Aibu to go and get child so early

[Motherbearr]

Hi, I went to my mothers house with my baby. My baby was spending the night and my mother was smoking, I then asked if she’s smoking and my child’s here (my baby was upstairs with my little sister. My mother was downstairs with me wanting to smoke) she then said she’s going in the bathroom to smoke and she will change her T-shirt after. I’ve decided to ft her later on and she still had the same T-shirt on. I asked her about it to which she was really rude and said “stop watching me and watching what I’m doing and stop assuming” and then she said “I didn’t smoke but if it’s a problem come and get your child” it’s nearly 6am and I’m going to get my child seeing as she’s being really rude.

I wouldn't leave my child with the smoker. Never mind the rudeness. Go and get you baby op.

@HettySunshine thank u && yes will be the last time she has her x

What part of stay at home do you not understand? That means no grandparents, baby sitting etc.

Smoking is the least of your worries currently.

@teddyisahe look, read what’s in the text and answer or don’t answer at all. There’s a reason I had to bring her to my mums house so stop trying to be a smart mouth. Thanks

Never mind the smoking, what about the global pandemic that means no contact unless necessary?!

Please if your going to mention corona don’t comment at all and try be a smart mouth which is extremely annoying. Won’t be explaining anything to any one. Answer what I have asked or go away

Ah, cross post. Not smart, just a valid question.

@PotteringAlong yes and it was necessary which isn’t any of your business. If I wanted to write a corona thread I would have written one love

Well you can’t worry about your child too much, or you wouldn’t be subjecting them to unnecessary social contact when we’re in the midst of a pandemic. So what’s a little smoke going to do?

And yes I know that’s harsh, but thousands upon thousands of people are going to die because everyone has an extra special reason to go out etc.

I'd get your baby. The trust obviously isn't there, so you can't be sure she won't or hasn't already smoked near them.

She’s your mother. You must know she smokes. In a time of high stress, did you think she would stop just because she is baby sitting?
Anyway, you shouldn’t be visiting. Stay at home means you too

Bring her home. And stop going out.

@Motherbearr Did you mean to be so rude??? 🙄 🙄 🙄 🙄

Go and get your kid. It’s clear where you get your poor manners from Jesus.

Do you think the rudeness is genetic OP?

You both sound delightful. Go and get your baby and stop using family for childcare now. Stay at home.

yes go get your baby. don't use your mum for childcare again. she should maintain min 2metres distance anyway and you can't do that if looking after a baby.

She shouldn't have been baby sitting anyway.

You aren't special, the rules apply to you as well.

What possible reason could be so important that a) you disobeyed medical/ government advice and went out and b) left your baby in a house with a smoker ?

I would assume that OP was working nights.
Yes I would go and get your baby now.

Gosh people are cranky this early in the morning!

I'd be annoyed too OP - sounds like she's not being truthful with you. Who in their right mind would smoke around a child anyway, with all the information we have now about the dangers of secondhand smoke?

That would be the last time she looked after my baby.

stay at home, completley selfish.

I would assume that OP was working nights.

That's very kind of you, but based on her hostile responses to posters I would assume it was something totally inconsequential that she knew she would be flamed for, hence being cagey and ruder than her mother on here.

You're rude like your mother