AIBU Mother’s Day is cancelled this year!

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AIBU with everything going on and times being very uncertain right now I just don’t have the money to blow on things like Mother’s Day.
I’ve got cards so both mums (mine and MIL) have something but MIL is expecting a sum of money (not even just £20 which is still a lot right now!) for Mother’s Day to go towards something she wants.
I’m not getting a present this year (my kids being healthy is the best present any mother could have right now!) neither is my mum and I feel like MIL shouldn’t really get anything either to make it fair.
AIBU? Considering I now have to plunge what money I do have on home schooling resources and I’m rather skint as it is! MIL will be rather annoyed though as she’s been expecting this for months!

We’re in isolation so my mum has told me to text a picture of her card xD have arranged some spa vouchers via my sister

She is not your mother anyway!

Yes. Mother's Day won't be able to contribute as normal for most. She is being ridiculous

She sounds like the mother of all cfs

She is not your Mother. I wouldnt even bother buying her a card if thats her attitude

Put £10 in a card and say to buy herself something as a treat.

I am reusing a card received from my adult dd a few years ago as I keep them each year.

Our dd has SLD and Sunday is the last day we can see her as her supported living complex is in lockdown as from Monday so Mothers' Day will be extra precious this year. Sod all to do with cards and presents.

People like your MIL make my blood boil. DO NOT give her any money - selfish cow. 😡

I sent my mum a parcel for Mother's Day containing two loo rolls, a bar of soap, a bottle of hand sanitiser and a chocolate bunny 😂

She laughed and loved it. Your MIL is an arse.

You said she didn’t get money at Christmas, so do same again and start training her that money is now off the table. I’m happy if my kids just get me a card - under the circumstances this year, not even bothered about that

Send an online card - the sites often have little gifts you can add on.

Or get something nice sent from amazon. If she is bothered about being inside maybe some useful things (loo roll, vitamin tablets, nail files, soap... whatever!).

I bought a beautiful little flowering tree the other day to leave on MIL’s doorstep. I left it in the hall - it is now a twig in a pot as someone has managed to lob its head off. Oh well...

@soupDragon that’s brilliant. 😂 to be fair I gave MIL a 12 pack of loo roll only the other day so.. that can be counted as a present right? But you guys are right. She’s not my mum.. need to let DH sort this one even though he leaves everything down to me. 😬 I’ll be lucky to get a lie in this year. 😂

Mothers' Day isn't celebrated in our house. I told the kids when they were young not to waste their money on overpriced flowers or other crap. I don't need a day for them to tell me they love me. They tell me every day.

She can want all she likes. She can get cross and stamp her foot all she likes. Make it clear that all she'll get is a sore foot. She is acting like a spoilt bat. I am gobsmacked at her behaviour, she is a disgrace. Please answer why you're the one stressing about this instead of your husband though?
Please don't worry about her strop, we all have enough going on at the moment without her behaving like a spoilt 5 year old.

We have Persian new year as well!

A 12 pack? You clearly love her lots and she shouldn't be complaining. 😂

My mil is exactly the same. Many years ago when we were skint my father we gave us some money and I ended up giving it straight to her for her xmas present.

Never again.

Easter cancelled too by look of it. Yanbu. At this time it doesnt matter. Your mil lucky to get a posted card

Your MIL is being unreasonable.

It's my first Mother's Day. I'm absolutely gutted, but I know it can't be helped.

I would like a roast dinner, maybe some chocolates and a card but DH has probably forgot and because it's not about him he likely won't have thought ahead, he doesn't get his own mother a card so I'm fully prepared it'll be another regular day in isolation.

I sent my mum a card and some chocolates from funky pigeon. I'll call her, my sister still lives at home so she'll still have a nice day and I'm sure we'll make next years extra special.

I just got MIL a card from DH and one from my DS because I think she'd like that

Happy Nowruz @Lordfrontpaw
When was Mother’s Day ever about giving money? Very odd. I wouldn’t worry, anyone she moans to will tell her she’s a cf.

Tell the entitled old cow that she’s bloody lucky. My Mum hasn’t been able to celebrate Mothering Sunday for the last ten years because she died in 2009.

Ignore her and let your DH deal with her.

Seriously send a card and say that with the uncertainty at moment you can't do more. If you can't get out to get one get the kids to make one.

I have sorted my own mothers day this year as i know the kids will feel shit if they don't have owt to give me.

I could see dp was gearing up to do nothing using corona as an excuse. I already had a shop booked for Sunday morning so have added a couple of bits on there and picked a couple of small bits from amazon that I have have had my eye one but wouldn't ever buy for myself. Nothing massive one of them is a bar of soap for instance. But it is more so they don't see how crap DP is.

I'll get him to hand them out for wrapping along with some paper and pens to make cards.

I sorted my own mum out a small amazon delivery which she is instructed not to open till Sunday.

Money for Mother's Day? I never heard of that!!

Definitely your DH’s problem.

You don’t need to give anything and you know that so just don’t . Tell her you can’t afford it this year .
But you also don’t need to spend money on “home schooling resources” schools are putting stuff online and you must have pencils and paper or even just a note book ?