AIBU to be annoyed with SIL?

[hallomother]

I realised recently I had accumulated a lot of clubcard points. Because of all the panic buying I thought I'd share them around a bit and offer some online shops to members of the family who might need a bit extra.
I offered a shop to SIL and she accepted - I've just finalised everything and seen that she's used the shop for four bottles of champagne, some tea towels and a bedding set.
I'm a bit because everyone else has used theirs to get some tins etc in, but also feel like I can't say anything because it's up to her what she spends it on!
But now I feel guilty as I feel like I should have just ordered a load of stuff for a food bank instead!

AIBU to be irritated by this?

I also agree about mumsnetters being obtuse. I sometimes don't know if it's perhaps comprehension issues that makes them take a completely different meaning from what has been said or if they are just naturally argumentative people who would be too embarrassed to pick arguments in real life so jump on an anonymous forum to do it.

You offered charity she didn’t need it. Beggars can , quite rightly, be choosy.

@MiddleClassProblem that’s ace!

I know! It popped up and was so apt 😂

I’m going to be like this with red wine and Easter eggs

I was going to stock up on gin, chocolate and AAA batteries

🤣🤣🤣

My sister would have done this. I loaned her some money once and it was due to be paid back. She said if she paid me back should would be able to afford to pay her mortgage so I let her have another 9 months and she bought a brand new car.

She told me I was jealous when I challenged her on it.

@ScrumptiousBears but your sister misled you.

The sil maybe hard up and maybe has a moan. But at not point was the anything to pay back or agreed it was for something in particular.

I am skint. But I manage to buy food and we have everything we needs. Just not much left over.

Doesnt mean that if someone give me a gift, I have to only spend it on essentially I dont actually need

I once lent a hard up friend £20 as she was struggling and asked for it... she spent it on Domino's and felt tip pens!

I figured she needed cheering up.

In the OPs instance I think there has been a misunderstanding about what the points were for. And as someone else pointed out, is this type of budgeting why she is hard up?

You gave it to her, it was hers to spend.

TBH seems bonkers to basically pay for other people's groceries. Have you got a saviour complex OP?

Agree that hard up means different things to different people, I’ve got a friend whose idea of being hard up is that she can only afford to go abroad on an all inclusive holiday in September rather than July!

I'm also wondering how many clubcard points you had!?

It doesn't matter how many point she had.
Obut what is strange is the op incessant it was only for a few bits.

I think you could buy a lot of beans for the same amount as four champagne bottles...