To find it amusing the lengths some parents will go to in order to be apart from their kids?

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Just that really. My employer has given us permission to work from home to reduce the amount of people on site in order to reduce risk of contracting COVID-19.

However there are some parents in my office who are STILL coming to work just so they don't have to deal with their kids. I just find it wild.

Someone actually said today they couldn't care less about contracting the virus, they just don't want to be at home.

It makes me wonder what the point of having kids for some people is if they will go to such lengths to avoid spending time with them.

People or missing the point entirely. It’s going to be hard to work from home with your children, it’s going to be a nightmare for some and almost impossible. Your work is likely to suffer because of it, your children will suffer because of it ..... it’s going to be madness but you HAVE to do it as the country is in crisis. There is no choice. Sending your children to school unless there is absolutely no other option is madness. You have to keep your children at home no matter how difficult it may be, no matter how much your work will suffer because the country is in the middle of a PANDEMIC and sending them to school irresponsible in almost all cases unless your role is critical.

You have no idea what goes on at other people's homes.

I'm glad someone put up that note to the parents about the kids. Personally I feel sorry for the kids, I mean cooped up inside with some parents for months on end must be so wonderful because they sound like such delights! Having a frustrated, stressed parent everyday, they are going to pick up on that and know that you don't want them around.

How come it's fine on here to moan all you want about kids-even perfectly acceptable to say "I hate other peoples kids", but not acceptable to ever judge ANY parental behaviour? I mean imagine if I said "I love my parents but hate all other parents"-would that be acceptable?! And yet people can say that about kids, whilst usually saying that theirs are adorable perfect angels of course-but all that's changed now oh yes! They're adorable perfect angels whilst their someone elses problem 5 days a week.

I feel sorry for the kids and can only imagine their dread at being shut indoors for months on end with some parents, I'm sure they'd MUCH rather be at school.

Any other time I would agree that its definately not good for your sanity to be stuck talking to a chd day in and day out without adult interaction and am totally a supporter of parents working and going to work and having time away from their children (within reason).

But unfortunately now is not to time to try and go into work and spend less time with your child through any means possible.
Yes it will be shit, yes most parents will be pulling their hair out and praying for it to get back to normal as soon as possible, but I would hope most would accept that needs must, and to protect their families they have to suck it up and realise it's going to potentially be a very tough few months potentially.
Blows my mind some would be their children at risk purely to avoid the inconvenience, and would rather cause more stress to the system but also put key workers at risk by potentially adding more children to the school pool and therefore more chance of serious illness being I reduced anx therefore key workers having to take time off.

I'm adhd and autistic, I absolutely hate being stuck in the house I start to feel physically sick/headaches in the evening if I haven't left the house, but I have to suck it up, being stuck with my DH and DC all day sounds like torture but I will suck it up. My highlight of my life at the moment is going for a bike ride for a hour along the river when I have the time as it's relatively low risk and has no close physical contact, other then that I get to go shopping few times a week when needed for a friend who cant drive but has a little one and a few elderly neighbours who have had to self isolate. But it's tough really, I gotta accept mostly being stuck in the house. We gotta do what's best for not only our families but those who are at higher risk which we may unwittingly come into contact with and reduce the contact we have with others if at all possible.

No one said that the next few months would be fun, just that its necessary. And I think it really highlights have individualistic british culture really is.

Imagine if your terrier barked all day continuously, bounced around at top speed breaking things or doing dangerous stuff like spinning and falling against the french windows or glass fronted woodburner! And you’d told him 100x not to do that but he didn’t listen! So between trying to work you’re trying to stop him hurting himself and destroying the house! And dealing with ‘mummy mummy mummy play with me!’ WFH isn’t like a holiday where you can plan days out so they burn off energy!

Some kids are very noisy and hyperactive no matter what you do, some siblings fight constantly, and many don’t have gardens to play in (or the garden is so muddy they don’t want to use it or parents can’t face another lot of muddy boots to clean!)

I’m childfree. I sympathise with those having to work from home with their kids, as it must be disruptive and difficult. However, I do not sympathise with some of my co-workers who have shamed me for being childfree, who are now moaning that they’ve got to be at home with their kids.

YANBU, OP.

I'm disgusted by some parents on Mumsnet over the last few days who don't want to parent their own children, even at such a critical time.

Awful. I hope their kids remember.

Sidswife..it was your absolute glee at not wanting to be with your children all day that got to me. It's incredibly sad to be happy they are going to a place that actually will be far from safe from Coronavirus. Then your nativity shone through as you tried to trump everybody else about saving lives. As someone else said above "I hope they remember"
Someone once said to me, when you die, and your gravestone goes up...it never says "she did a good job," or what their job was. It says "Mother of xxxxx". That's the important thing in life. Your children. Remember that.

I have a 2.5 year old and an 8m old. I’m wfh next week. My productivity is going to be slim to none. Dh is still at work. So it’s me myself and I.

My work are understanding but there’s a level where this understanding will drop off.

I’m going to end up doing childcare during the work day and working at night time.

OP I’m with you, I don’t know why you’re getting such a hard time. These are not normal circumstances when we can joke about work being a holiday etc, right now everybody needs to do their bit and if you can work from home then you should be doing so, even if that means having to work around the kids. However, employers will have to be understanding of that fact. It’s a difficult situation but we find ourselves in a horrendous pandemic so things will be difficult.
My DH is a key worker, I am able to stay at home with the DC. I know it’s going to be hard keeping them entertained but if that’s what it takes to keep them and other people safe then so be it.

TabbyMumz I just wanted to let you know they do let support workers do CPR. As do volunteers. Many people have trained in CPR. If paramedics come and a civilian was doing good CPR they let them continue. You'd probably say carers don't keep people alive either but without them the people they look after wouldn't be safe, clean, fed, have the right meds etc. Everyone in the health or social care industry is stepping up above and beyond their role, whatever that role is.

Also advance searching someone to dig dirt is like cyber stalking them....super creepy.

@SidsWife thank you for all you are doing. Some people aren't cut out to be sahps. Some aren't cut out to do certain jobs. I didn't take your post to mean you never want to spend time with your child. Just that you were ill when you were a sahp. Others become ill from doing certain jobs. There's no shame in it.

Someone once said to me, when you die, and your gravestone goes up...it never says "she did a good job," or what their job was. It says "Mother of xxxxx". That's the important thing in life. Your children. Remember that. lol you can include your job title on your grave stone. I've been to many funerals through work and many have stated their job as well as their family.

Work places will have to cut some slack for parents working at home. I work for the government, not a key worker but 90% of our work can be done online. We have told anyone with children around they can work evenings / weekends if they need to, but we aren’t expecting them to do a full days work if they have very young children. We will just have to pull together to make it work and keep our business going. We may be asked to move onto other work depending what happens.

Ah, back seat parenting. Even more fun than back seat driving, especially at a time when every single person in the country is trying to find ways to reorganise everything they do in a way that means their lives can be safe and tolerable. Which for parents additionally means ensuring that their children's lives are also safe and tolerable. That's their children's lives, NB, not the lives of their pet bloody dogs.

People or missing the point entirely. It’s going to be hard to work from home with your children, it’s going to be a nightmare for some and almost impossible. Your work is likely to suffer because of it, your children will suffer because of it ..... it’s going to be madness but you HAVE to do it as the country is in crisis.

This. A million times.

WFH doesn't mean look after your kids and still be paid as if you've done a full days work. Maybe they realise with no childcare that they wouldn't actually be working effectively if they tried to do both?

WFH doesn't mean look after your kids and still be paid as if you've done a full days work.

Most people will be working into the night to make up what they can’t get done. It’s going to be very difficult.

I had a child tell me that he has to come in because "Daddy doesn't want to look after us".
He is a very bright boy. He understood that implication.

I work in a nursery and lots of children love it so much they dont want to go home!.
I'm going in to work to look after key worker children and I really hope parents who have to send their children in dont feel bad for doing so.
We are taking safety very seriously at the nursery and will follow all guidelines.
I think some on here are being over critical about parents wanting to send their children in.

I think some on here are being over critical about parents wanting to send their children in.

Really? Because if there are too many ‘exceptions’ and the schools are half full, it renders the entire exercise pointless.

Lots of parents are taking an economic hit to keep their children at home. They’re doing that in the expectation that it will make a difference and get us out of this situation sooner. They aren’t impressed with the cheeky fuckers compromising it for everyone.

I had a child tell me that he has to come in because "Daddy doesn't want to look after us".
He is a very bright boy. He understood that implication.
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That is so sad. I know a family who are the same, the Dad could he just doesnt want to.

A poster on here is part of a 1 keyworker, 1 not a keyworker couple and said she will be sending her daughter in. She said they could work around each other but she enjoyed the time alone with her partner going round the shops after dropping the child off at school Many couples with 2 keyworkers (like myself and my partner who are both frontline) will barely see each other as we're trying to reduce the amount of time the children are in school. And even then we feel guilty for potentially exposing our children/others.

I think the cheeky fucker parents will be the same people as the cheeky fucker panic buyers! Out for all they can get in a crisis.

We only have staff who are waiting on laptops to be in the office

That's a shitty reason to keep people coming in to the office.

My dh isn,t sending my son as he doesn,t want to care for him but because he struggles due to a disability. Is it fare for my 12 year old to be getting my ds meals? Don,t jusdge parents we don,t always know the whole story.