My daughter is 2 and im also 30 weeks with my second. Husband worked this morning then got a call from him lunch time saying he was at his mums and could I bring our daughter to see her too. I don’t drive so I made the 25 minute walk.
About an hour into being there he pulls out a card which was obviously bought and written by his mum from my daughter and pretends he got it for me. Then he says sorry I didn’t get round to getting a present but he’ll cook when we get home and do all the clean up after. He cooked, then did the usual “pile everything in the sink and “soak” it for as long as possible before she gives up and does it herself” that he always does (he has actually only done the washing up about 3 times the whole time we’ve been together) so I just did it and got it out the way as I didn’t want to be standing there later on doing washing up when I’m tired. Almost immediately after I finished cleaning the kitchen he decides he’s going to bake a cake for himself, proceeds to cover the kitchen in batter, fills the sink up again and leaves it for me to clean up.
Fast forward to now, toddler is still awake after I’ve put her to bed 8 times, I’m dreading being up at 4am with a screaming child as I am every single morning and I’m knackered anyway as this pregnancy has been difficult (I’m huge and have had health issues). The whole time husband is having a lovely snooze on the sofa. Have tried waking him up to see if he’ll give me one night off as it’s Mother’s Day but I have now been told I’m lazy so have just got on with it. Currently upstairs having a cry in bed with toddler jumping on my head. This happens every single Mother’s Day/birthday/Valentine’s Day etc but I still get so upset and disappointed. I’m not materialistic or expecting a present but just a day off to relax would be nice? Why does my husband put himself first? I always make an effort for Father’s Day and he doesn’t lift a finger 365 days of the year apart from his actual job