believe the stupidity of some people on this thread, minimising this, blaming the guy's father, "oh, do take him in!" while there's an elderly person in the house, and OP works in medical care.

You lot need to read some of those articles about families in Italy having to keep their dead relative in the house until the army can come and collect them. Shocking but true.

Calledyoulastnight please read the post just five posts above yours. Please please understand.
This is like talking to jellyfish.

You're 62. That's worryingly close to the danger zone so I wouldn't have him over. He'll be ok.

He can come over 7 days after symptoms have stopped

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That link is for @flossyflorenceflounces. Apple news linking to sky news.

I would let him stay. In all likelihood they will have infected each other already

Yeah why not. OP could get infected too, & the elderly relative who's also living there. For maximum effect since OP works where ill and vulnerable people come in regularly, imagine the joy of them all possibly being infected too, and vice versa. One big happy melting pot. Oh, and don't forget about her colleagues...

FFS🙄

I'm hating this lockdown already. But if it's strengthed and lasts longer it will be the fault of unintelligent people who I guess are aware that of course we won't all die, but numbers of us will due to the entitled me me me it's all about me & what I want attitude that's glaringly prevalent now.

It beggars belief that someone who works in Healthcare will have someone possibly displaying symptoms living in her home, and then go off to work just like that. No doubt the advice her workplace are giving to colleagues and clients is that symptomatic people/those who've been in contact with possibly symptomatic people should stay away from the premises.

& there are some people who think those actions are absolutely fine.

@PinkiOcelot

What parts of lock down do you not understand?

You think it is quite okay for him to infect OP, who can then go on infect patients at the medical practice, leading to a number of patients in ICU.

Stupidity kills others.

To the posters saying he came come and stay after the 7 days are over.

NO HE CANNOT!!

Hit post instead of preview.

The advice issued on Monday:

Do not have visitors in your home

Do not invite or allow social visitors, such as other friends and family, to enter your home. If you want to speak to someone who is not a member of your household, use the phone or social media.

The longer people don't follow these rules for, the longer and stricter the lockdown is going to be.

For fuck sake get him to stay wherever the fuck he is for however long it takes for him to be ok

I’m sick of the stupidity of people at the moment, look at italy! They have tanks carrying dead bodies out of towns. There will be mass graves in many countries. The NHS is over run with patients and the uk is making a 4,000 bed temporary hospital.
Why does he think he is immune from the fucking rules

He had a cough. But he was out at work anyway?

Is he normally an irresponsible and frivolous little git?

I don't think that your DD's BF should be joining your household, even if he wasn't unwell. He does have somewhere to live, it's not like he's homeless. My understanding is that people are supposed to remain within their own households not chop and change to other households. DS and his GF normally spend the week stopping half at ours and half at hers. She went back home on Monday night after lockdown announcement. DS is asking if she can move back here next week. We've said no at the moment as everything seems to be clearly saying that there shouldn't be contact between people who don't live on same household, difficult as it is.

OP what I would suggest if your DD is concerned about her BF is that she moves back in with him, assuming I've read it correctly that they normally live in the student house together. As long as they realise that they must stay there for next 3 weeks.

@GrouchoMrx
Point out in my post where I said he should go to OP? I didn’t did I?!
I get exactly what lock down is actually thanks very much. Apparently the poor lads dad doesn’t though, having sent him back to uni!!

@PinkiOcelot

It is quite obvious you do not understand what lock down is or the dangers those infected with covid pose to others and why we need lock down to protect vulnerable people.

@GrouchoMrx
WTF are you talking about?! Have you been drinking or something because you’re not making any sense?
I understand lock down just fine thanks.
Nowhere in my posts have I said anything to say I don’t understand lick down, so DFOD!!

Charming as well as bright.

You could give him money to order a Morrison's box and a take away.

I take back my comment, I did not read the thread properly and didn’t realise the OP worked in a key role. I assumed (wrongly) that you were all staying within your home.