AIBU to be annoyed with SIL?

[hallomother]

I realised recently I had accumulated a lot of clubcard points. Because of all the panic buying I thought I'd share them around a bit and offer some online shops to members of the family who might need a bit extra.
I offered a shop to SIL and she accepted - I've just finalised everything and seen that she's used the shop for four bottles of champagne, some tea towels and a bedding set.
I'm a bit because everyone else has used theirs to get some tins etc in, but also feel like I can't say anything because it's up to her what she spends it on!
But now I feel guilty as I feel like I should have just ordered a load of stuff for a food bank instead!

AIBU to be irritated by this?

Or you could’ve just said “I’ve got some beans and loo roll for you, shall I drop them round so your neighbours can see me performing charity on you.”

New bedding and champagne hmmm, what exactly has she got planned !!!! Maybe she's used the vouchers for a "treat" 😉 . You not tempted to ask ?

Do you not use them for the clubcard rewards? We have used them for days out, merlin theme park passes, meals out, cinema and even a holiday in the UK! Don't use them for food unless you need to

I honestly do not get it at all.

Why have u given them your points?

Yeah, her and your bruv are having a WILD night in with loads of sex

Unless you said you told her it was for essentially only yabu.

You offered to treat them. So she picked treats. .

Its shitty to offer something, then add stipulations to it, after.

You offered her some free shopping, you can’t stipulate what she buys.

Agree with others, SIL and your brother may well be planning a big night in. Watch out for the big announcement of a new baby in the future?

You’re a mug so she treated you like one.

You’re a mug so she treated you like one.

Hoe did she treat her like one?

how

Absolutely no clue why you gave your points to other people 🤷🏻‍♀️

How did you word it OP? Did you say it was to buy essentials? I think this is probably just a misunderstanding rather than her being cheeky.

Simple - just remove them from the shop

You’re a mug so she treated you like one

Being kind isn't being a mug

Gifts shouldn't come with conditions. That's manipulative. She's probably stockpiled already.

I think yabu. You don't know why she's ordered those items, and maybe she's not panicking about tins. It was a lovely thing to do for people . Just be glad she's happy enough for champagne and "sleeping" on clean sheets.

How much did dou give her?

4 bottles of champagne and bedding would equal a hell of a lot of "essentials"

YABU. You offered the points or whatever to her, so if that's what she wants to get she can get it!

So you offered her an online shop and she ordered the things she liked. And now you're not happy because the things she ordered didn't meet your expectations. Are you usually so controlling? Unless you actually specified it was for essentials only, then yes, YABU (and I would counter that in any emergency, luxury's will lift the spirits).

Maybe she’s pissed that you didn’t ask your own Brother to spend the points on a food family shop 😉 why did you give the points to the female of the relationship to buy boring essential stuff, why didn’t you give the shopping job to your Brother (the male)?

I don’t blame her for getting bubbly 😂🤷‍♀️

I think if someone offered me free points, I would probably spend them on similar luxury items. Because I can buy my own toilet rolls and tinned food and don't need someone to do it for me, so an offer like that would be used for something I wouldn't usually buy myself.

If this was my SIL it would make me laugh, but then we get on but it doesn't seem that you like yours.

Sounds like a misunderstanding.

It was a nice gesture but why give away your points they last about 2 years