I have or had a friend for a few years. She lives around 45 minutes to one hour drive from me so we mostly talked on the phone or texted. We were there for each other during difficult times and would have great chats. Had a few friends in common so would occasionally do things in a group although I wouldn’t actually see her that often. She does have some issues, like most people do, including myself. Getting wound up about things and stressing and mental health issues. Sometimes it would annoy me a bit when I had so much on my plate to get through everyday and she would complain about having so much to do when at most it was a few errands for herself and some cleaning of her own house which most of the time wouldn’t get done. I didn’t really judge though because everyone has their own stuff. Just mentioning that because it was sometimes quite annoying to hear someone complaining about so much to do and money issues when they were getting almost the same amount of money for doing absolutely nothing. Anyway it was my birthday a while ago and she said she’d come to dinner so that day I messaged twice to check and didn’t get a reply back till afternoon saying sorry she wasn’t coming. I was pretty annoyed because if I had said I would most likely be coming to something I would let someone know as soon as I decided not to. Since then I haven’t been replying to her much which I know is a bit rude but I just didn’t have the energy to get into things with her. There have been many times that she hasn’t replied to me for days in the past when she’s had her own stuff going on, and usually I would always reply to her when I had a free moment. When I had my baby she didn’t visit till he was a month when she could have come earlier if she’d wanted. She didn’t bring a present because she said she was short on money but we went out for lunch to a restaurant and she said I’ll pay for you as a present. That was really nice of her but again from my own point of view I would always bring a little present to a baby from me. It’s not about money at all but thoughtfulness. I would have preferred some small little toy for the baby. Another time my mum was going to be going near her house and for some reason she didn’t get back to my mum to let her know if she could drop in to say hello. It was really rude. Basically everything came to a head today and she was really insisting on knowing what was wrong. I told her my issues in the nicest way I could and she sent me some really horrible messages. I blocked her number because they were upsetting but we are in a group chat on messenger with two other friends so not sure if I should block her there too. Don’t want to cause drama and don’t want to isolate her from others if she’s feeling bad and make them choose sides. Who is being unreasonable? Sorry this is so long