to think that funeral video is a little bit too much?

[FearlessSwiftie]

My best friend's grandma had passed away the other day and the funeral is tomorrow. Among other things my friend ordered a special funeral video with her grandmother photos and some videos from family archive. There also will be a song by Leonard Cohen and my friend says the video will be played while people would be saying their farewell to her grandma. I don't mean to sound petty but it seems to be too much to my mind. A VIDEO at the funeral! I can't even imagine it, but I'm not going to tell my friend that, this video idea makes her happy. AIBU?

I’ve been to two or three funerals that played slideshows of images, or videos. I didn’t think it was that unusual!

Yes you are. Sounds like a lovely way to say goodbye to a loved one.

You’re being completely unreasonable. It’s a version of having a photo of the person next to the coffin. I think it’s a lovely idea.

Why does this bother you? My uncle died last year and at the wake they had a video montage of pics/videos of him throughout his life and it was beautiful.
Lots of memories with loved ones shown, not one person thought it was inappropriate, everyone thought it was a lovely touch seeing him in his younger years right through life and also images of them with him.
I'm failing to see your problem

There is usually music and photos at funerals. A video is just a different way of doing this. So I think yabu. I think it's nice.

Sounds like a beautiful idea to me. Remembering them as they were. I don’t know why you think it’s so awful?

We had one at my nans it was a nice way to make conversation after

Yabu. We had a slideshow of photos at my daughter’s funeral. Lots of people commented on what a nice idea it was.

It’s not “too much”, it’s quite common now, and what if it was? Your friend has been bereaved and you’re on a forum slagging her off

It's very common these days to have a visual tribute. I think it can be nice to see photos during the reflection music, but find them distracting if played throughout the service.
Most crematorium also have the facility to record the whole service so that people can watch via webcast either life or at a later time, and this can also be given to the family on usb to keep. I imagine there will be more of these happening in the coming weeks

Like in Love Actually? Happened at my best friend’s dads memorial and was lovely. If anything there were a few photos in there with fond memories that made people smile (or even giggle) through their tears. I hate tacky stuff but really wouldn’t class this in with that (and even if it was tacky, YABU - it’s their grief)

Never seen Love Actually Op?

I think it's rather lovely.

The funeral with a recording of the dead person singing (Elvis) was rather unsettling though.

YABVVVU. What is it to you? People grieve how they want. Someone they love has died, and you want to have an opinion on what they can can cannot do at their funeral? That’s how they want to remember her. Someone has died, and you’re being judgemental about how they grieve. Jesus Christ.

A funeral should represent the person you are remembering I think it is a great idea what on earth do you object to? I hate funerals that are cut and paste and nothing at all to do with the person. Funerals should be more individual.

What’s horrid post.

That’s the norm in funerals I’ve been to for YEARS in Australia, how else would you do them? I find it weird that you think it’s weird!

I think it’s strange that you think it is over the top. We did this at my dad’s funeral three weeks ago and it was beautiful. Perhaps you might try opening your mind a little.

I'm guessing you haven't been to many funerals, OP!

It might help to think of it as a collection of images of the deceased, rather than the more usual one, big smiley picture more often seen.

It sounds worse than it actually is, though the commercial aspect of it is a tad grim!

That’s an absolutely lovely idea

YABU,. I thought you were going to say someone would be videoing the funeral itself like a wedding photographer.

Videos and photographs to remind everyone of happy times before they say goodbye is a lovely idea. I wish my sister and I had had time (and headspace) to do that for our DF.

Not unusual at all these days,I've been to 3 funerals with videos/slideshows.

I thought you were going to say someone would be videoing the funeral itself like a wedding photographer. That was my frst thought too... and that would be intrusive!

Sounds like a lovely tribute for the lady.

YABU. Crematoriums are set up with screens for exactly this purpose because it is a completely normal thing to do to remember someone and celebrate their life.

Don't be so nasty.