AIBU Mother’s Day is cancelled this year!

[GinDrinker00]

AIBU with everything going on and times being very uncertain right now I just don’t have the money to blow on things like Mother’s Day.
I’ve got cards so both mums (mine and MIL) have something but MIL is expecting a sum of money (not even just £20 which is still a lot right now!) for Mother’s Day to go towards something she wants.
I’m not getting a present this year (my kids being healthy is the best present any mother could have right now!) neither is my mum and I feel like MIL shouldn’t really get anything either to make it fair.
AIBU? Considering I now have to plunge what money I do have on home schooling resources and I’m rather skint as it is! MIL will be rather annoyed though as she’s been expecting this for months!

That’s ridiculous. How about a card and a bunch of daffodils?

Not unreasonable at all. In the grand scheme of things it’s really not important especially right now. Your MIL will survive I’m sure.

It is a manufactured day.Just get them a card and flowers like pp said.

No can’t even do a bunch of daffodils. Had a letter from my GP I’m suppose to stay inside for 3 months as I’m at risk with my health and I’m the only one who drives and my local shop don’t do flowers. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Just send a card. That’s what I’m doing.

Why can't your DH take a bunch of daffodils? It's his mother. I don't do anything for my MIL on Mother's Day, that's DH's job!

Your MIL will just have to expect.

We are still celebrating as a family. We are getting together and having a huge family lunch. Only difference is we won't be in the same room as we are doing it via a messenger video call.

We have great technology so need to make use of it.
We dropped presents a couple of weeks ago to be on the safe, so that's sorted.

Mother’s Day I like Father’s Day does actually have religious roots.
But anyway

I’m getting my mum some flowers, chocolates and a card delivered. I’d usually go home for a long weekend but with everything going on I can’t really

Also, as a mum myself admittedly to children and not adults, I am flummoxed as to how Mother’s Day is a “big” present occasion. Surely it’s a card and flowers at the very most deal? Not cold hard cash of any amount.

Just send a card. Your MIL is not your mum anyway.

Even if it wasn’t for the virus, she’s cheeky for expecting a lump sum of money!

It’s going to be a very strange Mother’s Day this year. Didn’t always get to see her on Mother’s Day previously as we lived some distance away from her. She now lives down the road from us since DF died, but I am not going to see her as she is in her 80s and we are avoiding as much contact as possible

The religious roots of Mothers Day are about the Mother church though, not literal mothers. I’d tell her she’s got a card and you won’t be putting money aside for her. You could say when this is over, you’ll make her a nice meal perhaps?

My DCs have written my DM a lovely card, I've ordered her some flowers. That's normal Mother's Day here.

I am really hoping for some onions and tinned tomatoes this year.

(We even posted the card already! Very organised for us:

Expecting a sum of money ? That’s more like a milestone birthday . Surely Mother’s Day gifts are something like flowers, chocolates or a treat meal or visit out if you want to spend more money.

I always say no flowers from my DDs for Mother’s Day because the prices go up so much for the occasion - and at this time I would be happy with just an online message with some flower emojis 💐

It is his mother not yours. Tell him to sort it out.

Or, get your kids to make something. Then she can't complain. My MIL gets all sorts of ~crap~ made by my kids and she loves it.

It should be a card and flowers at the most but every year she expects money. She was cross we didn’t give her money for Christmas 😬 just don’t think it’s fair this year to treat her while the rest of us go without (especially as she can see DC but my own mum cannot.) but she’ll probably find that hard to understand.

Cash for Mother’s Day?! What the hell?
We’re self isolating as a family due to one of us having a cough so won’t be able to see my mum (who lives round the corner). I phoned the local florist and they’re going to deliver her a bunch of flowers. I won’t be getting anything bar some lovely homemade cards as none of us can leave the house to get anything.
I’m sad I won’t see my mum on Mother’s Day but it is what it is.

This post raises so many questions!

Why isn’t your DH dealing with this?

Who was giving her these big presents previously that she is expecting it now?

How big is big?

And again, why isn’t your DH dealing with this?

You are definitely fine to just send a card! Which is very lovely of you giving how much other stuff you have to deal with right now. Or nothing, as she isn’t your mother!

@thistimelastweek 😂 I’ll be happy for some bloody sanitary pads this year I can’t find them anywhere! 😡😳

We won’t see my mum or MIL until this is over as they have health concerns. We’re currently in self isolation so can’t post the cards we’ve got them. They’ll get a phone call with a promise that once this is over we’ll do something nice together.
For us this crisis has put some things into perspective one being it’s not about the money spent on someone but actually spending time with them. My mum and MIL agree with this and their concern is not a card / present but how the people they care about are doing

Might it be worth look at reusable pads?

I’ve been using them for nearly 2 years and I hate disposables now

Why are you being left with this? She's not your Mum - get your partner to have the conversation and tell her not to be so bloody selfish.

If she is genuinely that put out about not getting cash that you can't afford to give her, then he should be telling her that she won't be getting anything at all. Job done.