AIBU Mother’s Day is cancelled this year!

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AIBU with everything going on and times being very uncertain right now I just don’t have the money to blow on things like Mother’s Day.
I’ve got cards so both mums (mine and MIL) have something but MIL is expecting a sum of money (not even just £20 which is still a lot right now!) for Mother’s Day to go towards something she wants.
I’m not getting a present this year (my kids being healthy is the best present any mother could have right now!) neither is my mum and I feel like MIL shouldn’t really get anything either to make it fair.
AIBU? Considering I now have to plunge what money I do have on home schooling resources and I’m rather skint as it is! MIL will be rather annoyed though as she’s been expecting this for months!

It was fathers day in Italy yesterday ......DH survived with 5 words Happy Fathers Day Love you !!!

Please get your husband to sort it and do his own "wife work". Happy Mother's Day to you, I hope and your children stay healthy and happy. That is all any of us mothers want.

every year she expects money. She was cross we didn’t give her money for Christmas
Isn't she a peach? And what does your DH do about this?

Screw the greedy mare. Look after yourself. Your DH can send a card and I wouldn't bother but phone her on the day.

My mum was extremely put out when I forgot, once. Genuine mistake, I’m at home, don’t watch much TV and it simply passed me by until the day when my own kids surprised me. That oversight took a lot of sucking up to mend.
So I made sure this week that I ordered flowers and chocolates for delivery but they were so busy they won’t be delivered until Monday.
Texted my dad, asking him to let mum know first thing Sunday. Got a message back saying “oh, thanks but it really isn’t necessary. I suppose we’ll have to disinfect the packaging”
Very pleased they’re taking this all so seriously but honestly, can’t win sometimes, can you? 😁

Sent my mum gift last week as anticipated delivery issues and told my kids that I was cancelling it. They have more to worry about than spending cash they don’t have on things I don’t need. The family group chat is buzzing day and night and that means more than a bunch of flowers

I read this OP and I honestly can’t get my head around that these are adults and that this is how a grown assed woman (the mother expecting £20) behaves.

She sounds like a right bloody princess! That level of expectation is awful from anyone at any time.
Yanbu.
Let your husband deal with it.

She can expect all she likes, but that doesn't mean you actually comply, why would you, even in normal times? If she behaves like a spoilt child you treat her like a spoilt child and remind her that 'I want never gets'.

Your DH needs to take her a card and a £1 bunch of daffs if you can manage it and she can buy herself the thing she wants.

Expecting money for mother's day, I cant get over that! You wouldn't accept such rudeness from a child, so time to shut this down right now.

Even under normal circumstances she would be taking liberties!

Not your problem.. The world is a different place right now so everyone's going to have to accept change.

I take back what I said about flowers by the way. I’d prefer flours right now. Plain and self raising.

I’ve just sent both mum and MIL a bunch of flowers and a card through bloom & wild, they’ll be arriving tomorrow. Job done lol, I usually go round but obviously not this year

A phone call should be enough in these uncertain times

I have arranged flower deliveries for dm and mil but I’ve no idea whether they’ll arrive - everything is so up in the air.

They wouldn’t expect anything in the current circumstances anyway as they’re not CF’s unlike your mil, op. I hope the flowers do arrive and they get a lovely surprise.
Dd has also drawn some lovely pictures which I’ve put inside their cards and posted which I’m sure will mean more to them.

Your mother in law needs to realise there’s more important things going on in the world right now than her! She is being an arse and sounds selfish 😔 you mustn’t feel bad at all. Hope you have a lovely mother’s day 💐

Lol that pic is brilliant, perhaps I'll try making a bog roll bouquet for my dm

Mine always expects a lot, usually a meal out where my family and my brother's family are all expected to take her to one of her favourite restaurants, we all have young kids and it's just stressful trying to stop them being noisy / running around / actually getting them to even eat something. While DM and DF sit there enjoying their nice meal and wine

DS (DH really as DS is 5) gave me a bunch of tulips yesterday - DH said he wasn’t not sure if he’d be able to get any on Sunday or tomorrow. I’m not expecting anything else!

This year will be strange. Given our age and conditions DH and I are self isolating. Both our DC have said they will not be coming to see us on Sunday as they would be devastated if they unknowingly made us ill. Of course that is the right decision but the flowers and cards are not what I will miss, it is seeing them.

I think anyone worrying about the gifts this year has got their priorities a bit muddled.

Oh and she expects flowers from both me and my db as well, plus cards with mushy sentimental verses. I was told off one year for not getting that type of card!

I rather think that the title should be "AIBU that CF MIL sees Mothers Day as expensive gift opportunity" rather than Mothers Day cancelled,

We have sent MIL and my DM a card for Mothering Sunday, we'd usually give flowers also, like pp have said I'd really just love to see them but don't want to risk them getting ill, my DH and DC are making me a Mother's Day card so I will be grateful I have them well and with me also due baby 2 any day now... I really hope she doesn't get upset over money that's very sad!

@Glenthebattleostrich that is a great idea for a virtual family gathering!! I'm going to see if that will work in our family too.

the only thing that would make MIL semi reasonable is if she showers you and grandchildren with expensive gifts? Not that one should give solely in expectation of receiving - but YKWIM

I sent my mum a parcel for Mother's Day containing two loo rolls, a bar of soap, a bottle of hand sanitiser and a chocolate bunny
If only my DC were so thoughtful