AIBU or is DH? A few small issues which seem to be adding up to a big deal

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Last night me and DH were just sitting down to dinner and he started smacking his lips together as he was eating. He does this regularly and knows it drives me insane so I gave him a look and he asked what, so I did it to him. He got up, took his dinner and stormed off to the other room. Shouting at me that I was kicking off because I was tired. He was the only one kicking off in my opinion. When I ask him to not eat like that, he always gets annoyed and says he just wants to enjoy his food.

I cleaned the kitchen sink this morning, walked away. Walk back less than 5minutes later and he has left a spoon in the sink (we have a dishwasher) and coffee residue all across the bottom of the sink. I sigh and say I’d just cleaned it.

DD had a helium balloon which was almost deflated. DH was taking it to the bin, inhaled the helium and started talking to DD in the high voice. I said not the best thing to be teaching a 2 year old. I know we’ve had the exact same conversation before and he acknowledged I had a point that time. This time, apparently I’m just complaining about absolutely everything to piss him off.

Go to the bathroom and he has left an empty toilet roll on the holder and not changed it. So again I say, oh I’ll change the toilet roll shall I. This has never been an issue before, but he did it the other day as well and I didn’t say anything as it could’ve been an accident.

So IABU and shouldn’t say anything about these things or IANBU and DH is being a giant man child!

You sound deeply resentful.

I'd guess there is something deeper going on here.

If he irritates you that much you're reacting this way you should seriously sit down and talk.

I can't believe all the apologists on this thread. The poor menz who has to put up with a nagging wife..

ffs there would be no need to nag if he didn't act like a lazy arse who doesn't give a shit about the extra work he creates for someone else.

Do all the cool wives now run around behind their husbands picking up after them, and never saying a word besides a tinkly laugh and an acceptance that all the small things don't matter?

The disrespect, inequality and laziness does matter. It is fundamental to a healthy relationship.

He left a tea spoon in the sink, , , you didnt put your shoes on the shoe rack! Jesus!

Do people really argue over these things?

Either you are both the most anal retentive people on the plant with huge sticks up your gums or something is seriously wrong in your marriage
Why else would you argue over such minuscule things.

God forbid you ever have real problems

They’re all really minor issues. You’re either knackered and struggling mentally or you absolutely hate him and should divorce him.

I can't believe all the apologists on this thread. The poor menz who has to put up with a nagging wife

Yeah but she’s whinging about him leaving one spoon in the sink. He didn’t put it on the worktop, he put it in the sink where it belongs. She’s also whinging about him ‘smacking his lips together’ when he eats, people really notice or care about these things?

If OP was whining about him never lifting a finger around the house then people would have more sympathy.

@isthistrueor except they have a dishwasher so the tea spoon belonged there.

If you think he was going to wash the teaspoon or put it in the dishwasher then you are very naive. He dumped the teaspoon for OP to sort.

Usual Stepford Wives out in force.

Arg, it's not the teaspoon, it's the train of mess around it in the newly cleaned sink!