to think it’s rude to change nappies in front of guests?

[ChloeAdams120]

Hi all,

Went to a friends house today and my daughter needed her nappy changed. I asked her where should I go change her expecting her to say bathroom or her daughters room. She said just change her on the floor. I was a bit taken back and thought it was unfair on everyone else in the room. Thoughts?

I wouldn't change my baby on the floor, for starters. It's demeaning, cold and uncomfortable.

Yes, you're totally right - horrible to change a baby in front of guests. Of course privacy required. Wtf.

I agree with all those that would use the bathroom to do bum changes, I actually do this in my own house

Oh @pentium85 I asked a question of the OP and I absolutely understand her response.
Toilet training is very hard work, and as I’ve done it with 4 of my own and many other charges you don’t need to preach at me.
There’s a bit of a ‘sweet spot’ with the whole process and if you miss it it can drag on for far too long.

@timetospare

Absolutely there is a sweet spot, but it’s also said that waiting that bit longer means it can actually take less time to train. And either way, I’m sure OP is aware of this so didnt need to be questioned as to why she was parenting the way she is

Hmmm well it's been a few years now for me OP but I wouldn't mind where you did it... unless I was eating.... as long as you didn't leave poo on my house....and left the nappy bag outside in the bin. I also would want you to wash your hands.

To the people being judgey about the age of the child - please fuck off 🖕

It's better to nappy train later imo. Makes the whole process way faster.

Thank you @MotherOfAllNameChanges

I wouldn’t ask a guest to leave the room. There isn’t really anywhere else to go in our house either, the bathroom wouldn’t be suitable, couldn’t even fit a changing mat in there. Our changing mat is in the living room. As long as it’s not the kitchen or where people are eating I don’t see the problem.

mamatobabybears
if a child is ever self-conscious about nappies, then they are potty trained...

I wouldn't change my baby on the floor, for starters. It's demeaning, cold and uncomfortable.

some posters are bonkers. Unless you have a newborn, where else do you change a nappy? No way would is it remotely safe to use a changing table past a certain age. And parents have changing mat.... that's exactly what they are for.

My friends changing mat used to be in her kitchen, I found that a bit gross but now she doesn't use one and so we just change our babies on the floor in the living room when I'm there. If there was an explosion of poo I'd take my baby to the bathroom but that's it. I'm the same at mine, if we're in the living room and the nappies are in there too I change in there, after baths she's changed in the bedroom and before baths I take the nappy off in the bathroom. I'm a little desensitised to poo in general though as I work in a nursery so I'm constantly changing nappies and taking children to the toilet.
I think if you felt awkward you should have insisted on using the bathroom, and if you have guests over and they need to change a nappy you can say where to go to do it. And don't worry about the potty training, there's still time to try again and when she's ready you'll know and it'll be easier than trying to do it early and ending up with accidents constantly through out the day (as I've had to deal with today 😐)

Really @BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou? You don't have a metre by 50 cm of floor space in your bathroom? How the hell do you manage to fit a sink and shower in there?

There is a toilet, a sink on a unit and a bath in there. Resulting floor space is not big enough for an adult to kneel next to a baby let alone a toddler!

Is it just me but I find changing baby on the bathroom floor gross, I mean my own bathroom floor, I would know how clean it is, but someone else's bathroom floor, no way. I would and have gone and changed baby in the hallway so away from others, not because they'd have a problem, but I feel comfortable changing nappies away from others

can't the adult kneel in the hall with the door open? And surely if you have a child in nappies, you take a changing mat? So there's no laying them on floors that might be dirty.

Shit belongs in bathrooms and hands really need washing after changing a shitty nappy

I wouldn't change my baby on the floor, for starters. It's demeaning
Jesus

at that age they ought to be using the potty/toilet really

🙄

Mine were fully out of nappies by then

Congratulations. How superior your parenting is. Have another

your child must've been mortified everyone knew!

I’ve never ever known a 2.5 year old who would care about this. I’d be really concerned if a child was mortified as they’re obviously receiving some strange messages from somewhere.

That's GRIM. Some people lose all sense of what's acceptable.

I'd feel uncomfortable in front of certain people but not others.

I wouldn't change my baby on the floor, for starters. It's demeaning, cold and uncomfortable

You must have a wonderfully easy child! DS was an exceptionally early roller who refused to stay still from more or less the beginning. Nothing was safe. The floor was easier. As soon as he was pulling up at 7 months he stood for changes. Floor also much safer!

I'm a bit confused how it's beyond comprehension that you just walk to another room to wash hands after changing a nappy

op, next time just ask “ where’s the loo”. And then take her there. Asking “where can I change her” is very different, and a lot of people will respond with “ oh you can do it here”.

I'd want to give a two year old some privacy. Also, while there's nothing wrong with her being in nappies, other two year old children might comment on it if they are out of nappies.

I couldn't care less, it's a baby, they crab their nappies and med them changing. Just get on with it and stop faffing as to where and who might get their knickers in a twist. Not like its any great surprise.
I mean yes if it's a poo and folk are eating but other than that get a grip.......

Rather amused by comments saying it's easier the older they are! Everyone I know how potty trained later on had a horrible stressful time, went on for about a week - if not more! I did it in the 'sweet spot' I suppose, and the longest was 3 days accident-free during the day and was super chilled for everyone involved. My children wouldn't of soiled themselves, but of course if a child has an accident they'll be mortified, like I said mine were past nappies by then but I imagine that applies to any 2.5 year old who has just had their soiling displayed, hardly a strange message - pretty normal reaction.

@QuixoticQuokka

That’s the thing we are all good friends but as she is 2.5 it’s not like she is a newborn anymore and you can change them anywhere I would have preferred some privacy for her. I guess I will know next time how to address the conversation.