To feel pissed off with tailgating drivers!

[Whenisithometime]

Hi,

I’ve never been a person who goes above the speed limits when driving, obviously I’ve had a few moments were I’ve unintentionally gone over without realising but I’m not an intentional and persistent speeder.

Anyway, nearly everyday, I’m tailgated. More so in 30mph zones. I can’t stand it. I just can’t Understand why they feel I’m not going fast enough if I’m driving right at 30 in a 30. It really annoys me so much.

I try not to allow it to intimidate me but it really does. On my way home from work I was doing 55 on a 60mph road and was tailgated the whole way. When I got to the end of the road, I had to stop because it was a junction, and I looked in my mirror and I saw the driver staring at me and he flapped his arms up in the air as if I had been too slow which obviously I wasn’t. I got pissed off and pulled the fingers at him. He then flashed his lights at me (aggressively)

Just needed a rant I guess!

As i said he was wrong to tailgate.

@Whenisithometime. It’s fashionable to dart about in the car - even in big SUV’s. And it’s ‘cool’ to be annoyed at anything other than rushing about. Sad that people don’t look so cool or fashionable lieing on the side of the road, or in a hospital bed.

@BuzzShitbagBobbly you’re right, nobody has directly said I’m being unreasonable but it is being implied. You don’t actually have to say it to mean it.

By saying I’m over cautious and that there is a mythical cyclist on the other side of the bend is basically saying that I’m being silly and that I over react at every single thing, it’s not.

Everyone should slow down at a bend. The road is 60. Doesn’t mean you need to drive at 60 at a bend. But have a lovely evening as well.

I'm sorry OP, but you sound like an absolute Sunday driver! Speed up or pull over 👍🏻

@usersouthcoast oh really do I? I actually think I sound like one of the very few sensible drivers there are on the roads! How can you say I’m a Sunday driver because I don’t go right at the speed limit when it’s not safe and that I take the bends slowly? Jog on

I'll jog on.... faster than you will!!

Bore off and enjoy your 70th

Oh good. Another thread where people can trot out the sanctimonious, “it’s a limit not a target..

Whoa my user names ears are burning here !

Tail gaters on the motorway piss me off big time . I was on the M6/M1/M25 last week and 99.9% were way over the speed limit (which I think should be revisted )

There was a driver in the left lane pootling along at 55mph ( I did think Seriously ) but didn't aggrevate them.
Its when the right hand lane has cars rocketing along at 90mph+ with barely a metre space and the car at the back intimidating .So bloody dangerous

@usersouthcoast maybe don’t respond to my thread if it annoys you. Oh don’t be too fast, you might crash your car!

@70

@70isaLimitNotaTarget haha, love the username!

Yeah, I absolutely don’t see why some people are having a go at me because I try my best to be safe without being over cautious. If I was over cautious I’d go way slower.

It just proves my point that there really are some dangerous drivers in our roads

I won't, because I can drive.

Don't post in AIBU if you don't want people to disagree with you in future. Now go and get your horlicks and calm yourself down xxx

@usersouthcoast that’s debatable considering you don’t know how to drive safely.

Actually my AIBU was about getting annoyed with tailgaters, not my driving standards.

Yes, I’m perfectly calm. Sitting watching eastenders with DH and the dog with a lovely mug of coffee! Bliss! Xx

Yeah.... literally could have pictured that Karen. Ahhh bless.

If it’s happening persistently then you probably are driving noticeably slower than everybody else. No need for tailgating though obviously, everyone else should just go around you.

@usersouthcoast a lovely mug of coffee after a day at work is just the cure!

@Ronnie27 no I’m not. I pay attention my speedometer frequently and I’m not too slow. So it’s just impatient bastards that shouldn’t be on the road

Your quite blatantly not perfectly calm OP...

OP you've made it very clear you don't think you're being unreasonable and you're not willing to accept that you might be. I even tried to be lighthearted with you and you still decided to be incredibly defensive.

If you get this frustrated by strangers on the internet disagreeing with you I struggle to accept that you handle tailgaters well.

of course people decide whether a road is 60mph or not

No they don't. The default is 60 and they decide to deviate from that, eg making it 40 or 50. Most country lanes are nominally 60 but you couldn't reasonably do more than about 35!

@GiveHerHellFromUs darling, how am I being unreasonable by being safe? I handle tailgaters perfectly well. They annoy me. But I get on with it. It’s them causing safety issues. Not me. Can’t believe you think driving at a safe speed is unreasonable. We will have to agree to disagree.

I had the opposite to the OP the other day, I was following someone in the dark who was going quite slowly but I was happy to sit behind and follow them. It was a 60 limit road and they were doing 50. I was not tail gating.

But they decided they didn't want me behind them and slowed down and tried to get me to go round them. I didn't want to, it was really annoying. In the end they got the message after doing about 40 and sped up again.

@Whenisithometime darling, we've discussed this. Being over cautious makes you feel safe, but not other drivers. I'm not telling you to speed, I'm telling you to learn to drive competently and you're certain that you do - you don't.

You've said you're constantly getting tailgated and there is one common denominator.

Years ago my friend was on a driving lesson. She was doing 35 in a 40 zone. The instructor told her that if she went below 37 in 40 zone on her test she would fail.

@cologne4711 that sounds ridiculously annoying and unsafe - especially in the dark if you can't really see them gesturing etc!

So laughing at the 'windowspray' person on page one - another idiot who doesn't know how to adjust their sprays!

Look, if you pride yourself on being a good driver, do what I do - if someone is tailgating, let them past. Pull in, indicate left, wave them through. Or just slow on a straight and wave them through. It's the polite thing to do, it stops them being frustrated and you being stressed.

Why do I get the impression you are one of those who has a whole queue of traffic behind them?