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To think that, if it was a naked woman

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CarolHasAnotherUTI · 20/03/2020 09:26

Pictured in a shopping trolley, with men sharing it saying 'time to panic buy', it wouldn't be okay.

So why is it ok for women to do that with a picture of a naked man?

I'm not going to share the photo, I'm sure many of you will have seen it on social media, but hopefully even if you haven't there enough info here to make a call.

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Fairyliz · 20/03/2020 09:28

Well you have made me want to see it now! Grin

Jespers · 20/03/2020 09:29

No idea what you’re on about. Not seen anything.

TooTrueToBeGood · 20/03/2020 09:38

No, I haven't seen it and almost certainly won't as I don't follow/friend the dim of wit on SM. I honestly don't get people who get upset by their SM newsfeed. You've chosen who can post on it ffs.

TreestumpsAndTrampolines · 20/03/2020 09:40

No idea what you're talking about but just to check, you know who created the image and it was a woman? Or are you just blaming women because it's a naked man? You know gay men exist right?

So why is it ok for women to do that with a picture of a naked man?

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CarolHasAnotherUTI · 20/03/2020 09:48

@toogoodtobetrue nice judgement call on something you don't know about!

Its being shared in groups that are relating to supporting each other to get through this pandemic that we find ourselves in. By people I don't know.

But yeah, blame my friends Confused

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CarolHasAnotherUTI · 20/03/2020 09:49

TreeStumps I'm blaming women because it's women I see sharing it and delighting in it.

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OlaEliza · 20/03/2020 09:52

At this moment in time, if I saw a naked man or woman in a trolley meme I'd probably think ha, then no more about it. it's a bit of a joke in very trying times. 🤷

Yogawoogie · 20/03/2020 09:52

Haven’t seen it but no, it’s not okay.

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AngelsSins · 20/03/2020 09:58

What are you talking about? You actually think if it was a picture of a woman no one would defend it? You’re deluded, and pretty ignorant of history and objectification if you think it’s the same anyway.

Is this really what you want to fret over at this point in time? Do you think it will earn you brownie points with men?

JasonBrun · 20/03/2020 10:01

YABVU not to post the photo.

JuanSheetIsPlenty · 20/03/2020 10:02

Possibly because of the entire history of human life wrt men buying women? No?

TooTrueToBeGood · 20/03/2020 10:03

@toogoodtobetrue nice judgement call on something you don't know about!

I am in lots of groups and yet I don't get peurile shite on my SM feed. So yes, I'm judging you. You're the one getting all bent out of shape by something you have total control over and then coming on here to share your outrage. Don't you have anything more important to get stressed about?

toothfairy73 · 20/03/2020 10:03

It's not ok. I hate sexual objectification of anyone

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 20/03/2020 10:04

I can't judge until I see the photo. Also, men have been objectifing women for decades.

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CarolHasAnotherUTI · 20/03/2020 10:05

@AngelsSins

Every single one of your points has a massive and false assumption attached to it.

Why is that?

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BelleharePenguin09 · 20/03/2020 10:06

No one here has seen this horrifying sight except for the OP.

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CarolHasAnotherUTI · 20/03/2020 10:06

all bent out of shape for asking a question?

You are placing a huge amount of emotion into this that isn't coming from me.

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AngelsSins · 20/03/2020 10:11

Every single one of your points has a massive and false assumption attached to it

Oh really?! Please do point out my false assumptions.

The assumption that people would defend a picture of a woman? Ok, well we have people who defend the ACTUAL REAL LIFE buying and selling of women in prostitution, so hardly a leap is it?

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CarolHasAnotherUTI · 20/03/2020 10:13

Also, men have been objectifing women for decades

Does that mean if its OK for one, it's OK for the other?

I don't subscribe to that lowest common denominator way of thinking, personality.

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CarolHasAnotherUTI · 20/03/2020 10:20

Please do point out my false assumptions

Okay

You actually think if it was a picture of a woman no one would defend it?
Where did I say that? I said it wouldn't be OK. That's not the same thing.

You’re deluded, and pretty ignorant of history and objectification if you think it’s the same anyway.
Again, I didn't say, suggest or even imply that it was the same. I'm aware that the history of objectification goes way back. I don't think the answer to it, however, is to do it right back.

Is this really what you want to fret over at this point in time?
Not fretting. Just curious as to people's opinions. I know there are more important things to be concerned about at the moment, but there is a whole board dedicated to that. This board is for other stuff.

Do you think it will earn you brownie points with men?
I mean, I can't even begin to understand why you think that is what I'm aiming at. This is mumsnet. A board primarily for mums. Yes, there are men here but why would I need to earn brownie pounds from them? I can't even begin to understand why you things that's a thing.

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CarolHasAnotherUTI · 20/03/2020 10:22

Apologies for the typo and the repetition.

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Splitsunrise · 20/03/2020 10:24

I don't get it.....

ShirleyPhallus · 20/03/2020 10:24

I can easily imagine this being shared by women (the ones who have sparkly wine glasses and “time for Prosecco!” signs in their kitchen) with a naked man so I don’t really see the issue as big as how are seeing it.

Distasteful and lacking in class = yes
Something to get bent out of shape and overly concerned about = no

AngelsSins · 20/03/2020 10:27

Where did I say that? I said it wouldn't be OK. That's not the same thing

So what do you mean by “it wouldn’t be ok”? You don’t think this is ok either so what’s the difference? Plenty of people would think it’s ok if it was a woman, hence why they would defend it.

I have no idea why you think this is what women need to worry about, do you think no matter how shitty men treat us we should always be sweet and polite and smiley? Or could it be that some women have been so brain washed into being fine with their partners wanking over abused women on the internet or getting lap dances in strip clubs, that they really don’t see the big deal with this?