AIBU Mother’s Day is cancelled this year!

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AIBU with everything going on and times being very uncertain right now I just don’t have the money to blow on things like Mother’s Day.
I’ve got cards so both mums (mine and MIL) have something but MIL is expecting a sum of money (not even just £20 which is still a lot right now!) for Mother’s Day to go towards something she wants.
I’m not getting a present this year (my kids being healthy is the best present any mother could have right now!) neither is my mum and I feel like MIL shouldn’t really get anything either to make it fair.
AIBU? Considering I now have to plunge what money I do have on home schooling resources and I’m rather skint as it is! MIL will be rather annoyed though as she’s been expecting this for months!

@BiddyPop have a look at Zoom for online meetings - I use it for work, but there is a free version too.

Jeez...my Mil drives me bonkers sometimes, but she would never demand we give her a gift of any sort! We usually have her over for Sunday lunch on the day, but now that we're all staying home, she'll be happy if we facetime her. I don't understand people "needing" presents and fuss.

Anything over and above a card or phone call is a luxury. Your MIL is frankly self-centred and bonkers.

Thanks @FrOg

Ridiculous. My mum is getting a bunch of flowers from the supermarket and a card from me and DD. That's it. I'm now on SSP so money is incredibly tight now. But, she'd never expect anything. She'll be delighted with a token gift.

I don't want anything for mother's day, a card at a push. We need to save money and although mother's day is usually lovely, this year it's just about surviving.

2020 is cancelled this year! (for the foreseeable).

My 3yo has made me a card at Nursery, 7yo hasn't but says he's going to make one at the weekend for me. I've ordered myself some bath oils and wine!

I've got my mum one of them new mini-eggs tins because she goes mad for them every Easter. I plan to hide it in her garden later and drop her a text to let her know - bit of fun amongst the doom and gloom. I don't send cards anymore except teacher Thank you ones (with -probably cringey, big grateful messages inside!)

MIL is expecting a sum of money what a CF! can't believe she's actually thinking about this what with everything!

I sorry what? Your MIL expects cash from her son? Doesn’t it usually work the other way around? My mum would be ashamed to take cash from me, especially when there’s kids involved.

This makes me so angry!!!!
My mums nursing home has just gone into lockdown, I can't go and see her, I can't send her flowers because they can't be sanitised (I bet my card won't get to her either). She won't understand either way (has Alzheimer's) but how shit of your MiL to be so self absorbed.
Rant over sorry!

I said no card or flowers to my son. I live in flat and right now our rubbish is not being collected as much as before. It got me thinking the bin men may stop coming and flowers is just more stuff to get rid of! Cards - just think of poor postmen having to be out working!

God you need to grow a backbone. What is it with people who “expect” gifts, and even worse the wet lettuces who oblige them.

If my mother or MIL expected anything from me I’d first piss myself laughing and then wonder who the hell they thought they were, talking to another adult like that. I just don’t get how you would let this carry on beyond the first occasion of her demanding and you saying “no fucking way”.

Is she like this with birthdays and Christmas? Has already a gift in mind and tells you she wants money towards it? Taking all fun and spontaneity out of it? And how much is she after?? Im wondering did she say this quite a while ago and probably wouldn't expext it now given the circumstances?

She needs to give her head a wobble the silly woman.

Mother’s Day is about a bunch of flowers, maybe a box of chocolates but mostly love to your Mum/MIL, not cash!

Tell her, no get DH to tell her to get to fuck!

Wow I’m 60 and I have never heard of anyone giving money for mother’s day irrespective of how wealthy they are, virus or no virus.

Does she provide childcare and that's why she expects a show of gratitude on Mother's Day? Even so, get your husband to explain the cash situation and if she doesn't understand, that's her problem. Can you get the kids to make her a card/handmade present to show some effort? Same goes for your mum.

I don't think sending out a card and flowers from one of the many internet florists for delivery will bankrupt you unless things are really dire (if they are just do a watsapp call instead). My mum and mil don't expect anything but I have still got them both flowers and I bought my mum a bag. Dh will probably give mil some money to treat herself. We are still celebrating mother's day albeit at home though. We will watsapp call both mums though so they can see us and their grandkids. We are not in isolation but trying to keep socialising to a minimum. Mother's day coming around ie not exactly a surprise and I normally plan what to get both mums and buy in advance which I appreciate I am lucky to be able to do.

Really odd giving someone money on mothers day or her expecting it.
I've got my mum a card and I am re gifting her some dkny perfume (unopened) that someone gave me for my birthday because I am skint.
My children know what I want is for them to each make me a cup of tea! Its about being appreciated not big gifts

I can’t believe she is demanding a cash gift . A card is definitely sufficient.

The loo rolls were her present. They are worth their weight in gold currently!

Might it be worth look at reusable pads? I’ve been using them for nearly 2 years and I hate disposables now

I came on to say that too. Far comfier and one less thing to worry about buying!

I was meant to be spending Mother’s Day weekend with my parents and showing my mother how to crochet. I made up a whole starter pack made up for her with yarn, hook, an instruction book etc. Now the pack’s gone & I haven’t.

We’re both disappointed, we both know it’s the only sensible option.

My kids are teens and a toddler. The older three have expressed sadness that they won’t be able to get out to get any flowers or anything and I’ve told them already that having them home and healthy is all I could want. They have still insisted they have to ‘give’ me something so I’ve told them I would really like a cwtch and a cup of tea. They’re happy with that, and I’m more than. Little one is making a card with her daddy for me. Who are these people that don’t realise what is actually important?

I grabbed a bunch of tulips when I went to tesco I'm at work sunday, but she'll get them. I stuck them in the spare frdge in the garage seeing it's bare of food.

Who the fuck gets cash for mother's day?!

moonblood mine are 13 and 12 and are also disappointed. I'm not at all...i don't expect them to do anything ever! Given the circumstances, I told them that my presents could be tea cooked by them, and a cake baked for afters! I'm not hard to please

Money for Mothers' Day is RIDICULOUS. She can have a card and a bunch of daffodils like everyone else. And if she doesn't like it, she doesn't have to have that.

I'd say it's basically cancelled. I'm a mother and today is my birthday. Both are cancelled. Sad but it's our reality right now.