Or not? Friend wants me to go to supermarket with her?

[tanff]

My friend asked me if tomorrow I would go food shopping with her as she is scared.
She has bad anxiety and is terrified of this coronavirus.
I have enough shopping and plan to order one for two weeks from now.
I care for my 98 year old gran (who lives a 3 min walk and I see nobody )
I don't want to go to the supermarket just incase but if I don't go my friend won't be able to go alone.
I don't know what to do.

Nope. You're living with a vulnerable person so its not possible for you. Just tell her that.
It's also a non essential trip outside so you shouldn't be doing it anyway.

You can support her over phone or Skype as others have suggested but you cant go in person

Nah, fuck that, she's a drama lama. Byeee!

This may go on for a while, and even if you went this time it would be unrealistic to expect you to go with her every time when you have elderly family members to take care of. She's going to have to learn to cope with this situation just like everyone else. I know it's harsh, but it's also true.

i'd offer to add stuff she needs to the booked delivery slot,

she can pay you by bank tfr, and collect from your doorstep (no contact) at a pre-appointed time.

Wow - what a drama queen.
She wants you to get it too - if she's going to get it.
In other words - "If I'm going down, then I'm pulling you down with me."
Misery loves company.

Now might be a good time to bin this "friendship".

If I thought anyone wanted someone else to suffer too because they might be suffering I'd cut that person out of my life completely. No amount of anxiety excuses that, and if you really think she's thinking that way even knowing that your gran and dad are depending on you then there's your answer, OP.

"Her boyfriend doesn't want to risk it" - nor does my DP but he has to go out once a week to get us food or we won't have anything to eat. Nor does anyone else want to risk it but people are every day, NHS staff and the people who work in supermarkets etc.

Your friend and her boyfriend need to sort this out between them or not have food or money (or whatever she's going to the bank for).

Why should you put yourself at risk because her boyfriend doesn't want to risk himself getting it.

If she's terrified of catching the virus, she should be the first person to understand when you say no.
Also, not being funny but having another person there supporting her won't stop her from catching it, do you look like a vaccine??

My friend asked me if tomorrow I would go food shopping with her as she is scared.

One of the things the PM said was "if a friend asks you to see them, you say no". This is the same situation.

Your friend maybe anxious about catching this, but wants you to go? No way.

What to do is easy, you say to her no. It's not harsh, it's following what we have been asked/told (delete as appropriate) to do.

@tanff
*Do you think if I pop out there’s a chance I’ll catch it

I can’t believe I’m actually reading this! Have you been living under a stone OP? Don’t you watch the news/read newspapers/ look at social media? Words fail me I’m afraid, I don’t know how we will get through this pandemic while there is still so many ignorant people out there.
Sorry to be harsh OP but there is really no excuse for not knowing what the risks are.

Explain why you can’t go and tell her she can call you as she walks around the shop if that helps her.

People with genuine anxiety will struggle in isolation/distancing but we will hopefully see the attention seekers wheedled out as they won’t be manipulating people.
The word anxiety is so misused, worried or concerned does not mean you ‘have anxiety’

I think it's more her thinking "if I'm risking myself catching it,I want someone else to risk it with me"
If that’s the case then this has nothing to do with anxiety and everything to do with her being a selfish fucker.

OP this "friendship" is really strange - you seem to be so submissive to her and over anxious to placate her. Real friends don't act like this.
If it was the other way around she wouldn't do it for me.

Surely she will think of all the favours I've done for her lately (got her shopping last week and took her breakfast)
Ordered her clothes online (as I get ASOS free next day delivery )
So hopefully she will understand

Sounds so cringing

So sorry for your loss @TheGinGenie
Sad times. Makes it so much more real

OP - you can't go shopping with her - unfortunately it's against the government guidelines it's the new law so you'd be breaking the restrictions - that's all you have to tell her.